Speak to me - not about me

I joined LPSG a few weeks back and stopped interacting on the website because to be perfectly honest I was ill prepared for the 'culture'.

As a new member back then, I was viewed with suspicion and it soon became clear why very few women feel welcome enough to stay around. It seems in the chatrooms a certain core group start spreading rumours, because of their own paranoia that no woman could interact on this site with articulation wit and charm and therefore can't be female! Historically I have been informed that this doubt occured because a few unsavouries have pretended to be female in order to chat up men. We are now the victims of this minority and have to have all methods of proof that we are indeed women! How crass is that?

Undeterred I got a webcam and came back. Easy peasy talk one on one and allay all fears that I could be a man. Not as simple as that. The empty vessels making the most noise, although invited to, do not come and check for themselves, but are content to set the rumour mill going again.

I go into the chatroom and try to liven it up - I have seen many people do the same thing but it is just one long round of trying to break this hard core of members who 'rule the roost'. Others join in but are met with sarcastic comments for daring to step outside of the norm - which is (as far as my experience goes) men talking ad nauseum about the size of their dicks, when it is obvious they are in there everyday and have memorised every single centimetre of erection, flaccidity and semi known to man. Is this all you are capable of chatroom boys? You can check out EVERYONES vitals by looking at their profile or talking in ims. Im not dictating the agenda in the chatroom (unlike some) but can't it just lighten up a little and those old hands make an effort to be more welcoming?

I left the chatroom today and I was gossiped about and my womanhood dissed. Thats not nice guys. I went back and spoke DIRECTLY to you after someone contacted me on mns to tell me what was going on. It ruffled a few feathers but hey - as my signature says Some peoples idea of free speech is that they can talk freely about anything, but when someone answers back its an outrage. Well if I was outrageous in my protests and chatisement for being the subject of gossip when I am never anything but open and willing to join in, then tough luck. It stinks and those who I confronted should hang their heads in shame and apologise as publicly as they tried to humiliate me in that chatroom.

I can assure you I have no intentions of getting my vagina out to prove it. I do like the webcam though and like to talk via that so feel free to come and chat.

You either believe me or you don't. Keep your paranoia to yourself. If you respond with history and examples of people who have pretended to be a woman then thats all it is - your anecdotal evidence and is NOT applicable to me nor will I be the whipping 'boy' for all HONEST women around here.

I will interact on this website as I choose without explaining myself to anyone. Live with it.

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I've not been using the chat room as much the past few weeks, no special reason just that a friend has become quite ill and that's been on my mind, but when I'm in there I try to make newbies welcome, we've all been new at one time. When I joined this site the chat room was extremely cliquey, I think it's less so now but there's general suspicion on the net about women anyway and you can't blame the guys (and women) who've been fooled before by fake women for becoming a little paranoid. The chat room does have many more men than women and when it's just men in there the chat does tend to be a little dumb, despite it being a cock site talking about cocks is a conversational cul de sac. Give it another go and persevere, it can actually be a nice room.
 
Don't let them get to ya; there are pricks and asses in every chatroom that you go into.
 
I used to go in there a lot when I was new, and talking about cocks was actually in the minority of conversation. :smile:

That was some time ago so it may have changed, but if SpoiledPrincess is in there you should go in. She rocks. :biggrin1:
 
Ty princess xx I did go back in and stayed there for quite some time last evening and had many good and humorous im conversations. Room chat - I tried to interact with the main culprit (who started the dissing) but he ingored me. So it is a symptom of certain individuals and their cronies, on second observation. So stuff him (fgs somebody stuff him - he's desperate). Yeah I can bitch! I saw another trend to - people in the room list who do not join in are called 'lurkers'. How very awful of people to label others who want to do their own thing. Perhaps they want to join in room chat too but feel similarly intimidated. So again its down to all of those in their smug clique to reverse the trend.

I think the fact you have to go to chatroom to be able to initiate an im is the rub here. Perhaps a word in the ears of the site management for an alternative way to communicate live could help? A certain man of a 'sterling quality' (pun very much intended) who I really like chatting with suggested a polite request to come chat and a polite response to either accept or decline. Good idea.

As for the boards - they are not the alternative for me as much as I enjoy reading them, Osiris. I like a conversation to be interesting and full of different content too and not the time delay between posting and reading the response, when I am in the mood for a chat (Im a woman thats ALL the time!). Contrary to popular belief im convos are not all about sex. You know by the feel of the person contacting you what that contact what its gonna be. In my experience of ALL chatrooms - sex eventually rears its head but at least here you know what you are letting yourself in for, even if it doesn't materialise. I find that more open than 'ordinary chatrooms' provided by my isp. Ironically the sexiest website I visit has the least sex content!!!!!!!!!

So then onwards and upwards. Thank you for your comments today.
Claire xxxxxx
 
oh and the Fantasy Femailme name - puzzles a few! Most of the e mail/screen names I have on the internet contain the word Femme or a combination of the letters - this goes back to my French roots and simply means 'woman'.

I like word play so the Femme is wrapped around Mail making female and the 'mail me' is an invitation to do just that!

As for Fantasy - well that stands up for itself. Yours or mine whichever of us has the best imagination perhaps???

Sorry, not a cross dresser either - unless I have to find clothes in the dark!!
 
Lurkers are a feature of any chat room and they get called lurkers on all chat rooms, I don't worry about them except to wonder if they're actually there or if they wondered off ten years ago and just left themselves logged in. I presume most of them are in private chats and the only time they bother me is on the rare occasions the room is full and no one else can get in, if some of the lurkers simply went to bed and left themselves logged in someone else who genuinely wanted to chat in the room can't get in.

I've said this before, sometimes rooms are mistaken for being cliquey when they're not at all, it's simply that some people don't want to invest time chatting to someone who's never going to be there again, a lot of people who join a chat room just try it for one night, I try to be welcoming because I know that those newcomers must feel it's difficult to get what they say taken notice of, and if they never come back again who could blame them.

If you enjoyed it last time stick it out, it can be a laugh.
 
I've only been in the chatroom once or twice. I prefer the forums because I hate gossip, at least if someone says something there, they will get called on it and it is in print for everyone to see. When I was on chat, only the men would chat with me...there was one woman who made an effort but I can't for the life of me recall who she was. Most of the men were nice and I became bombarded with men wanting to talk to me which is kind of intimidating when you have never been in a chat room before...I couldn't keep up with all of them. I like the forums because I can respond to subjects that interest me and no one has to take it personally if I don't respond to them.
 

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