I deleted this blog post about bullying to ensure I was abiding by changes in the site's Terms of Service. Thank you to all who responded in a helpful, supportive way. It means a lot to me.
I understand where you're coming from my friend. I was kind of in the same situation except for I was a fat kid with a big one. Looking back now I should have kicked the shit out of them and put an end to it.
And I was second tallest in my schools, too klutzy/a bookworm, and was well into puberty by 10.
Because I hadn't signed up for any sports at all, I'm pretty sure my gym teacher in junior high rallied a group of guys to beat me up. It took place in typical behind-the-school fashion - five on one, with the exception of the teacher standing in full view about 30 yards away.
I made up a story to my folks about wiping out on my bike to cover up the injuries. I never said anything to the principals. And I suffer for that silence still.
A couple of those guys came up to me at my senior prom in HS and apologized for the incident. I think one of them was trying to hit on me later that night, too...
I am sorry to hear about you being bullied at school. It is too bad you didn't feel comfortable telling your parents or the headmaster at your school exactly how this all started. I know it is better to let kids fight their own battles.....but it still makes me mad. If I was your parent and you had come to me after the towel incident......that James Hedley crap would have been nipped in the bud. There are always going to be bullies.....but there are ways to deal with bulllies.....whether it be fighting back or taking legal action.
AM, except for the beatings and sports my situation is sadly similar. My first gym shower experience was in 9th grade. I weighed maybe 90 lbs and probably 5% of that in the crotch. Nah, I'm exaggerating there, but Waller, a varsity football player was in my PE class, and he was the first to point out my "inequity" and ridicule me with his friends. I don't know what I would have done had it got physical, because they could have just as easily have maimed me for life. Whatever, I was sexually repressed for most of high school, and teased for all four years.
Even the girl experience was awful in that the cheerleaders, who were all in the same clique as the players, put up one of their own to pretend to be interested in me. Sue took me behind the field house where I showed it to her. When she laughed and ran away I knew I would never have a female companion in my life. I hated high school and have never spoken to a classmate since.
Incredible, isn't it? People attack others simply because they feel inadequate themselves. I'm sorry you had to go through this at a young age, but at the same time, glad to hear it didn't last as long as it could have.
I was actually teased for years, for different things: I had artistic ability and liked to sing, and was teased for that. Kids made fun of my full lips, saying they were too big for my face; can you imagine?
There's something particularly sweet about hearing compliments on those things which you were berated for, so many years ago
Mule: Reading this post brought back a lot of memories. I was never bullied/beaten as you were, but as you know, some of the comments kids made almost seemed worse than any beating. I never knew why kids were saying these things or acting the way they did until I started to realize it was mostly due to jealousy. However, it took a long time and really screwed me up. Glad things turned out well for you in the end! Take care! BigSki
What a fucked-up experience you suffered! I get so furious hearing stories such as yours! Having been bullied myself, I know the frustration of feeling helpless.
Hedley, such a sad pathetic cunt! I imagine him being arrested for a minor disturbance not of his making and while being locked up for the night, getting raped several times up his arse by a big fat fucker called Bubba! But, seriously, I do believe people such as him live extremely unhappy lives. As the saying goes: Karma's a bitch!
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I'm so sorry you went through this. Bullying is terrible, kids can be so cruel. I believe in "what goes around, comes around" so I am sure he got his just desserts by now. I have a young son that has been bullied and I get so angry when it happens, even though he isn't scared and stands up to them. They are isolated incidences now and I think it's because the kids know that he won't stand for it. My husband and I followed the same trajectory as a kid. I was no longer bullied after the 5th grade because I did what my son did and stood up to them. My husband was bullied worse than my son and I, though. He had the same locker room horrors as you in junior high school, but his shyness and lack of friends are why they picked on him. They snapped towels at him, put gum in his hair, etc. One day he just lost his temper and beat the living daylights out of this kid. After that? No more bullying ever again. My husband is still relatively shy and quiet around people he doesn't know, but that lack of self-confidence left him the day he stood up to that kid. As unfortunate as I think it is, some bullies only seem to respond to violence. I also suspect they are either 1) getting bullied at home or 2) watching their parents bully others. It's sad, no matter how you draw it. One thing for sure is you made it out okay. The memories hurt but you're still here and know that the bullies can't measure your worth. *hugs* Thanks for sharing your story.
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