24 hours into being single.

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by diesel_82, Jan 28, 2012.

  1. diesel_82

    diesel_82 New Member

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    Fuck it hurts.
     
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    it has to hurt in order to heal.... if you don't feel the pain, then your conscious mind will not make steps to ease and understand it.... don't fret dude.... the fact that you feel anything at all says a lot about you, and you will recover....
     
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    What concupisys said is right on the money. Its going to hurt at first, maybe for longer but you will heal. Its like pulling off a band-aid.
     
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    I completely get it. Man, it sucks.

    But it gets better, faster than you'll think. Trust me.
     
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    You should paint. If your really hurting you might be able to crank out some really good ones.
     
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    Tell me about it. It's 26 years for me. I always told myself that it's not time yet because I'm still on my way building my future, but it just doesn't work.

    EDIT: I just realized you wrote 24 hours, not 24 years. Now I am embarrassed.
     
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    well, i've been single all my life. trust me, you get used to it.
     
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    If you dont want to get hurt, don't have relationships.
    As over said as it is....
    "Its better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved"

    go ride a bike, go on a hike, read a fun book, do art, make music and before you know it youll be better than ever.
     
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    this. Best thing is to be active in amongst where there's life. ie. cycling, walking busy streets...
     
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    Diesel, I'm sorry you're hurting, and I hope your heart grows less heavy over time. But it's a very painful thing. You must find a support structure of some type whether it be close family, friends or someone else you can trust. Granted family is not always ideal, and some friends can't handle it.

    I had a small child who demanded constant attention, so I was able to transfer a lot of my anxiety into work. But I did have parents close by who helped, but I wouldn't call them true support. I had close friends and friends whom I thought were close. But I discovered that some of them didn't want to "catch" what I had. Of course, some former girl friends looked at me in distrust thinking I was after their man. Hoo boy. Fun days.

    I hope you find your comfort place soon and get on with things as they should be.
     
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