matelalique
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I was depressed through much of my teens, but didn't seek help until a traumatic experience when I was 23. I am also vehemently anti-chemical (I'm a chemical engineer, and believe that the body heals itself better than medications - vegetarian and pro-natural stuff).
Talk therapy kept me going, but eventually I sunk into deep suicidal thoughts, and decided to try anti-depressants.
All of the SSRIs did bad things to my orgasm (separating ejaculation from orgasm, so I would shoot and contract, with no pleasure release, and that physical sensation only after huge effort).
SNRIs had mixed effect - Wellbutrin kept my libido up (it apparently enhances some dudes), Effexor made me have suicidal thoughts, yet my current drug has kept me coping and out of the suicidal basement. Desvenlafaxine - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia has the stuff for Pristiq. not the chemical similarity between effexor and pristiq (or if you have no chemical knowledge) they are cunningly close.
I can't comment for young women - talk to another.
If you're a young man - try the SSRIs. If you can come while on them - and they will usually make you last longer if that is good for you - then go for them.
If they screw up your orgasms, then you should try wellbutrin and the SNRIs. Give them three weeks to kick in and then evaluate your orgasms.
At the end of the day you need to balance whether your depression and orgasms are more important. Unless I'm unable to get out of bed, no matter how bad my orgasms are, I like having them (I'm just under 40), and I reject a life without ejaculation with orgasm.
Good luck - and shout if you want to pm me about meds
Talk therapy kept me going, but eventually I sunk into deep suicidal thoughts, and decided to try anti-depressants.
All of the SSRIs did bad things to my orgasm (separating ejaculation from orgasm, so I would shoot and contract, with no pleasure release, and that physical sensation only after huge effort).
SNRIs had mixed effect - Wellbutrin kept my libido up (it apparently enhances some dudes), Effexor made me have suicidal thoughts, yet my current drug has kept me coping and out of the suicidal basement. Desvenlafaxine - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia has the stuff for Pristiq. not the chemical similarity between effexor and pristiq (or if you have no chemical knowledge) they are cunningly close.
I can't comment for young women - talk to another.
If you're a young man - try the SSRIs. If you can come while on them - and they will usually make you last longer if that is good for you - then go for them.
If they screw up your orgasms, then you should try wellbutrin and the SNRIs. Give them three weeks to kick in and then evaluate your orgasms.
At the end of the day you need to balance whether your depression and orgasms are more important. Unless I'm unable to get out of bed, no matter how bad my orgasms are, I like having them (I'm just under 40), and I reject a life without ejaculation with orgasm.
Good luck - and shout if you want to pm me about meds