Taming the Deprecation Dragon

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Jenny Dobson on Instagram: "Self-deprecation is the fear of success. These dragons breed when love is conditional and based on impossible standards. To cope, we learn to fail before we try. Because accepting failure is less painful than trying and failing anyway. Over time, this attitude becomes self-fulfilling. Whether you believe you can or you believe you can't, you're right. But failure can be used as a tool. It's like playing battleship. It just helps you figure out where to aim next. To tame it, stop apologizing. Stop making yourself small. And stop criticising yourself. Embrace every challenge as an experiment. Not a test. You can't fail an experiment. You sexy fuckers. #shamanism #josestevens #shamaniclessons #narcissism #lifecoach"

Slideshow shows how to identify and counter self-deprecating behavior.

In balance: humble
Out of balance: belittling
Looks like: lonely, resigned, deflated
Feels like: self-conscious, undeserving, unimportant
Feeds on: impossible standards, conditional standards, unfair comparisons
How to tame: receive compliments, value failure, practice self-worth, validate yourself

My thoughts?

Merely being on this website is opening us up to much energy: toxic negative, toxic positive and very much secure, supportive energy. We are exposed to the "bigger is better" crowd and the "beat me up and shame me" crowd. There are others, though, that appreciate all who interact. They are the ones who radiate like solid gold. Identifying when you feel like shit and what makes you feel like shit is divine.

So, I wonder, should this website not be used when we feel self-deprecating? Is it empowering us or shaming us? What can we do when we can't even validate ourselves and what does that even mean?

A balanced person would feel humble and confident. An unbalanced person would belittle themselves but also may project that onto others. The environment of this website usually condones shaming others if it could be seen as hyping big dick or big muscles or whatever is in at the time. It really puts us in a ditch that is difficult to climb out of, if impossible.

How do you climb out of it? What makes you more balanced? Is it the kind people on here that accepts you for YOU? Do you pull people down with you? Do you log out, ignore, block, delete?
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