18 year old gets a Vasectomy

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  1. B_hung1988

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    Yesterday I took one of my best friends to get a vasectomy, not a big deal but he is 2 weeks past his 18th birthday and just finished his senior year in high school. He said this is what he always wanted but I think it has to do with his girlfriend getting pregnant when he was 15 but they baby turned out not to be his. I don't think I could ever get the snip-snip

    Do you guys think 18 is to young?
     
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    yes I think it's too young! especially if he doesn't have any kids yet.

    Long history of abuse? horrific disease run in the family? Wanting to stop the bloodline?

    it can be reversed with another surgery but still... I hope he made the right decision
     
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    I'm surprised a doctor would snip someone that young. as he gets older, the urge and need to have/raise a child may change from what it is now.
     
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    i'm supprised they did it too, unless there was a medical reason for doing it...

    Even though i know it's his wishes, i would have an ethical issue with doing that if i was a Doctor, unless i was certain he fully understood what he was doing - i would need to make sure he was mentally sound.

    Even though it can be 'reversed', the longer it's been done for, the harder it is to reverse....
     
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    Wow, if that's what he wants to do...I guess he is old enough to decide. But I'm 18, and I can't even imagining getting a vasectomy.
     
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    bad decision..unless he is geneticly flawed and does not want to pass along bad genes...i doubt an 18 yr old thinks that far out...poor guy...asshole doctor
     
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    If he is of majority age, it's absolutely his right to have it done.

    I have never had any desire, and still have no desire, to have children. When I was still exploring my orientation, I took precautions to ensure I would not get anyone pregnant. Now that I am exclusively gay, it's not an issue. I probably would not have made that decision before age 20, but it would not have been long after that, if I had continued having sex with women.
     
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    Most places around here wont do it unless your in your 30s or have had kids already.
     
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    he's too young, unless he wants to stop his own gene pool. it is reversible but i would not want to go thru that. I was 38 when i had my vasectomy done, and had 3 children by my wife, and possibly fathered 2 more before i met and married her.
     
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    He's old enough to join the Army, go overseas, and kill people but not old enough to choose a vasectomy for himself? Really?
     
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    Wow Steve, what a moodkiller you are.

    None the less, my mom said that even with 5 kids that a doctor asked them and reasked them a dozen times about if they were sure they wanted a vasectomy. I know a few women who got their tubes tied before having kids and the docs were hesitant but did it.

    It probably depends on the doctor. I know when i talked to my urologist about my husband getting one that he didn't even reask me about it, he said sure send him on in and i can do it in a few minutes.
     
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    Hell yes, it's too young! Your friend is a moron and the doctor who did it should be hit upside the head with a 2x4.

    Does your casanova friend realize he still has to use condoms to prevent the spread of disease? Plus, not many women are going to believe him when he says, "it's cool baby, I had a vasectomy at 18."


    I agree. Perhaps if he's a practicing Jew and knows he carrys the Tay Sach's gene, which is always fatal for the child, then okay. I'm sure there are other diseases which are equally devastating but that one has been in the news lately.
     
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    Isn't that a little harsh and judgemental? Did you ever consider that he may indeed still wear a condom, but understands that there is a tiny failure rate that he doesn't want to be responsible for?

    It's ignorant for you to call him a moron, and advocate violence against the doctor.

    Plus, it's as much a woman's responsibility as a man's, to deal with birth control. Men have been known to say, "it's cool, baby, I had a vasectomy" as often as women have been known to say, "it's cool, baby, I'm on the pill." Either one is a moron to take the other's word and go bareback.

    How hard is it for a woman to say, "I'm glad you had a vasectomy, but that's not all a condom is for. No glove, no love."




    But the biggest issue is, if he is of majority age, how is it anyone else's business to make such a personal, intimate decision for him? Is it his body, or is it not?
     
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    I know for a fact that if a healthy woman of the same age were to make the same decision, no responsible doctor in the United States would do the surgery. That is the source of my intensity, the double standard. Yes, he's an adult. Who among us thinks exactly the same way at 30+ that we did at 18? I maintain it was a bad decision on both their parts. :cool:


    It is, but I still feel it was a dumb decision.
     
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    Still his decision nonetheless. Even if it does rob him of potentially having kids.
     
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    I think its more likely to happen now that reversals on tubals and vasectomies are possible, though not always likely. But the option is still there even if they tell you not to consider that when making the decision of permanent sterilization.

    I've had several friends get pregnant from reversal and fertility treatments, it cost them a MINT.
     
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    If he REALLY wants kids he can always have sperm aspirated from the testes.

    I agree he's old enough to decide for himself. Once you're 18 you can make all the foolish mistakes you want to.
     
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    He's helping to not over populate this world at least. It's a bit extreme, but I know a few of my friends were strongly against having kids (although your body goes through a natural phase of wanting to keep the legacy passing down so that at least you'll something before you die)
     
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    Before stepping into the frey on this one I gave it a great deal of thought.

    What I think we have here is a great deal of missing information. I think that the young man who sought out the vasectomy had reasons that he was not discussing and had not revealed to the member who posted.

    The fact that the procedure was performed on this young man indicated that there was probably medical reason to do so. Being judgemental of the MD is impossible because again we do not have the information. If the person having the vasectomy was able to show cause for ending a bloodline, he might not reveal this or feel it was the business of the young fellow who authored this posting.

    I would say that this is definitely out of the ordinary, but, I have heard of this one before and I have personally known two couples to whom I would have urged a procedure to not continue their bloodlines for medical reasons.

    There is obviously something missing here, and the author of the thread indeed does have reason to feel for his friend, we all have reasons to question the young man's decision, and most of all we are not in that young man's shoes and must give him the "benefit of the doubt", because if he did bring a bloodline to an end as soon as he was legally able to do so with the purpose of ending suffering or continuing chances at a genetic defect, I actually admire the courage that this young man has shown. If he did it for the right reasons that early, we really need to applaud him for this incredible courage and sacrifice he has made.

    We will never know the whole story.

    As part of the counciling he would have received he would have been given information regarding what a vasectomy can and cannot prevent and he would have been given information on reversal of that procedure.

    My worry in an 18 year old would be the causing of prostate or other genitourinary problems based on an active sex life and his age.

    This is a very tough call.

     
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    I think this guy is awesome, and so is his doc. He's old enough to have a kid, he is old enough to get the snip. I had it done at 23 and only wish it was done earlier. I had an awesome urologist, who took a look at my balls, explained the procedure and the risks, said "So this is it?" and then scheduled the procedure for two weeks later. No problems at all.

    By the way geniuses, condoms fail, and it's not a tiny rate of failure, it's a significant rate. There are many good reasons not to have children, ever. And it is a noble thing not to overpopulate the world.

    So what if he changes his mind? He probably won't. Having a reversal is expensive, a pain, and unreliable. But having an unwanted kid is more expensive and painful, and is irreversible. Can't change your mind about that.
     
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