Why I prefer open and poly relationships over closed and monogamous ones. Sure a lot of these reasons can apply to monogamous couples, but these reasons are much more applicable to poly relationships. 1. I don't have to be the one perfect partner for any of my partners. If there are certain needs, interests, or activities that I want that I can't provide, they are free to have relationships with others. 2. I don't expect any of my partners to be everything for me. If you love somebody, why put such a high expectation on them? 3. If my partners are happy dating others, then I have happy partners. That's great because if they are happy, then that adds to my happiness. 4. If I have a disagreement with my partner, I can ask one of their other partners for advice. I can also ask my friends or my partner's friends about this, but I've discovered the most insightful advice comes from my partner's other partners because they know that person so well. 5. If one of my partners has certain habits I don't like, I can check with their other partners to see how they deal with it. 6. If I have a behavior that annoys my partners, they can discuss it amongst themselves to see if it is me or just their reaction to me that gets them annoyed. 7. If I want to date somebody new, all I have to do is chat with my current partners. Unlike monogamous people who either have to deny their interest in others, cheat, or break up. 8. I like the fact that if somebody is not good to their partners in bed or out of bed, word gets around the poly community and that person generally soon has no partners. 9. If one of my partners is not interested in sex at that moment, I can ask another partner and there are no hurt feelings. If a monogamous person is not in the mood, then their partner doesn't get their needs for sexual enjoyment met. 10. If I am not in the mood for a certain kind of sex, I can encourage my partners to ask another. 11. I get to enjoy a wide variety of sexual activities and sexual styles.