21 and not horny?

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  1. d2cit

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    Ok, so I have been looking through other threads for a while along with information on the net in other places. I am turning 21 soon, I am in good health, and I have the sex drive of a nun. Its like a job for me to try and get an erection and have sex, or even masterbate. I have been taking vitamins, L-Arginine, L-Carnitine, Yohimbe Bark, Korean Ginsing, Zinc, and a few other things here and there. I think my problem is psychological, but I dont have a clue what is really the problem. I even stoped looking at porn for the past few months.

    So my question is, has anyone else had a simliar problem possibly around my age? What did you do or what do you do? I wish there was just a pill I could pop and Im instantly hornier and harder, but I doubt it.
     
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    Are you under a lot of stress? Extreme stress can lower a man's sex drive to almost zero.
     
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    Have you had your hormone levels tested? Sometimes men can have low testosterone levels that can contribute to it. More than likely it's what you've already surmised that it's psychological. Things like depression and other factors can contribute to your libido. If you haven't had the testosterone level tested, I'd start there, and then talk more to your Dr.
     
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    My sense of it is if were psychological, other than depression perhaps, you would still get erections in your sleep and possibly wet dreams. If you have no erections and aren't depressed, I would lean toward a hormonal hypothesis. You are way too young for this. Get medical help.
    Dave
     
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    See a doctor. There may be a simple medical solution. But at your age, I was bouncing off the walls with raging hormones and raging hardons (still am).
     
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    Ok, let me play amateur psychologist for a sec... One possibility is that your horniness has become shame bound. Think back in your past if there were any experiences that put the idea in your head that your normal, human urges were disgusting or improper. Maybe from a parent, a teacher, a priest, I don't know... but bounding certain behaviours or emotions to feelings of shame can have drastic effects. Such as whenever you start to feel horny, some part of your mind below the level of consciousness kicks in and shuts off those feelings. So do some thinking.... maybe I make sense, or maybe I'm just some wanker pretending to know something about which I really have no idea.
    PM me if you think I might be on to something here
     
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    seeing your doc and have him/her do a workup based on the things you've told us. Medication side effects can cause problems, as well as depression, diabetes, and who knows what else.

    Don't wait as long as I did to get the help of an MD or a therapist.
     
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    You have to go see a doctor. This is definitely not normal for a 21 y/o! I'm 28 and I'm always horny and springing a hard-on almost twice an hour, if not more. You are way too young to be experiencing a lack of libido. Get help ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    sorry to hear this. I know it might be embarasing but maybe seeing a doctor will give you such a quick fix,it might even be as simple as diet. mate get it checked out these are the best fuck years of your life
     
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    Erectile disfuntion in one so young is unusual,........when did it start,...have you had some sort of trauma,......are you religious,......do you drink a lot of alchohol,.............or take mood enhancing drugs.....have you ever had a full on sex drive,
     
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    if its a fairly recent thing, I think its a process of ellimination i think you should start by stopping all the tabs etc you listed,for a month and see what happens it could be related to them.
     
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    if not you can always go back on them,a month is not a long time.
     
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    And try and get to a doctor.
     
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    Thanks everyone for the posts. I am almost definitely sure that it is all in my head. I get erections alot in my sleep, and at random times throughout the day, but as soon as I think about it it goes away. I used to be really self-concious about getting erections when I was a teenager, and I think I built this mental block that without me even intending to, stops me from getting erections when I want to.

    So I am pritty sure that it is in my head. But what do I do about it? For the most part I am very in control of my mind. I regularly meditate and do yoga. Its just that this issues is sort of invisible to me, and so therefore I dont know how to resolve it. Ive talked about it to a few people but that didnt seem to help get it out of me. I have been trying to overcompensate my mental problem by filling my body with things that should make me horny, but I guess the mind always wins.

    (ps. sorry for the horrible spelling and grammer)
     
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    Take Maca. Lots of Maca...
     
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    my dear,
    what i think is of course your (head) .
    whel maybee you are one of these guys who over control them self and in different situation you have stop your self doing what your wish was to do ! sometime been very smart is not good idea!
    but anyhow there is not place of talking what was but i rather talk what to do , first i think you have to talk about it and try to relax about it excerses your penis with method of rubing your penis head .
    as you are 80% str8 and 20%gay try in both side ( male and female ) to find atractive persones and connect your mind with them ( like having sex with them etc)
    well as a sexy you are you can contact me and we can chat together in any time .
    hope this will help you at least 1 %
     
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    i forgot to say i know a guy who did have the same problem (as i said over control your self ) he was dont WRONG think like : stoping his erection if he was atractive by any girl , stoping the erection in the mans locker room in pool playing big man like : he dousent get erectin in any kind of female etc maybe you find your self in all this and as i know now this is wrong think to do
     
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    Hey There fuller Im 27 and have had similar problems for me its self esteme but Im sure looking at your pic that that is not your case. Personaly I thin kyou just need to find someone you truely find attractive and let yourself go a little let yourself have fun and allow yourself to be sexual your allowed to have hardons and your allowed to be a sexual being hey try being sexual. Why not have a night on your own where all you do is work on keeping yourself hard for as long as possible. I would say you put way too much emphasis subconciously on hiding your hardons from people that your mind has started to stop giving you the mojo to produce them. try and retrain your subconcious into understanding you are allowed hardons anytime anywhere.

    Hell be proud of them and show them off when you get them.
     
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