When you love someone you let them go?

“When you love someone you let them go,” he explained.


“I love you and I totally fell for you. This is not a really a life I can offer you or expect you to want,” he said with tears falling from his eyes.


It was almost time to graduate. I was not entirely sure what I was going to do career wise, 911 had impacted hiring and the economy was looking shitty for college students that were graduating. But I planned on getting the hell out of this city. I had a few prospects I had lined up, but they were not here.


I look around the Pizza Hut and to my relief nobody is really paying attention to what is seeming like a very public display of feelings.


He had two sons, and an ex wife. This whole thing had fucked up my 4 year friendship with his son who wouldn’t talk to me anymore. It became clear he had been honest with his son about what happened.


The other son was a mess. What was I expected to do in this situation? I didn’t think this was so serious. Did I even think about consequences before jumping in?


Well fuck. I had thought we were meeting to share a celebratory lunch.


“I will always love you and you can always talk with me but I need you to explore this huge world. It is so huge, and you need to go out into it.”


“You need to live and it’s cruel to not let you go to get this experience in life.”


Tears were streaming down his face.


“I love and loved you. I always will. Just promise me that you won’t be bitter. Don’t be bitter or jaded when you are older.”


“Well I love you too but,” I didn’t even really know what exactly to say.


“Go. Just go. I will contact you later.”


I got up and heard him sobbing as I walked towards the door. I looked back to see his head down and his body and shoulders moving from heavy crying.


What did I do to this man?


I waited for a bit in my vehicle, I was still trying to process what just happened. Eventually he got up and into his vehicle and left.


He had carried the left over pizza in a box. I wondered if his family will be eating it. My thoughts didn’t really do anything to console me.

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@runstoprestore maybe a book could be a possibility one day. For now, I get to have how much or how little detail I want, and that helps me with the sharing part. I don’t think I have tons of people reading this, if it’s in book form people probably would really see it.
 
@MyHardBigDick a lot of your stories touch on themes a lot of gay folks have in common and that helps people to relate. I think your free writing style, and the short nature of the stories - almost like they are a snapshot - would speak to a person struggling to come out as something they can relate to.
 
I was 'let go' by a friend who while parting after our first weekend cried (yes, tears) asking, "Will I see you again?" So naturally I thought he liked me and saw me as a 'special' friend.

I made extra effort to keep in touch and to see him as often as possible...but this was a long distance 'relationship' and a few years prior to the messaging ease we have today.

So I was caught off guard down the road when he broke the news to me that he needed his space and I needed to move on. :broken_heart: I re-played the 'tape' over and over trying to determine what I'd done wrong until one day months later I finally realized I hadn't done anything wrong. I filled a need in his life at a particular time that he later didn't need. We don't begrudge each other's choices. Although we haven't been in contact for about 20 years I had always wished him well and I still do to this day.;)
 

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