Disclaimer: I am not trying to sound "holier than thou" as I am completely on the other side of that, but I do believe what I wrote.
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Being on this site for a while has made me realize that something is happening here. We are literally a small world trading knowledge and information with each other and creating our own history. This is a good and bad thing.
On the positive side, we have the overall acceptance of everyone for the most part (with the exception of spammers, fakers and trolls) regardless of age, sex, orientation or penis/bra size. We've created families and friendships that have grown outside the capacities of this internet site which is absolutely amazing.
News is reported on and responded to from almost every aspect of life. Republican, Democrat, Aetheist, Monotheist...what have you.
We've even had a civil war or two resulting in the extrication of a couple of known LPSG leaders.
We've advanced technologically and intelectually just like an actual society.
However, there are major downsides that are just as amazing.
Ideals on sexual identity and relations have had some confusing effects on those who question themselves and the validity of their true feelings.
In the end, you are the only one who can decide what works for you, but we've spoken of so many gray areas that some believe it's possible for you to be anything you want as long as you don't believe that you are that.
In reality, ducks cannot pretend to be sheep because they aren't sheep. Neither can a straight woman or man continuously engage in a gay relationship without losing the identity of "straight." There's no real loss of anything, really. It's more about accepting who you are. We're still hung up on titles even though many of us would rather there be no titles. This arguement exists mostly with men because men have a more difficult time with the acceptance of anything that isn't hetero; mostly because of the hundred years of identity building that was the 20th century.
We also have the relationship factor being toyed with in strange ways. Many ask questions of the ability to do certain things and still be considered "straight," or ask if straight men compromise themselves by doing a certain thing that might seem gay to most people, but isn't because they know who they are and they are still attracted to women. Again, I say that if you are attracted to women, then that's fine. If you are attracted to men, the same...you are bisexual. There's nothing wrong with being bisexual, it's the same thing as not having a sexual title because you like everyone. It's just the definition of not having a title.
The most disturbing of this is the lengths that people have gone through or desire to go through just to experience sex with someone who they consider straight. Drugging, duping, bribing, it's all crazy. The stories and threads that get posted where people's personal space and saftey is violated for a quick peek, touch or taste of sex is utterly rediculous. Of course, in the heat of the moment we know that rational thought gets pushed to the wayside, however, glamourizing such acts is quite dehumanizing. We read these stories and they fill our heads to the point where we think that it's possible to do and not get caught, or once won't hurt anything. That is seriously not the way to go.
If you desire someone who's masculine, there's nothing wrong with that; but there is something wrong with making someone who trusts you uncomfortable or upset over five to ten minutes of mediocre sex.
Let's start to move away from the insanity of doing such over the top things and keep ourselves upright.
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Being on this site for a while has made me realize that something is happening here. We are literally a small world trading knowledge and information with each other and creating our own history. This is a good and bad thing.
On the positive side, we have the overall acceptance of everyone for the most part (with the exception of spammers, fakers and trolls) regardless of age, sex, orientation or penis/bra size. We've created families and friendships that have grown outside the capacities of this internet site which is absolutely amazing.
News is reported on and responded to from almost every aspect of life. Republican, Democrat, Aetheist, Monotheist...what have you.
We've even had a civil war or two resulting in the extrication of a couple of known LPSG leaders.
We've advanced technologically and intelectually just like an actual society.
However, there are major downsides that are just as amazing.
Ideals on sexual identity and relations have had some confusing effects on those who question themselves and the validity of their true feelings.
In the end, you are the only one who can decide what works for you, but we've spoken of so many gray areas that some believe it's possible for you to be anything you want as long as you don't believe that you are that.
In reality, ducks cannot pretend to be sheep because they aren't sheep. Neither can a straight woman or man continuously engage in a gay relationship without losing the identity of "straight." There's no real loss of anything, really. It's more about accepting who you are. We're still hung up on titles even though many of us would rather there be no titles. This arguement exists mostly with men because men have a more difficult time with the acceptance of anything that isn't hetero; mostly because of the hundred years of identity building that was the 20th century.
We also have the relationship factor being toyed with in strange ways. Many ask questions of the ability to do certain things and still be considered "straight," or ask if straight men compromise themselves by doing a certain thing that might seem gay to most people, but isn't because they know who they are and they are still attracted to women. Again, I say that if you are attracted to women, then that's fine. If you are attracted to men, the same...you are bisexual. There's nothing wrong with being bisexual, it's the same thing as not having a sexual title because you like everyone. It's just the definition of not having a title.
The most disturbing of this is the lengths that people have gone through or desire to go through just to experience sex with someone who they consider straight. Drugging, duping, bribing, it's all crazy. The stories and threads that get posted where people's personal space and saftey is violated for a quick peek, touch or taste of sex is utterly rediculous. Of course, in the heat of the moment we know that rational thought gets pushed to the wayside, however, glamourizing such acts is quite dehumanizing. We read these stories and they fill our heads to the point where we think that it's possible to do and not get caught, or once won't hurt anything. That is seriously not the way to go.
If you desire someone who's masculine, there's nothing wrong with that; but there is something wrong with making someone who trusts you uncomfortable or upset over five to ten minutes of mediocre sex.
Let's start to move away from the insanity of doing such over the top things and keep ourselves upright.