Why in God's name am I attracted to older, married men?

I don't get it! But it's frustrating. I already have two older, married men that I'm interested in, and I can now add a third to the list - my Criminal Justice teacher. *sigh* I don't understand. He's not even that cute! I'm constantly daydreaming about him though. He's in his early 50's (that's an educated guess), he's an ex cop, he's funny and intelligent, and I dunno... I just can't stop thinking about having hot, sweaty, passionate sex with him! Gah! I haven't had sex in almost a year. :frown1: I have standards, though, and I'm not a fan of casual sex... so I've been TRYING to wait until I meet someone worthwhile, but I'm beginning to think that this isn't working. :rolleyes:

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Meg you are too smart not to know the answer to this simple question. :rolleyes: You have a a daddy complex. I think the technical term is electra complex. Bottomline your parents divorced when you were young and impressionable. You now seek in a romantic relationship what you feel you missed out on by living with your mom after the divorce.

This does not mean you want to have sex with your father, it just means you missed having an older male figure in your life. From what I understand it's quite common.
What I find interesting is that you always seek out a married, older man. Did your dad leave for a younger woman? Perhaps a woman who pursued him openly?

You may want to read the Sylvia Plath poem called "Daddy."
 
No, my mother left my father. It was years before he started dating again, and he never did remarry... he hasn't been in a relationship now for probably 10 years. I can understand the daddy complex thing, but I don't purposely seek out older married men... It's quite subconscious. lol.
 
I'm wrong, I admit it.:redface: But I still think you must have some sort of nonsexual Daddy Complex.
 
Meg, Meg, Meg, your mistake isn't falling for older married guys. Your mistake is trying to "think" your way through that. When it comes to matters of the heart (and lower areas), we all spend wayyyyyy too much time trying to make things logical or rational and it just doesn't work that way. It's true of romantic attraction and it's true of love itself.

If njqt is right, you'll need the help of a professional to figure that out. Meanwhile, cut yourself some slack and spend the energy instead on being comfortable with the choices you make in terms of those attractions.

Good luck!
 
Lots of us older guys are still pretty hot. Plus we are experienced....we know what to do to get a girl going and cumming.
 

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