100% gay men. please help me understand your psychology better.

[Scotty Pecker]

Brothers, I really want to get a glimpse into how you see the opposite sex.
I am not here to judge I just want honest answers and real insight, that's all.

So first, here's on background on me and why I am so confused about 100% Gay Psychology.
(Because I have fetishes that are so similar but not actually "homosexual".)

Personally, I am obsessed with the idea of giving women anal sex and so obsessed with their butt-holes and butts to the point that I have little to no interest whatsoever in giving vaginal sex at all.
I have felt this way as long as I can remember about women, which is one big reason I feel porn is the only real outlet for me to experience this to the degree I actually want to or at least close to it.

What I find really strange however is the fact that gay sex IS anal sex to a major degree. I have literally tried to induce in my mind into specifically sexual feelings towards men I already like in other ways just to see if it was possible in me. No matter what, I get majorly turned off by the thought of actually having sex with a man. Like really grossed out at the thought. The smell of men's bodies and their shit is just nasty as hell to me, there is literally no bigger turn-off I can think of.
(I used to seriously hate gayness in men when I was younger, but now I can understand that other people have their own sexual feelings that I will never be able to relate to and I accept that. As my anal and scat obsession towards women is considered REALLY WEIRD and just plain gross by many, including 100% gay men)

I also want some insight into your opinions on these fetishes I have:

I am majorly turned on by Futanari fantasy themes (full-fledged women with penises) and somewhat by transgender men who are very feminine but who still have their penises. I am majorly turned on by my own and other penises, but only if women are attached to them. LOL. Its like the further removed they are from their "maleness" the more I find them sexually attractive (as long as the penis is still fully intact and functioning that is).
But I am NOT attracted to men who have had complete sex changes to full women (THAT turns me off too, because of the genital mutilation factor, that totally turns me off completely)

I just find it really interesting, regarding my major obsession with anal towards women, so much so that scat porn regarding women's poop really turns me on like nothing else can.
But I have ZERO sexual interest towards full, (non-trans) men.

To be very clear, I'm NOT Bi-Curious. I do not want to become bi or gay and do not at all plan on it. Its proven to be impossible anyway. The feelings just aren't there, period.
But why am I so attracted to these 2 very closely related fetishes but at the same time so sexually turned off by full-maleness?

I want your honest opinions on this brothers.

Here are a few questions I have for you: Please answer honestly

1. How is it that you are only sexually attracted to men? I mean I can totally understand Bi-Sexuality. But I do not understand 100% Homosexuality. But I do want more insight into how you internally feel.
2. Do you specifically feel turned off by women or just not feel anything at all one way or the other? Is it just that you do not get turned on at all by women?
3. How is it that the smell of a man and his ass turns you on? Does the smell of a woman and her ass smell more stinky to you or something? Please describe HOW you feel regarding these 2 things.

I mean, personally I'm hugely turned on by the smell of women's poop and everything to do with their butt-holes but when it comes to a guy, the smell is just horrendous every time. Its so fucking gross to me.
I guess, what it comes down to for me is I can't understand HOW a man could not feel sexual attraction to a woman? They exude so many sweet smelling pheromones all the time 24/7.
Their bodies just exude a "cleanliness" factor, that no matter how physically dirty they may be their exuding of pheromones still smells better to me than the best smelling guy.

HELP ME UNDERSTAND YOU BETTER BROTHERS. I have always found that Bi and Gay Men tend to be much more open and far better communicators in general.

 

[invisibleman]

I really want to get a glimpse into how you see the opposite sex.




What I find really strange however is the fact that gay sex IS anal sex to a major degree.

I have literally tried to induce in my mind into specifically sexual feelings towards men I already like in other ways just to see if it was possible in me. No matter what, I get majorly turned off by the thought of actually having sex with a man. Like really grossed out at the thought. The smell of men's bodies and their shit is just nasty as hell to me, there is literally no bigger turn-off I can think of.
(I used to seriously hate gayness in men when I was younger, but now I can understand that other people have their own sexual feelings that I will never be able to relate to and I accept that. As my anal and scat obsession towards women is considered REALLY WEIRD and just plain gross by many, including 100% gay men)




I am majorly turned on by Futanari fantasy themes (full-fledged women with penises) and somewhat by transgender men who are very feminine but who still have their penises. I am majorly turned on by my own and other penises, but only if women are attached to them. LOL. Its like the further removed they are from their "maleness" the more I find them sexually attractive (as long as the penis is still fully intact and functioning that is).
But I am NOT attracted to men who have had complete sex changes to full women (THAT turns me off too, because of the genital mutilation factor, that totally turns me off completely)

I just find it really interesting, regarding my major obsession with anal towards women, so much so that scat porn regarding women's poop really turns me on like nothing else can.
But I have ZERO sexual interest towards full, (non-trans) men.

To be very clear, I'm NOT Bi-Curious. I do not want to become bi or gay and do not at all plan on it. Its proven to be impossible anyway. The feelings just aren't there, period.
But why am I so attracted to these 2 very closely related fetishes but at the same time so sexually turned off by full-maleness?

I want your honest opinions on this.

Here are a few questions I have for you: Please answer

1. How is it that you are only sexually attracted to men? I mean I can totally understand Bi-Sexuality. But I do not understand 100% Homosexuality. But I do want more insight into how you internally feel.
2. Do you specifically feel turned off by women or just not feel anything at all one way or the other? Is it just that you do not get turned on at all by women?
3. How is it that the smell of a man and his ass turns you on? Does the smell of a woman and her ass smell more stinky to you or something? Please describe HOW you feel regarding these 2 things.

I mean, personally I'm hugely turned on by the smell of women's poop and everything to do with their butt-holes but when it comes to a guy, the smell is just horrendous every time. Its so fucking gross to me.
I guess, what it comes down to for me is I can't understand HOW a man could not feel sexual attraction to a woman? They exude so many sweet smelling pheromones all the time 24/7.
Their bodies just exude a "cleanliness" factor, that no matter how physically dirty they may be their exuding of pheromones still smells better to me than the best smelling guy.

Generally...not everything is all about anal sex with gay men. You have revealed your personal fetishes. I don't have an extended opinion on yours. I think people have fetishes as individual as a fingerprint or a snowflake. Or some don't have any defined fetishes. Who knows.

At my basis, I am not attracted to the female form. (Nothing personal to females.) It is what it is. I have never had a desire for women and urges to "get with" them. I do remember having desires for men and not really acknowledging them as desires--at those times. What do teens who get taught sex ed and about puberty in the early 80s? That boys get feelings for women. You find women fascinating.

I went through puberty and didn't get those feelings. I did find out that I had sexual feelings for men. And I was okay with that...but others in my life weren't so okay. (I was okay about my sexuality. It wasn't all about anal sex...it was all about looking at men and finding the right men that were all right with me. I had crushes on all sorts of men. I didn't know any better. I didn't have a gay men's support group. But when I found a gay men's support group...and met a few guys that liked me...it was like a bird to the air.

There are some hot looking straight men...there are some cute straight men. I don't even bother with chasing after them or being disrespectful. I don't push myself on any man.

I think some guys have amazing looking butts and legs. I don't have a smell fetish or that sort of thing. I just hope the guy I am with is very clean. Maybe some pheromones are involved. Everything is so scientific these days. We are compelled by something.

 

[Scotty Pecker]

Generally...not everything is all about anal sex with gay men. You have revealed your personal fetishes. I don't have an extended opinion on yours. I think people have fetishes as individual as a fingerprint or a snowflake. Or some don't have any defined fetishes. Who knows.

At my basis, I am not attracted to the female form. (Nothing personal to females.) It is what it is. I have never had a desire for women and urges to "get with" them. I do remember having desires for men and not really acknowledging them as desires--at those times. What do teens who get taught sex ed and about puberty in the early 80s? That boys get feelings for women. You find women fascinating.

I went through puberty and didn't get those feelings. I did find out that I had sexual feelings for men. And I was okay with that...but others in my life weren't so okay. (I was okay about my sexuality. It wasn't all about anal sex...it was all about looking at men and finding the right men that were all right with me. I had crushes on all sorts of men. I didn't know any better. I didn't have a gay men's support group. But when I found a gay men's support group...and met a few guys that liked me...it was like a bird to the air.

There are some hot looking straight men...there are some cute straight men. I don't even bother with chasing after them or being disrespectful. I don't push myself on any man.

I think some guys have amazing looking butts and legs. I don't have a smell fetish or that sort of thing. I just hope the guy I am with is very clean. Maybe some pheromones are involved. Everything is so scientific these days. We are compelled by something.

Thanks for the insight and response. I actually find it very interesting to read about other men's sexual interests even if I do not relate to them in terms of how I personally feel. Its fascinates me how there is such a vast worldwide gay community. Its seems its as big as the straight community these days. One thing I do like about alot of gay men that cracks me up is how open they are about their sexual attraction to me. I know for a fact that it would be so damn easy to get with a guy almost instantly if I was bi or gay (bi and gay men are frequently and openly expressing interest). With women there is always so much more work involved to even get near the bedroom, its pretty ridiculous, LOL
How much bigger did you get by the way?

 

[WillyLong]

1. How is it that you are only sexually attracted to men? I mean I can totally understand Bi-Sexuality. But I do not understand 100% Homosexuality. But I do want more insight into how you internally feel.
2. Do you specifically feel turned off by women or just not feel anything at all one way or the other? Is it just that you do not get turned on at all by women?
3. How is it that the smell of a man and his ass turns you on? Does the smell of a woman and her ass smell more stinky to you or something? Please describe HOW you feel regarding these 2 things.

HELP ME UNDERSTAND YOU BETTER BROTHERS. I have always found that Bi and Gay Men tend to be much more open and far better communicators in general.

1. I've occasionally found women attractive, but the attraction hasn't been strong enough for me to want to do anything sexually with them. If Vanessa Williams threw her right stuff at me, I'd probably go for it, but the chances of that happening are slim to none.
2. I don't feel anything at all, one way or the other, toward women. I can admire a beautiful woman, the same way I can admire a beautiful painting or sculpture, but that's about it.
3. I'm not turned on by the smell of ass, be it male, female, or trans-gendered.

Questions for you:

A. Why do you want to bypass a woman's vagina for a woman's ass?
B. Please elaborate more on your women with penises fantasy. What would you do if you got a Futanarian in bed?

 

[328982]

But why am I so attracted to these 2 very closely related fetishes but at the same time so sexually turned off by full-maleness?

I don't know and I don't care. Shit is shit.

 

[Badunkbadonk]

I liked girls at the age when all the boys were hanging out with each other. They called me names for hanging out with girls. My friendship with girls remained, but I was sexually attracted to men. Other guys would catch me crotch watching and call me names..
My fetish was big dicks. I didn't know what I wanted them for, I just wanted to play with them. Butts and blow jobs never crossed my mind until later in life.

I saw a Hustler magazine with a picture of Sulka, the she-male, who was very well-endowed. She was in a position to anally penetrate the cute jock in the photo shoot. I was so turned on, I think I came in my pants. At the time, I thought, "If I could find someone like her then I would be able to fool my family and friends. I wouldn't have to be gay. But I felt deep envy, too. I wanted to have breasts and a penis so men would like me more. I was very confused and ashamed.

Time marches on...I am a size queen, love big dicks, and don't want breasts on either side of the sexual transaction. My first boyfriend helped me figure out how to enjoy anal sex, and I was hooked. He had a pretty big dick, so I was well-trained to handle the whoppers. I have topped, but I don't like it. That is probably a major difference between us-- you like being in charge and plugging holes.

Pheromones...the smell of a dirty locker room drives me wild. I am attracted to men based on a lot of different factors, but I am sure pheromones play a part. I think women's pheromones smell like "competition" to me. Feel free to ask follow-up questions.

 

[malakos]

What I find really strange however is the fact that gay sex IS anal sex to a major degree.

That is a misconception. There is a large slice of the demographic pie of homosexual men who have little to no interest in anal.

I am majorly turned on by Futanari fantasy themes (full-fledged women with penises) and somewhat by transgender men who are very feminine but who still have their penises.

I'd recommend brushing up on your terminology. If you're going to reference the transgender concept, you should know that a biological male who is transgender most likely is what is commonly called a "trans woman", based off of their gender identity.

But why am I so attracted to these 2 very closely related fetishes but at the same time so sexually turned off by full-maleness?

Because they actually are, theoretically, potentially, and often manifestly, totally separate things. The anus is a thing, a thing on both genders, same thing with poop. Clearly there has to be another determining factor as to why someone would be attracted to specifically one sex or the other.

Here are a few questions I have for you: Please answer honestly

Jsyk, in part I'm going to be answering myself and you should be aware that you cannot generalize homosexual men based off of these answers (or those of other posters), as there is a diversity of inclinations.

1. How is it that you are only sexually attracted to men? I mean I can totally understand Bi-Sexuality. But I do not understand 100% Homosexuality. But I do want more insight into how you internally feel.

It's possible I'm not the most perfect poster to be answering these questions, as I don't have same revulsion to "normal" women as you do to "masculine" men. And maybe I even have a sexual curiosity about women (albeit it sounds like in a way you do for men too). However, I have no abiding or apparent substantial attraction to women, so I think I still qualify.

For me, there are a number of aspects of why men are so hot. One of the main ones I think is the sculpting of the male physique. I do think women are beautiful, but I think in most cases the female physique is more subtle (except for the breasts and the pelvis of course). But with a man there are many aspects that seem designed for performance and showing off. The legs. The arms. The chest/pecs. Not to mention the face. A fine male jaw is really magnificent.

2. Do you specifically feel turned off by women or just not feel anything at all one way or the other? Is it just that you do not get turned on at all by women?

No, I definitely don't have a mirror of your revulsion of men, and I am not specifically turned off by women. Nor are my feelings just a disinterested neutrality. I am sort of bicurious. Yet I don't have any experience of being obviously turned on by a woman specifically and succinctly (as opposed to a woman in connection to a man). I thought I was heterosexual up to a certain point in my development, but I realized that I had been quite mistaken about that. Even the "bisexual" thing fell through after I had been watching gay porn for a while and realized I didn't react in at all the same way to porn involving only women.

3. How is it that the smell of a man and his ass turns you on? Does the smell of a woman and her ass smell more stinky to you or something? Please describe HOW you feel regarding these 2 things.

I mean, personally I'm hugely turned on by the smell of women's poop and everything to do with their butt-holes but when it comes to a guy, the smell is just horrendous every time. Its so fucking gross to me.
I guess, what it comes down to for me is I can't understand HOW a man could not feel sexual attraction to a woman? They exude so many sweet smelling pheromones all the time 24/7.
Their bodies just exude a "cleanliness" factor, that no matter how physically dirty they may be their exuding of pheromones still smells better to me than the best smelling guy.

Well, keep in mind that for most people (hetero, bi, or homo), there isn't going to be the same appeal to smells or ass as in your case. However, in my case I definitely do get off on man smells (in moderate concentrations). To the extent that I have an fwb I'm planning on meeting with soon and I've asked if he would be willing to skip using soap on his pits and groin for a day or two before seeing me. Male pheremones (of which the armpits, the groin, and the scalp are the three major centers of concentration) can be quite tantalizing, seducing, and entrancing to me. On the other hand, I have zero interest in feces either way. The only way I'm able to appreciate a man's anus in the way you have in mind is if he's pretty clean there. Maybe if he cleaned and hasn't defecated since but it's been a couple hours, that semi-fresh anus smell could be nice.

Smell of a woman and her ass? I'm not sure why you think I would have much experience with this? I haven't fooled around with women hardly at all, let alone around their asses, so I really have no clue. And it's not like I can catch a whiff of their ass (or that of most men for that matter) just in everyday mundane exchanges.

I think you are in part right about your sense of "cleanness" (although I don't know that it's the best word choice). This could probably be chalked up to the fact that woman generally have less hair than men (hair traps pheromones and if left without rinsing out gradually produces bad smells) and less testosterone, which I think is responsible to some extent for the unique smell of men. But that is precisely one of the reasons I don't find women sexually interesting. They (often) don't register as having much of a smell to me.

HELP ME UNDERSTAND YOU BETTER BROTHERS. I have always found that Bi and Gay Men tend to be much more open and far better communicators in general.

That's interesting and is perhaps a valid experience. My own over the past few years had indicated that most people, across such demographics, is equally bad with it.

 

[deleted1048037]

Well, my sexuality is like the weather. I have days where I think men are more attractive than women and some days I think women are more attractive than men. I have always thought everyone is bisexual because I go by the theory, there are no straight lines in nature, which says to me human beings can't be narrow minded as much as they can sometimes convince themselves they are. I am definitely more attracted to men, because men just want have fun with sex. Women I find take it a bit more serious in most cases. Also, they are the same gender so you understand them more, for example you might have a better idea of what turns them on, you have a rough idea of what is gonna be painful (depending on what your into) and I think men can have more in common with each other (sports, films, mannerisms) which can make being with a guy a lot less stressful and complicated which allows you to relax and just enjoy sex. I mean with sex you have to feel comfortable with the other person otherwise the magic ain't gonna happen Anyways, I think both men and woman have something to offer and are beautiful in their own ways as two separate genders. Just trying to explain being gay I suppose. I don't know...

 

[902369]

No desire to be with women relationship wise or sexually. Like men. Like big dicks in my mouth and ass. I will admit it's much more difficult to find compatibility with other gay men than if I were straight and looking for a girlfriend. This is because most people are straight so opportunities are always around the corner and because most gays (like me) are bottoms looking for tops!

 

[Scotty Pecker]

1. I've occasionally found women attractive, but the attraction hasn't been strong enough for me to want to do anything sexually with them. If Vanessa Williams threw her right stuff at me, I'd probably go for it, but the chances of that happening are slim to none.
2. I don't feel anything at all, one way or the other, toward women. I can admire a beautiful woman, the same way I can admire a beautiful painting or sculpture, but that's about it.
3. I'm not turned on by the smell of ass, be it male, female, or trans-gendered.

Questions for you:

A. Why do you want to bypass a woman's vagina for a woman's ass?
B. Please elaborate more on your women with penises fantasy. What would you do if you got a Futanarian in bed?

I honestly find everything about a woman's ass sexually attractive, the smell, what comes out, everything. The ass is much tighter and it is so much more of a "taboo"/forbidden place to enter into. The fact that it is very rare to find a woman who absolutely loves anal without just "agreeing to it" to please her partner is a factor I honestly find quite annoying. Little to no risk of pregnancy with anal is definitely a convenience factor. More convenient for condom free sex. There is something so sexy about penetrating the anus of a woman, its like penetrating her very being much more than vaginal.

I'd love to give anal to a Futanari chick and then suck each others cocks. I'd want to rub my cock between her big, jiggly breasts. I honestly wish that hermaphrodites with long cocks were born naturally in this world, who are full female except for their long cocks. (It might be possible in the future) Men who have partially transitioned to women hormonally, somewhat fit the bill, but I just can't get the fact that they used to be full men out of my head and that tends to turn me off. That is why I stray much more to the fantasy side of Futanari stuff. I just find it interesting how drastically turned off by men I am but very much attracted to other penises.

 

[invisibleman]

How much bigger did you get by the way?

I got 1/2 inch longer. I was 7" X 7".
But I am now 7 1/2" long by 7" girth.
Didn't do any penile enlargement sh*t.
Didn't tie my dick to a bowling ball and toss it over a bridge, either.

 

[Scotty Pecker]

I liked girls at the age when all the boys were hanging out with each other. They called me names for hanging out with girls. My friendship with girls remained, but I was sexually attracted to men. Other guys would catch me crotch watching and call me names.
My fetish was big dicks. I didn't know what I wanted them for, I just wanted to play with them. Butts and blow jobs never crossed my mind until later in life.

I saw a Hustler magazine with a picture of Sulka, the she-male, who was very well-endowed. She was in a position to anally penetrate the cute jock in the photo shoot. I was so turned on, I think I came in my pants. At the time, I thought, "If I could find a 'she-male' then I would be able to fool my family and friends. I wouldn't have to be gay. But I felt deep envy, too. I wanted to have breasts and a penis so men would like me more. I was very confused and ashamed.

Time marches on...I am a size queen, love big dicks, and don't want breasts on either side of the sexual transaction. My first boyfriend helped me figure out how to enjoy anal sex, and I was hooked. He had a pretty big dick, so I was well-trained to handle the whoppers. I have topped, but I don't like it. That is probably a major difference between us-- you like being in charge and plugging holes.

Pheromones...the smell of a dirty locker room drives me wild. I am attracted to men based on a lot of different factors, but I am sure pheromones play a part. I think women's pheromones smell like "competition" to me. Feel free to ask follow-up questions.

Wow, I love your detailed answers. That gives me alot of insight, thanks. How women smell like actual competition to you I find very intriguing. I am amazed at how wide and varied the mindsets are within the gay community towards women.
What is it about the submissive/receiving end of things that does not turn you on so much? What is more pleasurable about sexually receiving in that way?

I have a major fantasy of being able to change into a Futanari woman and giving anal sex to tons of big butt, motherly women one after the other. (I'll likely enact this in my pornos, LOL) Its weird because I want to give women anal so badly but have just about ZERO interest in vaginal, in fact I want to avoid vaginal entirely as I do not want to even risk getting a woman pregnant. It honestly makes it hard to have relationships with any women at all. I have such a huge sex drive, but no real outlet that satisfies me yet. This is why I feel porn is the only place for me to live this dream. Once I enlarge to the length I really want, I'll start producing 100% anal thrusting porn, mostly variations of doggy style, all day long, that's my goal, LOL.

 

[Scotty Pecker]

I got 1/2 inch longer. I was 7" X 7".
But I am now 7 1/2" long by 7" girth.
Didn't do any penile enlargement sh*t.
Didn't tie my dick to a bowling ball and toss it over a bridge, either.

Wow, you just naturally grew from lifestyle and diet? That's rad man!

 

[invisibleman]

Thanks for the insight and response. One thing I do like about alot of gay men that cracks me up is how open they are about their sexual attraction to me. I know for a fact that it would be so damn easy to get with a guy almost instantly if I was bi or gay (bi and gay men are frequently and openly expressing interest). With women there is always so much more work involved to even get near the bedroom, its pretty ridiculous, LOL

I guess I can relate to that. I had a few women wink at me. (Or they were adjusting a contact lens in their eyes or something.)

Yeah...I feel for straight dudes who try hard to get with women...and women don't want to be gotten...or they are just different altogether. Maybe you probably need to move where women are more freer sexually...maybe Brazil...somewhere tropical. (I want some Brazilian men.) *woof*

 

[Scotty Pecker]

No desire to be with women relationship wise or sexually. Like men. Like big dicks in my mouth and ass. I will admit it's much more difficult to find compatibility with other gay men than if I were straight and looking for a girlfriend. This is because most people are straight so opportunities are always around the corner and because most gays (like me) are bottoms looking for tops!

Wow. Bottoms looking for tops. It never really dawned on me how difficult that might actually be. I sort of had an assumption that gay men were totally happy with either top or bottom and that it would be much easier to find men for this very reason.
I guess for me, the major difficulty in finding women who shared interests is because I want to give women anal so badly that I either avoid the topic altogether cause I don't want to creep them out or gross them out and things just flicker out or the women who ARE into it are just plain nasty in other ways, being overly slutty, unclean bodies, etc.

So from your experience men who specifically like to be the pecker thrusters are really rare to come by?

 

[Scotty Pecker]

That is a misconception. There is a large slice of the demographic pie of homosexual men who have little to no interest in anal.



I'd recommend brushing up on your terminology. If you're going to reference the transgender concept, you should know that a biological male who is transgender most likely is what is commonly called a "trans woman", based off of their gender identity.



Because they actually are, theoretically, potentially, and often manifestly, totally separate things. The anus is a thing, a thing on both genders, same thing with poop. Clearly there has to be another determining factor as to why someone would be attracted to specifically one sex or the other.



Jsyk, in part I'm going to be answering myself and you should be aware that you cannot generalize homosexual men based off of these answers (or those of other posters), as there is a diversity of inclinations.



It's possible I'm not the most perfect poster to be answering these questions, as I don't have same revulsion to "normal" women as you do to "masculine" men. And maybe I even have a sexual curiosity about women (albeit it sounds like in a way you do for men too). However, I have no abiding or apparent substantial attraction to women, so I think I still qualify.

For me, there are a number of aspects of why men are so hot. One of the main ones I think is the sculpting of the male physique. I do think women are beautiful, but I think in most cases the female physique is more subtle (except for the breasts and the pelvis of course). But with a man there are many aspects that seem designed for performance and showing off. The legs. The arms. The chest/pecs. Not to mention the face. A fine male jaw is really magnificent.



No, I definitely don't have a mirror of your revulsion of men, and I am not specifically turned off by women. Nor are my feelings just a disinterested neutrality. I am sort of bicurious. Yet I don't have any experience of being obviously turned on by a woman specifically and succinctly (as opposed to a woman in connection to a man). I thought I was heterosexual up to a certain point in my development, but I realized that I had been quite mistaken about that. Even the "bisexual" thing fell through after I had been watching gay porn for a while and realized I didn't react in at all the same way to porn involving only women.



Well, keep in mind that for most people (hetero, bi, or homo), there isn't going to be the same appeal to smells or ass as in your case. However, in my case I definitely do get off on man smells (in moderate concentrations). To the extent that I have an fwb I'm planning on meeting with soon and I've asked if he would be willing to skip using soap on his pits and groin for a day or two before seeing me. Male pheremones (of which the armpits, the groin, and the scalp are the three major centers of concentration) can be quite tantalizing, seducing, and entrancing to me. On the other hand, I have zero interest in feces either way. The only way I'm able to appreciate a man's anus in the way you have in mind is if he's pretty clean there. Maybe if he cleaned and hasn't defecated since but it's been a couple hours, that semi-fresh anus smell could be nice.

Smell of a woman and her ass? I'm not sure why you think I would have much experience with this? I haven't fooled around with women hardly at all, let alone around their asses, so I really have no clue. And it's not like I can catch a whiff of their ass (or that of most men for that matter) just in everyday mundane exchanges.

I think you are in part right about your sense of "cleanness" (although I don't know that it's the best word choice). This could probably be chalked up to the fact that woman generally have less hair than men (hair traps pheromones and if left without rinsing out gradually produces bad smells) and less testosterone, which I think is responsible to some extent for the unique smell of men. But that is precisely one of the reasons I don't find women sexually interesting. They (often) don't register as having much of a smell to me.



That's interesting and is perhaps a valid experience. My own over the past few years had indicated that most people, across such demographics, is equally bad with it.

Thanks for the reply. That's interesting that not all gay men are into other men's asses necessarily.

It seems my specific fetish is much less common than I originally thought. I guess the main thing I can relate to regarding gay men is the fact that my own sexual interests are considered really perverse and gross by tons of people too. I am turned on by such things partly because they are seen as so perverse, taboo and gross.
I guess I just can't get how someone could like anal and not also be attracted to fecal matter as well. For me the 2 go hand in hand. But, not everyone sees it that way I guess. I think its funny actually how popular anal porn is but how much less popular scat porn is and the poop side of the equation. I mean just think, if in a mainstream porn video the hot women did not clean their asses out at all before the scenes. Probably only a small fraction of those watching would actually be turned on by it.

I see people who talk about how they love anal porn so much turn right around and emphasize how gross it would be if poop came out. I'm like, but that's what the butt-hole DOES, its designed for pooping. So why not be turned on by that too?
Anyway, there will always be such a fetish community wanting good material, and I feel that is what I was born to do.
I remember having a very vivid dream where I was thrusting my penis into a woman's butt-hole and she said: "Ugh, You were born for this", I honestly have never felt so manly or accomplished in my life. I just pray that dream turns into reality.

 

[902369]

Wow. Bottoms looking for tops. It never really dawned on me how difficult that might actually be. I sort of had an assumption that gay men were totally happy with either top or bottom and that it would be much easier to find men for this very reason.
I guess for me, the major difficulty in finding women who shared interests is because I want to give women anal so badly that I either avoid the topic altogether cause I don't want to creep them out or gross them out and things just flicker out or the women who ARE into it are just plain nasty in other ways, being overly slutty, unclean bodies, etc.

So from your experience men who specifically like to be the pecker thrusters are really rare to come by?

Not rare but the pecker thrusters are (I believe) to be the minority. The majority are pecker takers. There's also those that do both. I also think that who you look (fortunately or unfortunately) will determine what people might think you are. I'm tall so people automatically assume I'm a pecker thruster.

 

[umdoistressilvaquatro]

It seems to me you are more interest in getting a glimpse of your own psychology

 

[Scotty Pecker]

It seems to me you are more interest in getting a glimpse of your own psychology

That's part of the reason yes and learning more about yours helps with that.

 

[umdoistressilvaquatro]

That's part of the reason yes and learning more about yours helps with that.

Maybe a more direct form or inquiry would be better for self-knowledge? I think your question, or at least part of it, can be summed to "how can I like ass if liking ass is a gay thing and I'm not gay". You have asked how can a man be exclusively attracted to the other men, but that isn't really related to anal sex; a bisexual man is also interest men's asses and in anal sex with men. You are already aware that anal sex is not exclusivity of gay men. So where is the contradiction you feel to have found between your tastes and your self-identification? Can you point to something more specifical?