“you have ruined other men for me”

[sangheili90]

How could I not?
She was precious to me.

It was a wonderful first love. She was the first girl I ever kissed... The first girl who welcomed my caress... the first body other than my own I ever explored.... the first I ever brought to orgasm.
And my first truly broken heart.

Together we spent a year discovering each other's bodies, but also each other's frailties, strengths, and laughter. At an age when a year seemed a very long time.
It was the sweetest and most loving introduction to adult love and sexuality I could have imagined.

When I hear other people's accounts of their first love or first sexual encounters... I count myself blessed.

We never had a fight. Never had that decline so many first loves endure. One day I made love to her in my room, and we whispered intimately in embrace about a future we both saw as lifelong...
And the Next day she called to tell me it was over.
I never even got a kiss goodbye.

That can throw a guy... especially when he's so young.


33 years later- when we had lunch together... she was even more beautiful at 50 than she had been at 17.
She told me she had been forced to break up with me against her will by her abusive mother.
That she had always regretted losing me, and felt she owed it to me to tell me so.
I finally got that kiss goodbye, and it was as sweet as the first.

And I mourned anew the years we had lost.


The way any teen is treated by the first person with whom they fall in love forever alters their perceptions of self.
I taught my sons to be gentle with other souls, because our first tentative steps into love are so impactful.


I never stopped loving that girl, perhaps because I never had a chance to fall out of love with her.

And the pain of losing her as I did remains stark and fresh, because I choose to carry, always, the pure joy I felt in my hand upon her body and her kiss on my lips. - even at 17, I refused to make her a villain in my heart.
I would not surrender that wonderful memory to some jaded dismissal of her or what I was sure she felt.

love is a choice.

WTF, this all happened at 17 and you are now 50........

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

dude GET A FUCKING LIFE.

Seems to me like you're just envious and can't help but shit all over his post because you know you've never had what he's describing.

Sucks to be you dude.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

WTF, this all happened at 17 and you are now 50........

You're a punk who can't comprehend what it's like to have a significant relationship. So, it's no surprise you can't relate to his story.

 

[sangheili90]

How could I not?
She was precious to me.

It was a wonderful first love. She was the first girl I ever kissed... The first girl who welcomed my caress... the first body other than my own I ever explored.... the first I ever brought to orgasm.
And my first truly broken heart.

Together we spent a year discovering each other's bodies, but also each other's frailties, strengths, and laughter. At an age when a year seemed a very long time.
It was the sweetest and most loving introduction to adult love and sexuality I could have imagined.

When I hear other people's accounts of their first love or first sexual encounters... I count myself blessed.

We never had a fight. Never had that decline so many first loves endure. One day I made love to her in my room, and we whispered intimately in embrace about a future we both saw as lifelong...
And the Next day she called to tell me it was over.
I never even got a kiss goodbye.

That can throw a guy... especially when he's so young.


33 years later- when we had lunch together... she was even more beautiful at 50 than she had been at 17.
She told me she had been forced to break up with me against her will by her abusive mother.
That she had always regretted losing me, and felt she owed it to me to tell me so.
I finally got that kiss goodbye, and it was as sweet as the first.

And I mourned anew the years we had lost.


The way any teen is treated by the first person with whom they fall in love forever alters their perceptions of self.
I taught my sons to be gentle with other souls, because our first tentative steps into love are so impactful.


I never stopped loving that girl, perhaps because I never had a chance to fall out of love with her.

And the pain of losing her as I did remains stark and fresh, because I choose to carry, always, the pure joy I felt in my hand upon her body and her kiss on my lips. - even at 17, I refused to make her a villain in my heart.
I would not surrender that wonderful memory to some jaded dismissal of her or what I was sure she felt.

love is a choice.

I almost never use this term, but you honestly sound creepy as fuck to be still obsessed with some girl you dated over 30 years ago.

Damn, and sometimes I question myself with the way I approach and interact with women.

 

[Phil Ayesho]

WTF, this all happened at 17 and you are now 50........

Yes... isn't it wonderful?

That Both she and I carried with us for 33 years the sweet memory of that first love, that we both regretted its loss and that neither of us ever thought less of the other for having lost it?

That neither of us salved our own injury and loss by blaming the other or doubting for one moment the sincerity of feeling we were sure we saw in each other?

That is a truly rare gift to be given after so many years.

And I feel sorry for you that you can not seem to comprehend the value of such feelings.

 

[Phil Ayesho]

I almost never use this term, but you honestly sound creepy as fuck to be still obsessed with some girl you dated over 30 years ago.

Damn, and sometimes I question myself with the way I approach and interact with women.

Its Not an obsession, you numbskull.
That is YOU projecting how YOU think of relationship onto me.

I went on to get married, raise a family- build a career and a business, suffer a divorce- fall in love again, rebuild a new life... and more. And So did she.
My feelings for this woman did not dominate nor deter my living fully in any way- if anything they enriched my life.

The difference is that, unlike a lot of young men, I did not re-cast my memory of her as some bitch who lied to me about her feelings... just so I could feel better about myself or armor myself against being injured by some new woman.

Life is far deeper than you allow.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I almost never use this term, but you honestly sound creepy as fuck to be still obsessed with some girl you dated over 30 years ago.

Damn, and sometimes I question myself with the way I approach and interact with women.

Obsess isn't the right word. You use that word because you project your own bullshit onto everyone else. You can't comprehend what love is, but you sure know what it's like to be obsessed with someone.

Oh, why am I even bothering. I guess I'm just That bored

 

[socalfreak]

I almost never use this term, but you honestly sound creepy as fuck to be still obsessed with some girl you dated over 30 years ago.

Damn, and sometimes I question myself with the way I approach and interact with women.

@sangheili90 he's not "obsessing".. He's reminiscing. Buy a dictionary, dumbass.

And, you absolutely SHOULD question the way you approach & interact with women.... You know... Like how just about EVERYBODY has already told you numerous times

 

[socalfreak]

No one should hold onto something like that for such a long period of time, actually sounds unhealthy.

@sangheili90 says the guy with ABSOLUTELY NO RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE.

Or maybe you're on to something....
You should stop breathing.
You've been hanging onto that too long

 

[rayray]

Obsess isn't the right word. You use that word because you project your own bullshit onto everyone else. You can't comprehend what love is, but you sure know what it's like to be obsessed with someone.

Oh, why am I even bothering. I guess I'm just That bored

No you're not that bored . I see you pounding your head on a table because of @sangheili90 . I've gotten to know his posting history from his very beginning, trying to give him the courage to get his first lay . But as you have, I have ran out of patience with him and his cold callous emotionlessness lack of a normal way of thinking . I used to think he was young, shy, awkward and misunderstood , he is not . Narcissistic is exactly a perfect way to describe him . Anyone who has described himself on so many occasions as to remind us all on how muscular and good looking he is must think way to highly of himself . Well he sent me a face shot a while back and really was quite shocked . Not bad looking , but not someone I would double take on the street when passing . I was expecting maybe a Ryan Gosling or even a Ryan Reynolds .

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

No you're not that bored . I see you pounding your head on a table because of @sangheili90 . I've gotten to know his posting history from his very beginning, trying to give him the courage to get his first lay . But as you have, I have ran out of patience with him and his cold callous emotionlessness lack of a normal way of thinking . I used to think he was young, shy, awkward and misunderstood , he is not . Narcissistic is exactly a perfect way to describe him . Anyone who has described himself on so many occasions as to remind us all on how muscular and good looking he is must think way to highly of himself . Well he sent me a face shot a while back and really was quite shocked . Not bad looking , but not someone I would double take on the street when passing . I was expecting maybe a Ryan Gosling or even a Ryan Reynolds .

He joined after I did, I got to see the whole show too, and like you I used to lend a sincere shoulder/advice too. I tried to stay friendly much longer than many of the women here, why, I have no fucking clue.

The only reason I respond to his bullshit is for those reading who may get something out of the conversation. I know he doesn't even read my posts anymore. And, sometimes I really do just get bored. It's my day off and my guy is busy doing his own thing today

Anyway, I've shared my thoughts on the original topic. Wich was also the result of sheer boredom

 

[sodominsane]

Its Not an obsession, you numbskull.
That is YOU projecting how YOU think of relationship onto me.

I went on to get married, raise a family- build a career and a business, suffer a divorce- fall in love again, rebuild a new life... and more. And So did she.
My feelings for this woman did not dominate nor deter my living fully in any way- if anything they enriched my life.

The difference is that, unlike a lot of young men, I did not re-cast my memory of her as some bitch who lied to me about her feelings... just so I could feel better about myself or armor myself against being injured by some new woman.

Life is far deeper than you allow.

no just this one ...but what you putt in thread is some deep reflective stuff...

Just about time I wonder why I bother to come here ... I get a gem like this

good work

 

[deleted1846971]

Its Not an obsession, you numbskull.
That is YOU projecting how YOU think of relationship onto me.

I went on to get married, raise a family- build a career and a business, suffer a divorce- fall in love again, rebuild a new life... and more. And So did she.
My feelings for this woman did not dominate nor deter my living fully in any way- if anything they enriched my life.

The difference is that, unlike a lot of young men, I did not re-cast my memory of her as some bitch who lied to me about her feelings... just so I could feel better about myself or armor myself against being injured by some new woman.

Life is far deeper than you allow.

Words from a grown ass man. Well said sir.

 

[stretch8888]

When i was 21 i had a fuck buddy who claimed i ruined other men for her. She was 21 as well, the shy and nerdy but cute type and had only lost her virginity a few weeks prior to our hooking up, first time she saw me hard she blurted out "Oh my god why is your penis that big?" in hindsight she was very she sheltered and naive, that was when she told me she'd only lost her virginity a few weeks prior and that the guy wasn't even half my size and they'd only done it twice and from what she said he was barely a minute man so you could barely consider what they did as fucking, once she got comfortable with my size she loved it and we were fucking almost nightly, some night we'd fuck 3 or 4 times, unfortunately after a 6-8 months her prudish friends started question why we weren't officially dating and sort of slut shaming her, she gave me an ultimatum, date or we don't fuck anymore so i walked away.

We didn't see each other for a few months until she broke up with a guy she'd been seeing and wanted to hook up, we fucked for a couple months then cut ties again because she wanted more, this process repeated itself many times, i finally asked what the deal was she knew i was never going to be more than a fuck buddy thats when she said i had ruined other men for her because she'd held onto her virginity till 21 then gave it up to the absolute disappointment of a small penis and premature ejaculation which she actually didn't think of as losing her virginity, then she met me and developed this above average expectation of what sex should be, a large penis, all night fucking and an ability to orgasm easily through penetration. Apparently after me none of the guys she'd been with could reach the standards she had in her head.

 

[1120562]

A lot has to do with a girl's formative sexual experiences. If early experience is with a big cock then that becomes your normal idea of what one should be. It happens with other aspects too. On 3 occasions quite young women messaged me on twitter about my big cum loads and in each case their fascination came from having a big cumming partner in the past but then not having their expectations met with later partners...

 

[sudcalifornio]

I had one ex gf that said "you ruined me." it happened after we broke up and she started dating a friend of mine. after a couple weeks I guess she "laughed" him out of bed. he came to me one nite in a bar...all upset that he and my ex had broke up. the next nite I run into her and ask her what the hell happened. she tells me "you ruined me. he thinks he's a real stud with a big cock. he got to carrying on the other day, and I started laughing aat him. I told him you were twice his size."

When i was 21 i had a fuck buddy who claimed i ruined other men for her. She was 21 as well, the shy and nerdy but cute type and had only lost her virginity a few weeks prior to our hooking up, first time she saw me hard she blurted out "Oh my god why is your penis that big?" in hindsight she was very she sheltered and naive, that was when she told me she'd only lost her virginity a few weeks prior and that the guy wasn't even half my size and they'd only done it twice and from what she said he was barely a minute man so you could barely consider what they did as fucking, once she got comfortable with my size she loved it and we were fucking almost nightly, some night we'd fuck 3 or 4 times, unfortunately after a 6-8 months her prudish friends started question why we weren't officially dating and sort of slut shaming her, she gave me an ultimatum, date or we don't fuck anymore so i walked away.

We didn't see each other for a few months until she broke up with a guy she'd been seeing and wanted to hook up, we fucked for a couple months then cut ties again because she wanted more, this process repeated itself many times, i finally asked what the deal was she knew i was never going to be more than a fuck buddy thats when she said i had ruined other men for her because she'd held onto her virginity till 21 then gave it up to the absolute disappointment of a small penis and premature ejaculation which she actually didn't think of as losing her virginity, then she met me and developed this above average expectation of what sex should be, a large penis, all night fucking and an ability to orgasm easily through penetration. Apparently after me none of the guys she'd been with could reach the standards she had in her head.

sometimes we all know they are all lies, but we want to heard them anyways

 

[thongboy]

I had one ex gf that said "you ruined me." it happened after we broke up and she started dating a friend of mine. after a couple weeks I guess she "laughed" him out of bed. he came to me one nite in a bar...all upset that he and my ex had broke up. the next nite I run into her and ask her what the hell happened. she tells me "you ruined me. he thinks he's a real stud with a big cock. he got to carrying on the other day, and I started laughing aat him. I told him you were twice his size."

Why even tell this story, unless as an oblique way of boasting to the world that you have a big cock?

 

[longstroke7]

I've had women tell me "this pussy is yours" and I didn't believe that either.

 

[deleted1138933]

Wally, what if that doesn’t matter? a man, like anything else, is greater than one part or the sum of his parts.

If the big-cocked guy is a cheat, a thief, a liar, someone who’s abusive, is not kind, generous, or responsible, the dick don’t mean dick.

What does that have to do with physical sexual pleasure. What if both guys have the same qualities, except one is big and the other small

 

[deleted1138933]

Why even tell this story, unless as an oblique way of boasting to the world that you have a big cock?

Because it is just that, humble bragging. It happens in every other post