3 year relationship to the test?

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  1. jtack

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    So I have been a browser of this forum for a little while now gaining all sorts of nice information lol. You guys are all amazing and now I am coming to you guys (and gals) for some much needed advice. Now I am sure their are thousands of threads just like this, so excuse me if it is a repeat. Anyways my girlfriend and I of 3 years have often talked about having a three some. Of course I want 2 girls and she wants 2 guys, but as it is more my fantasy the 2 guys has to happen first (me and another guy). Now I honestly get EXTREMELY turned on by this though but then I honestly dont know how I would react. I dont know if I would be mad or jealous to see another guy fucking my gf (although thinking about it turns me on). I also have a fear of being small...I know that is imature and dumb, but I really am scared to bring another guy home that is bigger than me to have sex with my gf (I have no idea how big the guy is that we are considering, he is a good friend of mine though). So all in all I dont know if I should let this fantasy die down or if i should pursue it while the option is on the table
     
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    I would not do it...the fallout that could potentially happen for it would be losing your good friend and your girlfriend. If you can cope with that as the worst case scenario then sure, risk it.

    But I would not. Fantasies are meant to be a fantasy for a reason. And fantasies are never as they end up feeling or being like in real life. It's why it's a fantasy!

    You already have serious reservations...quite a few. With that said, I don't think it's a good idea. And I'd be remiss if I urged you along to go ahead with it.
     
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    I think it's better to regret having done something, than to regret having not done it.
     
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    I like this one

    I have done the threesome twice both times with a former gf. Both times it was fun and had no repercussions.

    Oh yeah small compared to what, a horse, you have a nice big cock.
     
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    Not to me...then again I'm not a thrill seeker. What you need to do is weigh the pros and cons. Actually make a list and then think about it. No one can make the decision for you.

    Would you regret dumping the love of your life or live your life with the love of your life regretting you hadn't and saying "what if?"

    That's what life is about...it's a whole lot of what ifs...it's what makes making decisions hard...there's usually no redo or rewind button.
     
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    Yeah I guess I just need to really sit and think about it. Of course that is the obvious thing to do, so thanks for reinforcing that plan for me
     
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    I have had a lot of really great threesomes, but never with a good friend; I would rethink that aspect of the deal. It's important that you all feel comfortable with one another. I suggest who ever the third party is you all sit down in a neutral setting and set the perimeters of your expectations and where you draw the line of what you are not willing to do. (leave a little wiggle room here for spontaneous activities)
    Most important is that you and your girlfriend need to sit down together and discuss that this is not part of your daily life, but a little spicy fun that has nothing to do with the commitments you two have with each other. Most importantly it's a good idea to make sure that there not be any insecurities or jealousy between the two of you or it's a recipe for disaster. This is supposed to be fun. Have fun.
     
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    I agree. If you do something and regret it, you get over it. If you don't do something you wonder about it for the rest of your life.


    Again, agree with both points. MFM and MMM are a real kick. It is not the hottest sex you'll ever have. But it may be the kinkiest.

    And unless you're either thinking about doing with it with someone from the porn industry or a LPSG member, no way you're not packing the biggest cock in the room. Besides, you two have been together for 3 yrs. Unless she has said "Jack, I'm with you till I can find a bigger cock, I doubt that'll be a problem.

    What I would worry about is your possible jealousy. You also say it really turns you on. Is watching another man eat your gf's pussy, watching her suck his dick and watching him give her an orgasm going to turn you on. I mean, its 2 guys and one girl. She'll be the center of attention. It's not like she's giving you a present. She should enjoy it also. And if there are times when it seems like you are the extra cock in the room you'll have to deal with it. I've never had a problem. But think about it. Let us know if you go for it!

    2 last words: PLAY SAFE
     
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    i don't know, i usually agree with the "regret what you did, not what you didn't do" philosophy...but there are no absolutes in this world (for instance, i regret the girl i slept with in college during a temporary break up with my girlfriend at the time much more than i'd have regretted not sleeping with her and thus putting that strain on my relationship). and i think if you're feeling these trepidations now, it might be for the best not to mess with a good thing. i think there are very few people who could handle bringing a third into the bedroom in a serious relationship. jealousy does become an issue, or it's difficult to then step back from it being "just a one time thing to spice things up." it can be hot to talk about, sure, but when it comes to practical concerns, there's a risk of someone getting hurt and the relationship being damaged, maybe beyond repair. and therein lies the question...are you willing to take that risk for one night of fun? if you felt more secure now, and your girlfriend felt the same, then i'd say you might be able to handle it. but when you're having these doubts now...if either of you are having doubts now...i don't think it'd be worth it.
     
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    you could have her makeout with a guy and see how it makes u feel... then ull know whether u can take the next step
     
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    :261: This is not the way you test a relationship. :no: In fact it's usually the way you ruin one. :rolleyes: :duh: If you want to really test your relationship go on a 5-10 day road trip in August. That is the true test of a relationship.

    IMO - You just want to get your rocks off with a dude. Which says to me you are not really ready to be in a monogamous, heterosexual relationship.
     
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    No im 100% sure im hetero. The whole point of it would be something new and thus getting to bring a second girl in. We are both the kinds of people that want to experience everything. For instance in the MFM I wouldnt fancy touching the other guy (no offense).
     
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    If you are questioning yourself on any repercussions of after the fact, then i wouldn't do it. I have seen too many relationships ruined over this.
     
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