So Christmas morning I beat the rest of the house to waking up. I turned on the news as is my morning ritual and there was a news story about a multiple murder in Carnation. Side note: Carnation is about 20 minutes east of where we live in Woodinville. This is a very tiny town and a very tight knit one at that. So when you have the murder of a grandmother, grandfather, father, mother and two children (both under 5), it really shakes this town because everyone knows everyone.
Now let's move to the 26th. I am watching the news and more info about the murder is released. My jaw hits the floor, not because the murderer is the daughter, sister, and aunt to the victims, but because I know the girl involved. I can't call her a personal friend of mine, but she hung around my first house I lived in when I first moved to this area. She was friends with one of my roomies. They would come and party, she was a nice girl. Kind of to the shyer side, but nice and fun to talk to. Her boyfriend was a drug using mess and I am not surprised that he was also involved in this crime.
So now as I shake off the initial shock, I am hearing the girl confessed to killing her own parents, her brother and sister-in-law, and stood by as her own niece and nephew were gunned down by this psycho (he shot them point blank in the head). I am sick to my core to even think I was anywhere near people who could do such a cold blooded, disgusting, and reprehensible crime like this. To make matters worse, the crime was over money.
I'm now asking am I more offended by the people themselves or my own ineptitude to spot cold blooded killers in my ranks? I consider myself to be a fairly good judge of character, but in this case, I totally missed the mark. Had anyone asked me if this girl would kill? I would have said no in a second. Her boyfriend? I would have said he would. The guy was just not all there. Now her boyfriend's mother is on TV talking about her son couldn't do this sort of thing and he was such a good boy and blah, blah, blah. Now as much as I am sickened by the girls part in this, I am outraged at this withered old crone blaming said girl for these actions and "leading my boy astray."
True it is a parents place to think the best of your kids as in some way what they do reflects on you, but this is ridiculous for a woman living half a country away who hadn't seen her son in God knows how long. I ask myself if it were my kid would I be so quick to lay blame with their accomplice?
Going through issues with my 17 year old, I am not so sure anymore. Literally my wife and I are sitting here discussing should we let him move out into the world and wash our hands of him because he will only get it when he falls flat. Will I be there to pick him up if he does, of course, it just sucks letting them get there. I have a hard time defending him now, if he commits a major crime, he'll rot in jail, face the music and not one word of comfort will he get from me until he truly realizes his destructive ways and genuinely wants to change them. People are responsible for their actions. If you lie, that lie falls on you. If you steal, the hand that did it was yours and no one elses. If you kill, the blood is on your hands and no one elses. I have taught mine that you pay for the transgressions you commit. Whether they are punished by the law or within your social circle. There is always a price for crime and deceit.
The bottom line here is you just never know. I am now sitting pondering what else I do not know. Who of my close circle have evil skeletons? How did my one buddy come into so much money so quickly? Did my friends really divorce because of financial reasons?
It all just makes you wonder.
Now let's move to the 26th. I am watching the news and more info about the murder is released. My jaw hits the floor, not because the murderer is the daughter, sister, and aunt to the victims, but because I know the girl involved. I can't call her a personal friend of mine, but she hung around my first house I lived in when I first moved to this area. She was friends with one of my roomies. They would come and party, she was a nice girl. Kind of to the shyer side, but nice and fun to talk to. Her boyfriend was a drug using mess and I am not surprised that he was also involved in this crime.
So now as I shake off the initial shock, I am hearing the girl confessed to killing her own parents, her brother and sister-in-law, and stood by as her own niece and nephew were gunned down by this psycho (he shot them point blank in the head). I am sick to my core to even think I was anywhere near people who could do such a cold blooded, disgusting, and reprehensible crime like this. To make matters worse, the crime was over money.
I'm now asking am I more offended by the people themselves or my own ineptitude to spot cold blooded killers in my ranks? I consider myself to be a fairly good judge of character, but in this case, I totally missed the mark. Had anyone asked me if this girl would kill? I would have said no in a second. Her boyfriend? I would have said he would. The guy was just not all there. Now her boyfriend's mother is on TV talking about her son couldn't do this sort of thing and he was such a good boy and blah, blah, blah. Now as much as I am sickened by the girls part in this, I am outraged at this withered old crone blaming said girl for these actions and "leading my boy astray."
True it is a parents place to think the best of your kids as in some way what they do reflects on you, but this is ridiculous for a woman living half a country away who hadn't seen her son in God knows how long. I ask myself if it were my kid would I be so quick to lay blame with their accomplice?
Going through issues with my 17 year old, I am not so sure anymore. Literally my wife and I are sitting here discussing should we let him move out into the world and wash our hands of him because he will only get it when he falls flat. Will I be there to pick him up if he does, of course, it just sucks letting them get there. I have a hard time defending him now, if he commits a major crime, he'll rot in jail, face the music and not one word of comfort will he get from me until he truly realizes his destructive ways and genuinely wants to change them. People are responsible for their actions. If you lie, that lie falls on you. If you steal, the hand that did it was yours and no one elses. If you kill, the blood is on your hands and no one elses. I have taught mine that you pay for the transgressions you commit. Whether they are punished by the law or within your social circle. There is always a price for crime and deceit.
The bottom line here is you just never know. I am now sitting pondering what else I do not know. Who of my close circle have evil skeletons? How did my one buddy come into so much money so quickly? Did my friends really divorce because of financial reasons?
It all just makes you wonder.