so heres the situation im in. i have a best friend for many years..and about a year ago i found gay porn on his computer while he was gettin ready. at first i thought it was proably by accident but then a couple weeks later i saw the same site agina on his list of visited site.. and by the next day tho it would be gone... so that gave me the feeling he was def tryin to hide it ...well anyway at the time he also just got his first girl friend and was in his twenties and still a virgin.. he eventually lost it but it took him 4 months after tbeing with his girl.. now a year later his girlfriend breaks up with him and tells me she just saw him more like a firend... but she also said for the last 2 months of the relation ship they didnot have sex once. she actually said she was gunna try again and if sparks flew she wouldstay with him ..but next thing you know she breaks up with him ..but still talks to him everyday because she says hes her best friend... i thought that was wierd ...cuz into the relationship hehad told they went another month without it too ....and i have onlysee this friend hook up with girls when hes really drunnkkk.. other than that he leads girls on when hes soberbut waits till hes drunk to actually do something...but themain thing that got me was for the last year i ve still caughtgay porn on his computerr...and ni dont think straight guys jerk off to gay pornn... and another thing we used to be really closeee and sometimes a lil too close and i get this vibe whenwe wrestle and stuff ...one time he had to stop he siad cuz he got a boner...BUTT heres the thing hes the biggest HOMOPHOB ..hell curse out a gay or tallk really bad about someone who is ay or something..and one time when we were drunk i toold him i knew he was gay ..he flipped and said fuck you ..after that we pacthed things up but were not as close as we used to be even though i didnt tell him how i kneww... and we havent talked bout that ever again ....BUT here the situation i know hell never come out hes big on sports and an so his dad he comes from a fmaily that would never ecpet nor would the group of friends we havee hbut i just want to lett him knowww how i knoww and that im in the same boat ass himmm..but how do i do that withought fucking myslef over cuz i think he would turn it around on me if i tiold him bout me..thats how scared he is of anyone prob knowin...hes always when my kid does this or my wifee ...soo obvisouly the guy is gettin married cuz thats wats expected of hm..and im in the same sitiuation tooo but i want let him know its cool i know andi wouldnt tell a SOUL and i would nt mind if we tried some stuff out sooo how do i go about this ...do i just wait cuz its beenover year since i ve known and no progress what shouldd i do ?