Why is it taking so long to lose my virginity?

Hello, my name is Luke. I’m a gay man from suburban Ohio, turned 18 about four months ago. I have a bit of a complex because of the extreme lack of romance in my life. I think virginity is a social construct, however that sentiment is not helping me through this time.


I’m struggling because it seems like everyone around me has some type of love life, and I’ve just never had that. I’ve had maybe 1 or 2 opportunities to be romantic with a guy, and each time I turned things down because of lack of attraction, and because of my commitment to my career. I suppose I could be afraid of committing to something besides my career which could be contributing to my lack of success in relationships. More on that, I’m moving to Los Angeles this fall for college, which is something I’m excited for. But, I can’t help but freak out at the thought that I might get to college in the city and be the only virgin there. It may sound shallow or weird, but it’s begun to affect my happiness.


Since I turned 18 I downloaded multiple dating/hookup apps including Tinder, Grindr, adam4adam, bumble, etc... I’ve had plenty of guys message me, but 90% of them are just creepy men who ghost me after one evening of messaging. I’ve also gotten plenty of matches on Tinder in my age range but none of them initiate, and when I reach out the conversation gets dry very fast no matter how engaging I try to be.


I know most people would tell me to just be patient, but I’m kind of losing hope. Thoughts / words of wisdom are appreciated!

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Many guys on the dating apps are unable to hold a conversation and resort to monosyllabic replies.
In any case don't be in such a hurry to lose your virginity, when the times ripe it will happen and hopefully be a good experience, Your first kiss, deep throat, blow job giving and receiving are all waiting for you, as is the first fuck you give, the first time you get fucked (and that's not just an in out job either). So be patient and one day, as they say, your prince will cum.
 

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