18 Years Old - Sex Drive Almost Nonexistent

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I was depressed through much of my teens, but didn't seek help until a traumatic experience when I was 23. I am also vehemently anti-chemical (I'm a chemical engineer, and believe that the body heals itself better than medications - vegetarian and pro-natural stuff).

Talk therapy kept me going, but eventually I sunk into deep suicidal thoughts, and decided to try anti-depressants.

All of the SSRIs did bad things to my orgasm (separating ejaculation from orgasm, so I would shoot and contract, with no pleasure release, and that physical sensation only after huge effort).

SNRIs had mixed effect - Wellbutrin kept my libido up (it apparently enhances some dudes), Effexor made me have suicidal thoughts, yet my current drug has kept me coping and out of the suicidal basement. Desvenlafaxine - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia has the stuff for Pristiq. not the chemical similarity between effexor and pristiq (or if you have no chemical knowledge) they are cunningly close.

I can't comment for young women - talk to another.

If you're a young man - try the SSRIs. If you can come while on them - and they will usually make you last longer if that is good for you - then go for them.

If they screw up your orgasms, then you should try wellbutrin and the SNRIs. Give them three weeks to kick in and then evaluate your orgasms.

At the end of the day you need to balance whether your depression and orgasms are more important. Unless I'm unable to get out of bed, no matter how bad my orgasms are, I like having them (I'm just under 40), and I reject a life without ejaculation with orgasm.

Good luck - and shout if you want to pm me about meds
 

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My family biz was the medical field and the main thing that needs to happen here is that you need to have a major conference with the medical professionals (plural) treating you. The therapist needs to know as do those who sign the Rx forms. The main thing is that you need the medication that is correct for you. Your situation is not going to help your depression but add to it. Those in charge of this also need to look carefully and do a multi-level hormone workup. The problem has potential to be totally unrelated to the depression and it may have some other medical cause. That needs to be eliminated and done so 100%.

Scream loud if they do NOT do all of the following hormone panel:

Serum Testosterone Level
Free Floating Testosterone Level
Estiadol Level
DHT Level
Prolactin Level

Serum is what you make, free floating is what you have available for use, Estiadol is the level of Estrogen of female hormone in your body, DHT is what is converted to active and a potent androgen form (remember your sex drive is dependent on DHT a converted testosterone metabolite not on testosterone itself) and finally prolactin. In women prolactin is used to induce milk production and nursing. In men it is a control hormone, if it becomes even slightly elevated it stops erections and causes extreme depression.

The sad truth is that the odds are against proper treatment because medical insurance carriers do not want to spend the money to do it right.

The whole thing or balance in medical terminology is referred to as "the pituitary axis" if any of these are off it can effect the whole balance and it all goes down the drain.

The other reason that you need to pursue this one is that there is a very tiny chance it it is caused by a tumor called a "prolactinoma". It is very easily dealt with and is not something to hit the panic button about. When an 18 year old male suffers from the combination of depression, ED and lack of libido it simply needs to be eliminated from the pile.
 

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you need to take your mind off of things. Do something different and get out. Stop thinking about what is depressing you. I'm just that eventually everything will go back to normal.

lol unfortunately being clinically depressed is not this easy. It's a lot different than the everyday ups and downs that most people go through.
 

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The best advice I can give is to exercise daily, get as much sunlight as possible, and force yourself to be around and talk to people who care about you. For many people, its just a phase of life that will eventually pass, and personally I regret losing years of my life being doped up on medications that deprived me of all emotion entirely. Patience, faith, and perserverance are key, and try to find a way to grow from this.

Best of luck.

I agree with this guy if you start to work out lifting weights especially doing squats that should increase you testosterone and help with your libido and depression and don't think about it too much and stop jacking off that's not helping your situation but that just my2 cents
 
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What a lovely guy, too. :)

Didn't realise the lad in chat is the same guy who started the thread! Awesome bloke, gorgeous face and body - hope all works out well for ya, bud. :)
 

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Yeah, is there an update? I hope all works out well for you. The transition into one's 20s can be really difficult, and a lot of people experience frustrating mental health problems around that time.

Like the others have said, a doctor/psychiatrist can really help. Pharmacotherapy, when well applied, can give you just the lift you need - and if the thought of pills freaks you out at all, remember that it doesn't have to be a forever thing.

You mentioned that you're exercising - that's a great start. Physical activity gets all the good hormones and neurotransmitters pumping away. Do keep at it.

You have all my best wishes. Depression can be a hard thing to fight, but you're joining the battle at a young age. To me, that says you'll have all the skills and supports you need in place before many others who suffer from depression do. And it says you've got a good head on your shoulders :)
 

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What a lovely guy, too. :)

Didn't realise the lad in chat is the same guy who started the thread! Awesome bloke, gorgeous face and body - hope all works out well for ya, bud. :)

Yeah, is there an update? I hope all works out well for you. The transition into one's 20s can be really difficult, and a lot of people experience frustrating mental health problems around that time.

Like the others have said, a doctor/psychiatrist can really help. Pharmacotherapy, when well applied, can give you just the lift you need - and if the thought of pills freaks you out at all, remember that it doesn't have to be a forever thing.

You mentioned that you're exercising - that's a great start. Physical activity gets all the good hormones and neurotransmitters pumping away. Do keep at it.

You have all my best wishes. Depression can be a hard thing to fight, but you're joining the battle at a young age. To me, that says you'll have all the skills and supports you need in place before many others who suffer from depression do. And it says you've got a good head on your shoulders :)

Wow, thanks a lot guys. Very touching.

It's not easy battling the depression but I'm doing well these days. I get bad in the winter, like a lot of people, but when the weather starts getting good and the sun is out, I've noticed I feel a lot better. So yes, I am doing better these days.
 

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Wow, thanks a lot guys. Very touching.

It's not easy battling the depression but I'm doing well these days. I get bad in the winter, like a lot of people, but when the weather starts getting good and the sun is out, I've noticed I feel a lot better. So yes, I am doing better these days.

I'm glad to hear that! I think that the change in seasons really affects us, especially the farther north you go. Given how much technology we live with, we tend to forget how tied to the sun we are.

If I could offer you a bit of advice, it would be to write down everything you're learning about how to fight your depression so that when it starts making its presence known again you can have a checklist of things to do that help you keep on top of things. Also, you'll have a whole ream of advice to offer people when they coming looking to you for help.
 
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Wow, thanks a lot guys. Very touching.

It's not easy battling the depression but I'm doing well these days. I get bad in the winter, like a lot of people, but when the weather starts getting good and the sun is out, I've noticed I feel a lot better. So yes, I am doing better these days.
You're welcome, kiddo. :)

I'm sure if you ever felt down, there'd be plenty on here willing to give ya a big hug. :biggrin1:

But yeh - sun certainly helps. There's a good section on depression in this book favoured by UK Psychologists - not sure if it's available over there tho? And be well, matey - you seem like a great lad. :)
 

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1st step is to recognize you are depressed. you already did that
2nd step identify what caused the depression. (fill in the blanks)
3rd step take action to correct the cause. (fill in the blanks)

ask yourself honestly and answer yourself honestly.
that will resolve most depressive people.

that is what therapy is good for, lets you talk and vent.
and the therapist listens and filters down to the root cause.
then offers up suggestions

for young people many have self worth and self image issues.
sexuality for young people is very difficult as well.

natural remedies are, sunshine for most people, favorite music and doing things you like. Heavy exercise is great as well for serotonin release. (or long cardio- runners high)

these are the simple things you can do

:smile:
 

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i too struggle w/ depression and take meds but i swear dude my sex drive has doubled some days i end up jerking twice
 

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Just like Peter Pan, you gotta find the happy thought to fly! It does work.

I battled depression for years. In my 30s, I began a practice of meditation, which led to my finding The Power of Attraction, which is also known as "The Secret." It is basically saying that in order to transform your experience, you first have to find a way to feel better by focusing on thoughts that feel better. For someone battling depression, this is no easy task. Whenever you are feeling down, the key to bringing yourself out of it is to find better feeling thoughts. Some people use affirmations, some people go out and appreciate nature, some people go do volunteer work...basically, the point it to stop the negative thought pattern and find some way to have better feeling thoughts.

My depression resulted from a long-term habitual pattern of thought that kept me focused on the absence of what I wanted, meaning I thought: I'm not this, I want that, I don't have this, I really wish I had that, nobody loves me, I'm not attractive, life sucks, I feel numb, I'm not good enough...and so on. The truth is, I was the one creating that experience by virtue of my focus on those thoughts.

In any given moment, you have to find a better feeling thought, and then another one, and another. It will be hard at first, because by the time one has had depression for a while, the patterns of thought are pretty ingrained and will creep back all the time.

Depression is a result of a thought pattern that does not feel good. Happiness is a result of a thought pattern that does feel good.

It really is that simple. And yes, once you are on the road to better feeling thoughts, your life experience will be better, and the horny sex will be better for sure.
 
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Im 23 and i feel the same, i just dont have that "spark" i had in my teens, and rarely have that strong deepdown horniness i used to have when i was younger. :(