I'm pretty sure I have discussed this before but we have had a lot of new members since then and I am curious how much opinions have changed. My cousin remarried in October 2008, after having raised his daughter alone. When he decided to start dating again, he had a few non-negotiables. 1) She had to understand he was a biker and he wasn't giving it up. She was welcome to ride pillion, or stay home and not complain. 2) He's a Christian. She didn't have to go to church with him; but she best not get in his way when he goes. Funny thing, he met his 2nd wife at a church social. 3) He's 6'3" and refuses to give up his king size bed. 4) He plays guitar and has a room in his house where he can play and not be bothered or be bothering her. He does not want it painted pink, or have vintage dolls and dried flower arrangements added to it. That and the garage are his spaces. She can do what she wants to the rest of the house. IMO - If more men & women could be that honest and up front about what they can't live with or without the world would be a better place. He & his 2nd wife are a good match. She rode pillion for a while on his old Honda, then decided he wasn't moving fast enough and bought a Vulcan of her own. :biggrin1: After my most recent dating debacle, one of my online friends is convinced that I should just hang it up. Told me to hire escorts if I want sex; but give up on dating and marriage as I am too old :irked: and set in my ways. Sorry, maybe I'm a hopeless romantic but I refuse to just give up on love. Couples like my cousin and his 2nd wife give me hope. I find them inspiring. For the sake of clarity theirs is not a perfect relationship with no baggage. His 23 year old daughter was born with a bad attitude & can be quite the bitch. Her 13 year old son is ADHD and a rather clingy mama's boy. Compromise and concessions have been made all around; but they make it work. For those of you that have been married before, what are your non-negotiables?