So, for about 8-years, I have been experiencing some form of erectile dysfunction (ED). Whether it was a lack of achieving an erection altogether or losing the erection a few minutes in to sex, it has been a long and frustrating road!
No, the past 8-years have not been ALL disappointing. I have had some extremely great sex and orgasms and have experienced a few new things along the way. But, in the overall arc of my 40's, I can tell my body is changing. (I turned 50 last week.)
A few new things I experienced in my 40's (in no particular order):
Through all of that, I still experienced ED. A few things that I know are/were contributing to my ED:
So, I'm trying to take action!
I hope to see improvements in my 50's!!
No, the past 8-years have not been ALL disappointing. I have had some extremely great sex and orgasms and have experienced a few new things along the way. But, in the overall arc of my 40's, I can tell my body is changing. (I turned 50 last week.)
A few new things I experienced in my 40's (in no particular order):
- Visiting and joining a nudist resort (no, not the 'swingers' ones, but a wholesome family-oriented one), to further enjoy my love if nudity beyond my home. I've enjoyed a nudist lifestyle my entire adult life.
- Experimented with prostate stimulation, play, and orgasm. Oh what a wonderful journey that has been!
- Divorced my rather vanilla, no sex drive, dead-weight of a former wife (ton more reasons ahead of that one, but won't go into that here). Remarried a wonderful woman with a healthy sex drive matching my own.
- Participated in a MFM threesome.
- Discovered the benefits of those "sex pill" enhancers you can buy at the adult stores.
- Briefly dabbled in BDSM activities with my new wife. Her wearing a strap-on and f*cking me good. Me giving her anal sex. Her exploring her inner-Mistress. Etc...
Through all of that, I still experienced ED. A few things that I know are/were contributing to my ED:
- Alcohol consumption increased in my 40's.
- Porn enjoyment. Porn-Masturbation-Orgasm (PMO) habituation. I have zero problem getting and keeping an erection for hours if watching porn and stroking. But, I'd say my body has gotten dependent on that tried-and-true form of stimulation (mostly as my only release mechanism in my former marriage).
- Bi-curious interests.
- Performance anxiety. Typical guy thing, hard to ignore sometimes.
So, I'm trying to take action!
- dabbling in the idea of no-fap -- except bonafide sex (foreplay, sex, etc) with my wife.
- working to lose about 20 lbs (6'0" tall, 220 right now. Not bad, but could improve.),
- reducing my alcohol consumption,
- improving my eating choices.
- Working out regularly.
- stepping away from porn. (I know... I know... being on this site seems to contradict this action, but this is the only place I can open up and be honest with these thoughts/feelings.)
- researching a 'Rock Hard For Life' ED correction group and learning what that's all about.
I hope to see improvements in my 50's!!