100% Gay or 100% Straight or 20% Gay or 80% Straight What RU

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  1. ecjc2000

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    Hi Everyone,

    If I define myself I would have to say I am 100% gay. I have tried to have sex with a women a couple of time and it just doesn't do it for me.

    I am interested in creating a discussion in where in this galexy of sexuality do we all think we fit into. More importantly in situation where we feel that we may be say 20 gay and 80 straight ... would you consider sleeping with another person of the same sex but not have a relationship or would you consider a threesome with your girl/boy friend but have the same sex as yourself and want to be sexual with the same sex third party....

    Likewise if you were 80% gay and 20% straight in what situation would you engage in your 20% of straightness.

    I am interest in what you have listed on your profile and why you selected that option. Especially those who choose 1% gay/straight....

    I think its great that we are all different ... I wish I could want the best of both worlds and am completely jelous of that. Am really to hear all of your different responces...

    Happy Days Everyone

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    Entering 1% straight gay works nicely.
     
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    I wish I could say that I'm 100% straight, because I envy those guys that are or seem to be. It sure would save me from a lot of pain and social ostracism from my past.
     
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    You can say whatever you want to say. It's what you do that seems to be an issue, isn't it?

    I struggled with this rating thing myself for awhile, and there certainly is no science to it. I could call myself 100% straight, but that doesn't change the fact that I do notice the males around me, and like it if they notice me. I've had m2m sex on more than one occasion, and it definitely is past the "experimenting" stage.

    Yet, I live as a straight man, married, kids, mini-van, the works. And if someone asked me how I view myself, I would answer "straight." Behaviorally, though, it's certainly not 100%. But what is? I don't think I'm 100% anything. Are you?
     
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    Nice, clear-thinking explanation and background story, cgttown. I could echo much of that.

    I'm happily married for long time, but I still get that exciting feeling when I see an attractive guy. I chose 70% straight/30% gay because, even though no longer having m2m sex (or any sex with a partner outside marriage), I still get turned on by solo male or m2m j/o & bj porn, and sometimes fantasize about past or potential m2m sex.
     
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    I have only been a member of this forum for about a week now, and
    when I joined it was the first time that I had ever given my sexuality a
    label, including the designation of Gay & Bisexual. To most people, I have always lived a hetrosexual lifestyle. There are only a small, select number
    of people who know that I also have gay leanings, and they respect my space in this regard.

    I have always thought that giving labels to sexuality is stupid. Now,
    during the last few days, I've been seriously rethinking my reasoning
    about sticking myself with one of these stupid labels. With regards to stating that I was % Gay and % Straight (which supposidly means BI),
    it just doesn't seem to fit or to be correct, and it worries me. I'm not sure I want to be stuck with that type of label. Not because of the possible negative connotations that are attached to these two words by many,
    nor the reactions of others towards myself (either acceptance, or non-acceptance), but, as I say, because it just doesn't ring true. Of course everyone wants to be welcomed, accepted and liked/loved no matter what, but I'm afraid the world just doesn't reason or work that way. So, I am begining to have second thoughts.

    I am certainly not ashammed of having an attaction to men. Nor am I
    ashammed because I am "also" attracted to women. As far as I am concerned, I just enjoy sex, period! I'm just a very sensual and multi-sexual individual and I feel very fortunate to be able to thoroughly enjoy and to be satisfied by both men and women.

    The term Bisexual, in most dictionaries, states 1) of both sexes, 2) having both male and female sex organs, 3) sexually attracted by both sexes. Well, I certainly don't fit the first 2 explanations, and the 3rd, which is not always listed in older dictionaries, just lets me squeak by.

    I prefer the explanation given in another, newer dictionary for MULTI-SEXUAL. It gives only one description: the ability to be attracted to and to enjoy sex with one of the same or opposite sex.

    So, I think I am 100% MULTI-SEXUAL with no percentages attached.
    I will not change what I have listed on this site, because there is no label for a Multi-Sexual, so it will stay although I don't believe it is correct.

    What do some of you think? I would be interested in your comments.
    Thanks.




    myselft tha since why should I be thought less of just because I have given myself a label that is not 100% acceptable to all?
     
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    I'm 50% graight and 50% stay
     
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    I find discussion like this very fascinating. I don't like labels and think that the human need to classify and categorise is inadequate for the description of sexual orientation (and other psychological classifications).

    My PhD thesis in 1981 demonstrated that how men label themselves has no 1to1 concordance with what they actually do in terms of sexual behaviour. some guys have had more same sex partners and same sex episodes and still see themselves as 100% straight. Some have never had sex with a guy and are happily married with 5 or 6 children, have sex with their wives 3 times a week and label themselves 100% gay.

    Some theorists have suggested that we treat homosexuality and heterosexuality separately. So, someone might be 15% gay and 61% straight or 100% on both or whatever. The idea is that we can be high on both, low on both, middling on both, or high on one and low or middling on the other - all combinations.

    Is orientation decided by behaviour, preference, fantasy, emotions or what? None of these is entirely satisfactory. It could be argued that each person has his or her own unique sexual orientation.

    I don't think that there are many people who are truly 100% gay or straight.

    Society and culture play a large role in constraining how we see ourselves, on how we behave and how we define sexual orientation. There are fewer self declared gay and bisexual men in heavily homophobic societies.

    In some cultures a man who is a "top" (whether with men or women or both) is seen as fully male and fully heterosexual. But if he allows a guy to fuck him or he sucks a cock then he is regarded as gay - even if he actually prefers sex with women.

    In other cultures, some same sex action is seen as a necessary part of life. Until you get married you must only have sex with your own sex. Thereafter same-sex activities are expected to cease.

    Complex issue! Not really open to simplistic categorisations.
     
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    I've always considered myself a repressed bi. I've sex with two different women and enjoyed it. But I've had sex with hundreds of men and prefer it.

    I think it might be too late for me to have the MMF threesome (or moresome) I've always fantasized about.
     
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    Fascinating comments, Sykray.

    Both of these paragraphs remind me of aspects of ancient Greek (i.e., Athenian or perhaps Ionian in the former case, and Spartan in the latter), as I understand it, superficial though my knowledge is on the subject.

    I agree with your views on the essential futility of labels, whether about sexuality or ethnicity or what have you, and it often seems to be a rather modern phenomenon.
     
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    i would deff. have to say 100 percent Straight here, in that i have never even wodered about sex with another man...
     
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    I've had sex with both guys and gals, but I am totally into guys. I chose 100%.
     
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    interesting that the number of long dead threads have been brought back to life recently.

    i use 90/10 because i have had oral sex with a woman, mmf style, and thought it would be gross. it wasn't. is it my preference? not at all.

    the cool thing about this board. sexuality runs the range. just be who you are and don't worry about it. some are 100 pct one way or another. alot on here are not.
     
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