10%, 20%, 30% Gay? How Did You Decide?

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1GR8Fokker said:
1. How do you come to decide that ratio of your personality?

I stuck with 90-10 because, globally, I prefer women emotionally, physically, sexually, relationally, etc. I acknowledge some physical attraction to men and, in the past, I've acted on it. I also feel "at peace" with that small bit of me that has had a physical attraction to men. Of course, that percentage has fluctuated quite a bit. A few years ago, I saw myself as more actively bisexual, closer to the 50-50 range, but that was a period of time I was trying to sort out my attractions and see which ones best fit me.

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2. If you have these ratios, have you acted on that inclination—did you have an experience in a same sex relationship? What was it like?

I've acted on the curiosities sexually; I was very thankful for having friends in college who had similar feelings. I only messed around with a couple of my friends in isolated incidents. When I got that experimentation out of the way, I tried having a relationship with a guy. It was very short-term and it ended because, emotionally, I wasn't as committeed. I was just "trying it on," I guess. He was just too much for me.

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3. How did you feel about the experience? Would you do it again?

"Never say never." "Any port in a storm." At this point, I feel secure enough to consider that maybe, some day down the road when I least expect it, I'll meet an attractive guy. For now, I just think it's highly unlikely and I certainly wouldn't pursue it. I'm just open.

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4. Do you look on it as just a part of you that you have no intention of trying?

I've already tried it, so this question might not apply to me. I will say this, though. I've accepted my past as something part of me, for sure. It takes a lot -- A LOT -- of guts to acknowledge these feelings, however percentage points gay that makes you. It's really hard because when you start acknowledging attractions and interests, you almost always have to think, "What does this mean for me?" That's a hardcore question and it takes a lot of time to sort out.

Furthermore, it's really easy to get confused. Conflicting feelings and sexual histories really don't make a lot of sense, and you have to reconcile how you feel now with what you've felt and done in the past. That's a lot of stress. But I think you have to go through that tough time of figuring yourself out in order to really love, respect, and appreciate who you are. It doesn't matter if your sexual behaviors, feelings, fantasies, and thoughts peg you hetero or homo or whatever. As long as you're cool with yourself at the end of the day, all those -sexuality words are just really arbitrary.
 

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I have had relationships with several women. On the other hand, I have had more sex with men than women, but never relationships with men.

What does that make me? Confused, I suppose, but horny is probably closer to the truth.
 

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yhtang said:
I have had relationships with several women. On the other hand, I have had more sex with men than women, but never relationships with men.

What does that make me? Confused, I suppose, but horny is probably closer to the truth.
That's exactly where I was a few years ago. I found men a bigger turnon physically but liked and felt safer with women. I felt it was just a game to get sex with men. When it comes to sex, I think like a woman in many respects, that's why I felt safer with them.
 

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99% straight because I am alot more attracted to women. I have never done anything sexual with a man nor do I have a desire to. 1% gay because I do like to look at a big penis.
 

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1GR8Fokker said:
I’m new here.

I’m fascinated by the profiles stating straight to gay ratios of 10, 20, and 30 percent gay.

1. How do you come to decide that ratio of your personality?

2. If you have these ratios, have you acted on that inclination—did you have an experience in a same sex relationship? What was it like?

3. How did you feel about the experience? Would you do it again?

4. Do you look on it as just a part of you that you have no intention of trying?

Feel free to Private message me if you wish. Thanks!
The percentages are personal to each member, as the responses show.

As my urges change, so too, do my percentages. I was 50/50 at one point and now am at 60/40.

For me that means on average, if I have the choice between fucking a hot woman or fucking a hot guy--I am probably going to choose the guy 6 out of 10 times.

If I based on my sexual experiences, it would be 80% straight/20% gay as I have fucked MANY more women than I have men.

If I based it on a lot of my current responses, it would be about 30% Straight/70% gay.

It all depends on how YOU approach it.

Some people will put 1% as a sign of being open-minded (like Hickboy says--he is straight but not homophobic so he puts his gay% at 1).

You have to think about what it means to YOU and complete it accordingly.
 

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You know, i wondered that myself....LOL.
But I have to say that with me, the 1% leaves the door open so to speak. I am married (to a woman, knuckleheads) for over 25 years. I have never have homosexual contact. I love women, not everything about them, but for the most part (grin) I'm into women. However, i have noticed that while I am not attracted to men,....I am fascinated by large cocks. Case in point, a long time friend has a 8 inch soft, 13 inch hard dick...I have seen it on many occasions. And frankly I wouldn't mind a 3 some with him and my wife. I'm also sure my wife wouldn't mind. On the other hand, I have another buddy who is barely 5 inches...he and his wife ARE swingers....and have told us so...even invited us to a "get-together". However thought of him fucking my wife......yeeesh!!! It's just not there!

How about you guys? Anyone with similar experiences? BTW, Does that mean I'm gay?
 

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bigboy9239 said:
BTW, Does that mean I'm gay?
No, it means that you're just 'you', with your own unique blend of sexual characteristics. Just like every other person on the planet. Trying to fit yourself into a rigid category, or worrying about what label you want to apply to yourself, is just pointless. All those labels are about idealized, absolute states that exist nowhere in reality.