Hi there, best start by saying that i am going to use this blog to, more than likely, blow off steam, but you may find it interesting to read some stories, thoughts and feelings of a 19 y/o disabled person. I apologise now if you think im whinging, far from it i am v.lucky and im happy to be alive(somedays), but none of what i say is bullsh*t.
But anyway i think it may be helpful to introduce myself, my name is Tom, I live in the UK, and when i was 17 i had a car accident in a 1971 VW baja bug(basically a beatle.)
Just to add, i wasn't driving and it wasn't my fault. I was sat in the back of the car - where seatbelts didnt need to be fitted due to the age of the car - and with being 6ft2, well it doesn't bode well if a car rolls 200 yards. So yeah, needless to say I was thrown around alot, and broke my neck, my femur(thigh bone), and various parts of my shoulder.
There were 2 other people in the car, the driver and my best friend, both were v.lucky in regards to injury, and escaped with minor injuries.
One thing i do get asked often is whether i hate the driver for the accident, and the truth is no i don't. As far as I can see it its called an accident for a reason. I don't talk to the guy due to a disilusionment on his behalf about the law and legal proceedings, also i have been told that he lives in complete denial of the accident - completely understandable in my eyes, and i don't wanna mess his head up even more.
So after the accident i spent about 10-11 months in hospital, believe me when i say i now hate hospitals! Alot of crap happened during the months i was in hospital, including being on a ventilator, collapsed lungs, catheterisation(not going to even go there!), waking up during an operation, being told that i won't be able to use my fingers or hands properly but worst of all being told that i would never walk again and that i would be in a wheelchair for life. God how i cried when it sunk in, (Pink Floyd's Comfortably Numb, anyone?)
My first thoughts were that my life was over, only now do i realise that it isn't over... just changed forever, because i can still function, if i couldn't you wouldnt be reading this, yes i do still get frustrated with myself, and yes, i still breakdown in tears, but in the end, we are all only human afterall.
Since being diagnosed as a tetraplegic/quadraplegic, alot of people have asked me if i can still get an erection, well the answer is yes, but i can't do anything about them. You try rubbing your member against your leg, with your fist(not around the penis, but just against) and see how far ya get, lol.
Anyway thats all from me.
Peace
Tom
But anyway i think it may be helpful to introduce myself, my name is Tom, I live in the UK, and when i was 17 i had a car accident in a 1971 VW baja bug(basically a beatle.)
Just to add, i wasn't driving and it wasn't my fault. I was sat in the back of the car - where seatbelts didnt need to be fitted due to the age of the car - and with being 6ft2, well it doesn't bode well if a car rolls 200 yards. So yeah, needless to say I was thrown around alot, and broke my neck, my femur(thigh bone), and various parts of my shoulder.
There were 2 other people in the car, the driver and my best friend, both were v.lucky in regards to injury, and escaped with minor injuries.
One thing i do get asked often is whether i hate the driver for the accident, and the truth is no i don't. As far as I can see it its called an accident for a reason. I don't talk to the guy due to a disilusionment on his behalf about the law and legal proceedings, also i have been told that he lives in complete denial of the accident - completely understandable in my eyes, and i don't wanna mess his head up even more.
So after the accident i spent about 10-11 months in hospital, believe me when i say i now hate hospitals! Alot of crap happened during the months i was in hospital, including being on a ventilator, collapsed lungs, catheterisation(not going to even go there!), waking up during an operation, being told that i won't be able to use my fingers or hands properly but worst of all being told that i would never walk again and that i would be in a wheelchair for life. God how i cried when it sunk in, (Pink Floyd's Comfortably Numb, anyone?)
My first thoughts were that my life was over, only now do i realise that it isn't over... just changed forever, because i can still function, if i couldn't you wouldnt be reading this, yes i do still get frustrated with myself, and yes, i still breakdown in tears, but in the end, we are all only human afterall.
Since being diagnosed as a tetraplegic/quadraplegic, alot of people have asked me if i can still get an erection, well the answer is yes, but i can't do anything about them. You try rubbing your member against your leg, with your fist(not around the penis, but just against) and see how far ya get, lol.
Anyway thats all from me.
Peace
Tom