On the "roadside distraction" thread I asked how everyone felt about young women willingly objectifying themselves for the sake of advertising for car washes. Not unexpectedly, some respondents criticized guys who slow down to ogle these young women, especially given that the women were likely not legal. Others (including myself) mentioned that, at a glance, it can be hard to tell who's legal and who isn't.
It's a strange thing, isn't it? If a woman's younger than 18, we're perverts if we give her more than a passing glance. If she's 18+, the rules change dramatically. The fact that she may not be significantly different in either mind or body for some considerable period before and after the magical 18th birthday is not counted as an excuse.
I know that 18 is an arbitrary number; I don't know who chose it, but for legal purposes there had to be some standard dividing line or characteristic to distinguish women (and men) who are considered mature enough to be held responsible for their actions. (And we have another one at 21.)
But we've all known people who were either way ahead or way behind on the maturity progression line when they celebrated #18. (It's probably generally true that women are ahead of men sometime into their mid-20s or so, with individual exceptions abounding.) But while we occasionally lament that clearly responsible "kids" have to wait to drink while certain other "adults" should NEVER be allowed to vote or breed :->, we never really integrate that into our worldview about what's creepy and perverted and what isn't.
Please understand, I'm not in any way advocating that older, predatory-type people take advantage of younger, impressionable people, especially those younger people whose bodies are way ahead of their emotional and mental development. I'm not saying that at all. But the simple arbitrariness of the "18" rule has led to some really regrettable situations, such as 19-year-old guys being labeled (often permanently) "sex offenders" if they sleep with their 17-year-old girlfriends. Never mind that both male and female might very well be "equally developed" on physical and emotional scales; the law (and society) ignore the actual truth of the situation for this artificial distinction based entirely on physical age.
I'm not speaking from any personal experience here concerning statutory rape, though I did date a high school girl while I was in college. (No sex occurred, not even the near-occasion of it :->) I'm not even sure that there's a question here. I guess it just feels like a shame that there is this weird rule about how the sexes can interact with each other when near the 18 "breakpoint" and I'm wishing there was a better way of judging someone's maturity.
I'll close by saying, as another disclaimer, that I have no interest in younger women beyond the platonic. I will admire a shapely figure that wanders into my visual field :-> but I respect that there are limits to this appreciation. I'm in my mid-40s, and while I interact daily with plenty of 18ish women (waitresses, cashiers, etc.), I don't have any romantic interests in them, simply because the cultural differences are too great. (I am a good listener, though, so I've had my share of female-to-Kevbo crushes to deal with.) If the social mores concerning interacting were relaxed, I still don't think I'd be interested in chasing down any woman young enough to be my daughter. Even if there was some initial spark/common ground, it would be an uphill climb to keep such a relationship coherent since the younger person would be going through all sorts of phases while the older person would be more likely to be locked in.
Kevbo
It's a strange thing, isn't it? If a woman's younger than 18, we're perverts if we give her more than a passing glance. If she's 18+, the rules change dramatically. The fact that she may not be significantly different in either mind or body for some considerable period before and after the magical 18th birthday is not counted as an excuse.
I know that 18 is an arbitrary number; I don't know who chose it, but for legal purposes there had to be some standard dividing line or characteristic to distinguish women (and men) who are considered mature enough to be held responsible for their actions. (And we have another one at 21.)
But we've all known people who were either way ahead or way behind on the maturity progression line when they celebrated #18. (It's probably generally true that women are ahead of men sometime into their mid-20s or so, with individual exceptions abounding.) But while we occasionally lament that clearly responsible "kids" have to wait to drink while certain other "adults" should NEVER be allowed to vote or breed :->, we never really integrate that into our worldview about what's creepy and perverted and what isn't.
Please understand, I'm not in any way advocating that older, predatory-type people take advantage of younger, impressionable people, especially those younger people whose bodies are way ahead of their emotional and mental development. I'm not saying that at all. But the simple arbitrariness of the "18" rule has led to some really regrettable situations, such as 19-year-old guys being labeled (often permanently) "sex offenders" if they sleep with their 17-year-old girlfriends. Never mind that both male and female might very well be "equally developed" on physical and emotional scales; the law (and society) ignore the actual truth of the situation for this artificial distinction based entirely on physical age.
I'm not speaking from any personal experience here concerning statutory rape, though I did date a high school girl while I was in college. (No sex occurred, not even the near-occasion of it :->) I'm not even sure that there's a question here. I guess it just feels like a shame that there is this weird rule about how the sexes can interact with each other when near the 18 "breakpoint" and I'm wishing there was a better way of judging someone's maturity.
I'll close by saying, as another disclaimer, that I have no interest in younger women beyond the platonic. I will admire a shapely figure that wanders into my visual field :-> but I respect that there are limits to this appreciation. I'm in my mid-40s, and while I interact daily with plenty of 18ish women (waitresses, cashiers, etc.), I don't have any romantic interests in them, simply because the cultural differences are too great. (I am a good listener, though, so I've had my share of female-to-Kevbo crushes to deal with.) If the social mores concerning interacting were relaxed, I still don't think I'd be interested in chasing down any woman young enough to be my daughter. Even if there was some initial spark/common ground, it would be an uphill climb to keep such a relationship coherent since the younger person would be going through all sorts of phases while the older person would be more likely to be locked in.
Kevbo