Sex in the west... Do bisexuals have better gaydar?

So before I continue with the stories of my sexual exploits since moving out west, I wanted to just write down my thoughts about "gaydar" and who has the best gaydar. I know my previous posts seem like the start of 2 different stories, but I'm just writing about my sexual exploits in chronological order. I had hooked up with my roomate first, and the last post is just introducing Mr. Freaky who comes next in the list of people I've hooked up.

I just wanted to write down my thoughts about gaydar. In my opinion their is such thing as Gaydar, now I don't know if it's just being observant of signals, or sensing certain "vibes" people give off, or if it's some kind of instinct but I can usually tell if someone is gay usually within a few minutes of meeting them. A lot of straight people I find have no real gaydar. They rely on stereotypes and use them to judge if someone is gay or not. Gay men often put out little hints or signals that they can often pick up on. Bisexuals on the other hand, (this coming from a lively discussion with 3 bi's s have talked about it and we can not only pick up on these gay singnals but seem to be able to also sense straight people who are curious or have a bit of a gay side to them, albeit not that obvious. I myself have fooled around with a few straight guys who i'm sure no one would think twice about their heterosexuality. Some of my friends have confided me in to fooling around with football players and other jocks. But some of my gay friends have some pretty bad "gaydar" when it comes to straight people whom they think would fool around. I wish they would actually do a real scientific study on this to prove if some people had Gaydar, but it would be impossible to prove I guess. Just to many factors, and I mean let's face it even defining Gay, straight or bi could be a problem, because it does not mean the same thing for everyone.

I don't know why it is, but it just seems to me that bisexuals are just better on picking up on these "vibes", maybe being attracted to both sexes give us a unique perspective. Or maybe it's just that fooling around with a bisexual seems less threatening to their sexuality than fooling around with a actual gay person. Anyways thats just my opinion on the subject, whats yours? I'm always curious to hear other people's views on this.

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I never really gave much thought to the gaydar thing but you've made me think about it. There are several men and two women at my job, all married with children, whom I think have some serious closet same sex attractions and curiousities going on inside of their heads. Personally, I'm not attracted the stereotypical gay person. I like those that make you think; that click my gaydar on so to speak.

The vibes that I use to size people up are body language, word usage, small talk, sense of humor, and overall social interaction with one individual. It's harder to detect when watching people in a group, but on a 1-on-1 basis, I tend to see those gay characteristics a lot clearer. A study would be nice to see what's really up with gaydar. Too bad Kinsey's not around anymore.
 
It is hard for me also. This guy I am totally attracted to makes a move then pulls away. One day we on the path to start a relationship and meet his kids, his family, taking vacations. The next day he seem like his thoughts and feeling for me in nonexistence. I decided to leave and cut my loses then he stopped by at night with coffee to talk. He promised me to change. I need help with this guy. I guess my gayday is really broken. However, he has stressed to me when we go on vacation he will be everything I needed and wants.


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You have really given me something to think about. Some times take a little longer than others but I usually can pick up on if someone is gay, bi, or just curious. I have always had a habit of reading and analyzing people: the way they walk, move, interact, and even how they pronunciate words. I agree with 8060, I believe that it is easier to catch those vibes from someone when it's a 1-on-1 deal. Then again, I may watch someone and be looking for something that resembles me before I accepted who I was.
 
You have really given me something to think about. Some times take a little longer than others but I usually can pick up on if someone is gay, bi, or just curious. I have always had a habit of reading and analyzing people: the way they walk, move, interact with others, and even how they pronunciate words. I agree with 8060, I believe that it is easier to catch those vibes from someone when it's a 1-on-1 deal. Then again, I may watch someone and be looking for something that resembles me before I accepted who I was.
 
Frankly, I don't think I would go so far as to call it gaydar. I have always found that many, many, persons of both sexes are "sexually attractive" to me, but there has to be much more to make a match. First you engage a person in comversation and that may be the start of friendship. Some friends become more than just friends. When the bond becomes so deep both feel the need to express their affection and that's the point where the bond is likely to be confirmed in sexual activity. I have had three male partners, three female partners and that's the way it happened. I always seem to know when another person's seremdipity is aligned with my own.
 

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