20 yo, couldnt get it hard tonite for some reason.

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  1. fak_et

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    All around in very good health. I lift regularly and eat good.

    Stress really doesnt get to me but the past couple weeks ive been pulling quite a few late nighters studying for exams.

    A few days ago i was jerkin off and it really wasnt feeling as good as it usually does. It took forever for me to blow too.

    I was a bit worried but figured it was no big deal.

    Today got in a sexual experience and just couldnt get hard. I was like that all day for some reason. A bj got me hard a few times but if i wasnt getting constant stimulation, it would die down. I really felt out of it today, my head felt weird. I might be catchin a cold or something, but it was strange.

    I don't drink, smoke a lil pot.

    History wise: I had epididymtytis about 2-3 months ago. Std free, Dr. gave me anti biotics and anti inflammatory and it cleared it up. I don't have any reason to believe i have an std.
     
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    stress can have that effect. see how it goes after finals.
     
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    It could be a number of things, impotence can happen at pretty much any age, I have occasionally experienced it every now and then when under loads of stress or if I am upset about something, I say just let time take it's course, try not to use viagra or anything of that sort as you are still young, the first time i was unable to get it up was at 20 years old right after my grandma died, it really could be any number of reasons.
     
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    I would say that you have nothing to worry about. It is more than likely a combination of lack of sleep due to the late night studying and the stress of the fast approaching exams.

    I agree with Speedomike see how things are after the finals. Afterall you are still able to get an erection, just unable to sustain it.

    Good luck with the exams

    Smartalk
     
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    yeah - as the others have said, sometimes it just happens. if it continues for ages then see the gp about it - there's no shame in asking them..
     
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    Solutions to physical impotence may range from simple solutions such as Yohimbine supplements (considered an aphrodisiac as well as an impotence aid), to injections and implants for the more severe cases.

    By far, the biggest cause of impotence today is psychological impotence. This usually stems from simple performance anxiety and insecurity issues. Almost every man at some point or another suffers from this on at least one occasion.

    One simple way to determine if you suffer from psychological as opposed to physical impotence is if you have a “morning hard-on.” If you wake up in the morning with an erection, everything is most likely in physical working order.

    Another simple test is the stamp test. Before going to bed, take an ordinary roll of postage stamps and, moistening them, wrap them around your unerect penis.

    Upon awakening, if everything is in physical working order, the stamps will be separated as a result of the natural penile tumescence cycle which occurs in all physically healthy men as they sleep.

    On a psychological level, you should convince yourself that if you are okay physically, it's all in your head!

    By far, the best way of resolving simple Psychological impotence is if you have an understanding lover, explain to them that yes, you are turned on by them physically, but because you want to please them so much, you're just a little nervous.

    Explain to your lover it has nothing to do with them; that's it's simply all in your head. You just need a little time to learn to relax.

    Spend some time with your lover in sexual activities that don't bring on anxiety. Learn to enjoy what you're feeling at the moment. Realize that your penis WANTS to get hard; all you have to do is relax a little.

    Approach love making in a relaxed manner; after all, you're not there to do a job, simply to enjoy yourself and your partner.

    Realize that your lover will understand; and if they don't, maybe you shouldn't be with that person anyway.

    If these exercises do not help to resolve your psychological impotence, some professional counseling would be advisable to conquer what is probably a deeper issue.
     
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    Performance anxiety can strike at any time really, often unexpectedly. Lack of sleep, had a bad day, not really "feeling it" as it were (which can definitely happen around all-nighter exam time). I had a girl who wanted me to fuck her in the ass because she was on her period. I got it up, but she was so tight it wasn't hard enough to get in, and the pressure combined with the anxiety that resulted was a total boner killer.

    I'm 20 as well. It happens. If it persists for more than a week or two I'd give it more attention, as it might be a sign of some unrelated illness.
     
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    Let me just add to this already excellent advice.

    Your body may respond to stress before your head does. You might think you're not under a lot of stress but your body nonetheless feels that stress and responds.

    This happens to me. I'll find I can't sleep, have diarrhea, get fidgety, can't concentrate, and feel nauseous. If anyone asks, I'd swear I wasn't under enough stress to cause those things. On further reflection however, when I find the underlying reason(s), the physical symptoms go away.
     
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    i had a problem like this 5 years ago when i was 17 i could get horny but nothing would allow me to get erect, turned out it was just a nerve that got damaged.... dont ask me how but 2 days later it went away.... stress also can be a contributor
     
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    You have lots and lots of erections ahead of you! A week or more of exhaustion and inability to erect is nothing on the scorecard! I remember , when in the Army, many of us were continually too fatigued to think about erections for weeks on end... much less get one! It will pass and you will forget all about it!
     
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    Well guys, things are gettin better, but i definitely think something is going on. It takes a lot of effort to stay hard and it is very hard to get hard, sometimes i can't do it. I had a dr. appointment for something unrelated today and he brought it up.

    My blood pressure is really high for some reason and it is strange because i am in great shape, dr. wants to get that in check first. I did notice a slight sharp pain occasionally like i did when i was gettin epididymitis. Dr. put me on another antibiotic for that and anti inflammatories and ordered an ultrasound of testicles. Standard bloodwork and urine test and a hormone check. doctor said my bike seat may be a problem as well (and i agree, i ride my bike daily at school and it irritates me), and that i could be having too much sex ;) I stopped smoking pot about a week ago too (maybe i have withdrawl?) after 6 months almost once daily.

    Anyone got any suggestions for the meantime?
     
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    listen to your doctor. seems like he's doing a thorough workup.
     
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    Hi Fak_et:

    A few years ago, I bought a Bontrager anatomically correct seat for my bike. I ride 15 miles round trip to work daily and do a long rides (up to 50 miles) on the weekends. The seat makes a big difference. I've heard cyclists say that the wrong bike seat can make guys have a more difficult time getting and maintaining a full erection.

    I have high blood pressure, too. It can be genetic even if your weight and fitness are good. You can help by cutting down on salt and coffee.

    Otherwise, I've noticed where I go through phases. There are sometimes that I get rock hard and other times that it's less hard. I've noticed that stress, anxiety, and being under pressure have a lot to do with it. Being 57 years old, I'm happy that I routinely can get it up and get off with no problem.

    See what happens when you get your test results from the doctor. Good luck!
     
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    Bro,im in my 40's and still have this occur whenever i try and rush sex with someone i realy dont know.but...when i actually get comfortable with them....I GET A RAGING BONER!
     
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