So, I went into this online-relationship after spending a few years away from such things. Recently he came to me with this:
"Before I met you, I was seriously thinking about suicide."
That's the biggest red flag ever. I can't handle having that burden placed on me and it feels like I have to walk on eggshells. Sure it's easy to say "You need to get away from him!" but I simply can't cut off contact. I'm afraid of what he'll do to himself, should I even mention a break-up.
I did tell him that what he said makes me feel I have quite a heavy load to deal with but he didn't quite take it the way I had hoped. He, instead, insisted I shouldn't feel that way and changed the subject.
The relationship has only about 1.5 month's life and by the end of week 1 he was saying "I love you". I am not without fault here, either. At first I told him it's too early to talk like that. By the end of the first month, I simply started replying with "I love you too" whenever he said "I love you.". I never say it inititally, only as a responce.. but it's still so very wrong to do so. I let my own guilt, in not reciprocating his feelings, get the better of me.
Before this, I had been avoiding online relationships since the first one I had, in which I was cheated on. So, in the time between that relationship and this, I've had only one other relationship... and it too was online. There was also 1 date and 1 time fooling around with a guy in that time period. So, I'm in no way equipped to handle the trouble I've gotten into.
"Before I met you, I was seriously thinking about suicide."
That's the biggest red flag ever. I can't handle having that burden placed on me and it feels like I have to walk on eggshells. Sure it's easy to say "You need to get away from him!" but I simply can't cut off contact. I'm afraid of what he'll do to himself, should I even mention a break-up.
I did tell him that what he said makes me feel I have quite a heavy load to deal with but he didn't quite take it the way I had hoped. He, instead, insisted I shouldn't feel that way and changed the subject.
The relationship has only about 1.5 month's life and by the end of week 1 he was saying "I love you". I am not without fault here, either. At first I told him it's too early to talk like that. By the end of the first month, I simply started replying with "I love you too" whenever he said "I love you.". I never say it inititally, only as a responce.. but it's still so very wrong to do so. I let my own guilt, in not reciprocating his feelings, get the better of me.
Before this, I had been avoiding online relationships since the first one I had, in which I was cheated on. So, in the time between that relationship and this, I've had only one other relationship... and it too was online. There was also 1 date and 1 time fooling around with a guy in that time period. So, I'm in no way equipped to handle the trouble I've gotten into.