What is my life missing?

I've just come back from a night out with my best friends from Uni who have come to visit. I'm sat here a little drunk wondering "what is my life missing right now?"

I feel like everybody else I know and love is progressing while my life is completely stagnated. I'm not moving forward, I'm not doing what I want with my life, I'm not making any steps towards being any happier. WHERE AM I GOING?

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"what is my life missing right now?"

I feel like everybody else I know and love is progressing while my life is completely stagnated. I'm not moving forward, I'm not doing what I want with my life, I'm not making any steps towards being any happier. WHERE AM I GOING?


Sometimes it is better not to judge one's lives by another's successes. Competition is the method of madness. There is and always will be someone better than you. It isn't the end of the world. But I am sure you may have talents that rival theirs and in certain aspects.

So, you just have to be content with yourself and measure yourself and life by YOUR standard and YOUR standard only.

You will have to figure out what matters most in your life. You will have to create your own goals for yourself. Be the best person you can be.



 
I agree with invisible man. Also if you want actionable steps perhaps try this: think of where you want to be in life say 5 years from now - something that's not impossible to achieve, something that you think might make you happy, don't worry about impressing others. Make plans for what you might do to get there, split them into small actions so you can enjoy the journey rather than stressing yourself out, make plans for alternate routes and alternate futures (plans B and C) so you don't freak out if a path you're on doesn't pan out, while you're doing all that get some hobbies to distract you. Oh yeah, if you're single of course look for a girlfriend. All of these things are distractions from the big question of course, but there isn't a single consistently satisfying answer to that question that I know of.
 
I bet your friends are not as together as you think they are, and they would probably be perplexed by your assesment of their lives. Are you living under someone else's ideas of the kind of life you should live? Maybe these feelings are just the universe telling you that there's something more for you out there then what you are allowing yourself to experience.
An then there's good old fashioned fear. It takes a leap of faith and some risk taking to make a go of it. It can be scary to think that you may loose your health insurance or not have a job, or not know anybody where you are going. Life is stressful and it can have the effect of holding us down if we're not aware.
You'll be OK. Just get out there and try something new. something that no body (including yourself) would have expected you to try.
 
I've been in this same state of mind for some time now. You can't gauge your life based on others. As my friend pointed out to me, the guy that I was comparing my life to has his own personal hell to go thru. The grass may seem greener, but it's all still planted in dirt.

Hang in there.
 

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