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- 50% Straight, 50% Gay
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I'm bisexual and proud to be so and it bothers me a bit that this site only allows the options of choosing straight or gay. I've obviously chosen 50% for each even though that may not reflect the reality but I've done so because it most clearly signifies bisexuality. The truth is though, I don't feel straight or gay, 50% or any percentage. I feel and am bisexual.
I have lots of straight and gay friends and I talk with them intimately about everything. I've realized that I'm not straight at all, no matter how much I might find women attractive and I'm not gay at all no matter how much I find men attractive. Nor do I want to be straight or gay. I like being bisexual, it works for me. I know bisexuality comes in several different forms. I'm open about my bisexuality with my partners and I'm monogamous in committed relationships--if I focus on one gender, I don't seek out the other gender. I really don't see any difference between have sex with men and women. Both can be kissed, stroked, licked, penetrated, hugged, massaged and whatever else. Some women are hard and muscled and some men are smooth and soft. Dating is different. It's socially easier to date women but easier to hook up with guys (if you live in a gay friendly city). Men seem to handle the bisexual thing easier than women, which is why I feel I generally meet more guys than women because I refuse to lie about who I am with people I have relationships with.
When I was in college I had a bunch of bisexual friends and I loved that. It's been harder to have that as I've gotten older. It seems that many people hide their bisexuality.
How many here consider themselves to be truly bisexual, as in that's how you present yourself to others? How do the rest of you manage your bisexuality? If there was a bisexual option for orientation here (like the gay/straight thing) would you prefer that than the 50/50 thing?
I have lots of straight and gay friends and I talk with them intimately about everything. I've realized that I'm not straight at all, no matter how much I might find women attractive and I'm not gay at all no matter how much I find men attractive. Nor do I want to be straight or gay. I like being bisexual, it works for me. I know bisexuality comes in several different forms. I'm open about my bisexuality with my partners and I'm monogamous in committed relationships--if I focus on one gender, I don't seek out the other gender. I really don't see any difference between have sex with men and women. Both can be kissed, stroked, licked, penetrated, hugged, massaged and whatever else. Some women are hard and muscled and some men are smooth and soft. Dating is different. It's socially easier to date women but easier to hook up with guys (if you live in a gay friendly city). Men seem to handle the bisexual thing easier than women, which is why I feel I generally meet more guys than women because I refuse to lie about who I am with people I have relationships with.
When I was in college I had a bunch of bisexual friends and I loved that. It's been harder to have that as I've gotten older. It seems that many people hide their bisexuality.
How many here consider themselves to be truly bisexual, as in that's how you present yourself to others? How do the rest of you manage your bisexuality? If there was a bisexual option for orientation here (like the gay/straight thing) would you prefer that than the 50/50 thing?