30 Years Old, Still A Virgin And "chronic Masturbator" ?

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Here is my situation, I am 30 years old, I am gay and I am a virgin. The problem is that I can't take it any longer and I am becoming perverted. In everyday life, I am someone who is kind, sociable, funny but shy and a little geeky. I dream of finding a nice guy with whom to make my life, to have a real romantic relationship but I am too shy and reserved to take the plunge. In addition I am complexed by my physique and I am complexed by my virginity.

So, I'm alone and as soon as I can, I masturbate a lot and I watch a lot of porn. There is a huge contrast between me in society and me in private. I have more and more bizarre fantasies (but nothing extreme). I am afraid that it will poison a potential future relationship because I am really "addicted" to masturbation and porn.

Are other people in my situation? Do you have any advice or simple comments to help me? Be HONEST, thank you

PS : Sorry for my poor english, I'm french :)
 

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Hit the gym, that’ll improve your physical appearance and with that, you’ll gain new confidence (from looking good and seeing your body changing and getting stronger. Also, it’s a great way to meet other men. If you work out in the gym on long enough, you’ll start seeing the same group of guys on the same workout schedule.
 

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On the other hand, I've been married over 30 years and STILL chronically masturbate! But yes, I have my wife to fuck. Yet, I too masturbate at least a little one every day. But I also do a morning exercise routine with basic calisthenics to keep the motor in tune. Porn can be a big distraction. Look into learning a musical instrument. I've been a guitar player (hobby) my whole life. In good times and bad, learning and making music is a good distraction!
 

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On the other hand, I've been married over 30 years and STILL chronically masturbate! But yes, I have my wife to fuck. Yet, I too masturbate at least a little one every day. But I also do a morning exercise routine with basic calisthenics to keep the motor in tune. Porn can be a big distraction. Look into learning a musical instrument. I've been a guitar player (hobby) my whole life. In good times and bad, learning and making music is a good distraction!

Since you say you have been married 30 years you must be tending to your obligations to I would not call it chronic masturbation. Just because one might masturbate more than what he thinks might be appropriate does not make it chronic. You enjoy your masturbation as do many boys and men. If you find yourself not taking care of life's other obligations you are getting into chronic masturbation. You probably masturbate no more than many of the men on this site.
 

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Hello

Here is my situation, I am 30 years old, I am gay and I am a virgin. The problem is that I can't take it any longer and I am becoming perverted. In everyday life, I am someone who is kind, sociable, funny but shy and a little geeky. I dream of finding a nice guy with whom to make my life, to have a real romantic relationship but I am too shy and reserved to take the plunge. In addition I am complexed by my physique and I am complexed by my virginity.

So, I'm alone and as soon as I can, I masturbate a lot and I watch a lot of porn. There is a huge contrast between me in society and me in private. I have more and more bizarre fantasies (but nothing extreme). I am afraid that it will poison a potential future relationship because I am really "addicted" to masturbation and porn.

Are other people in my situation? Do you have any advice or simple comments to help me? Be HONEST, thank you

PS : Sorry for my poor english, I'm french :)

As another member suggested to hit the gym and start doing something about one of your important feature and something you have stated you are concerned, your physical appearance. 30 years old is a young age and your body should react quickly to some time at the gym. Your physical body appearance has much to do with attracting people to you and then your personality will have to help from there. The appearance of the shoulders, pecs, and abs have much to do with the way you look in today's clothing. You have a size penis which looks a very acceptable size to most any sex seeker. I don't feel you have any worry there. I feel if you do something about you physical appearance which is not really unacceptable this work to improve your physical appearance you will soon take care of your second self deemed issue of sex. When you go to the gym don't be shy as when you change your clothing to your work out clothing in locker room don't be bothered by being nude and other members seeing your penis. Be sure to take a shower and don't use a towel around your mid section when going to and from the showers. Sure there will be men who look at your penis but you will need to loosen your shyness up some when looking for sex partners and the gym is a good place to practice so to speak. The better your body looks as you frequent the gym the more men will look. Since you bill yourself as 10% straight a better, tighter looking torso the females also like only they usually don't say much. YMMV Good Luck with your quest.
 

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As another member suggested to hit the gym and start doing something about one of your important feature and something you have stated you are concerned, your physical appearance. 30 years old is a young age and your body should react quickly to some time at the gym. Your physical body appearance has much to do with attracting people to you and then your personality will have to help from there. The appearance of the shoulders, pecs, and abs have much to do with the way you look in today's clothing. You have a size penis which looks a very acceptable size to most any sex seeker. I don't feel you have any worry there. I feel if you do something about you physical appearance which is not really unacceptable this work to improve your physical appearance you will soon take care of your second self deemed issue of sex. When you go to the gym don't be shy as when you change your clothing to your work out clothing in locker room don't be bothered by being nude and other members seeing your penis. Be sure to take a shower and don't use a towel around your mid section when going to and from the showers. Sure there will be men who look at your penis but you will need to loosen your shyness up some when looking for sex partners and the gym is a good place to practice so to speak. The better your body looks as you frequent the gym the more men will look. Since you bill yourself as 10% straight a better, tighter looking torso the females also like only they usually don't say much. YMMV Good Luck with your quest.

Oddly enough, in study after study, women say that what makes a man most attractive are:

  • Good sense of humour - funny and intelligent
  • Age - older men are generally more attractive
  • Solvent - a good provider

Looks and body do figure but not as highly as these traits.
 
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I second the idea of maybe trying hookup apps to help you try sex and build up your confidence with experience. That's what I did. I was so scared of sex the first time and it didn't go that well but I decided to look at it almost like a video game, the more sex I had the more experience points I gained :p And then when I meet a guy I like, I have some confidence I know what I'm doing.

On apps like Grindr, you can talk to a guy and you can tell him you haven't done much in real life but want to try some stuff, and give examples, and then you can work through it.
 
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Oddly enough, in study after study, women say that what makes a man most attractive are:

  • Good sense of humour - funny and intelligent
  • Age - older men are generally more attractive
  • Solvent - a good provider

Looks and body do figure but not as highly as these traits.

With many of the females I have met look are the first thing that attract them to a man. Studies and and polls are just a factor with those in the study or poll and seldom true to the majority of females of the world.
 

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I am 30 years old, gay and a virgin...I can't take it any longer and I am becoming perverted. In everyday life, I am someone who is kind, sociable, funny but shy and a little geeky. I dream of finding a nice guy ...but I am too shy and reserved to take the plunge. In addition I am complexed by my physique and I am complexed by my virginity...
I masturbate a lot and I watch a lot of porn. There is a huge contrast between me in society and me in private. I have more and more bizarre fantasies (but nothing extreme). I am afraid that it will poison a potential future relationship because I am really "addicted" to masturbation and porn.

PS : Sorry for my poor english, I'm french :)

You want someone to love, but you have a very negative image of yourself frenshy52. Stop putting yourself down. Don't be ashamed of being a virgin, having sexual fantasties and masturbating. Don't label yourself a "pervert" - those latter things are simply normal parts of one's sex life. Overcome your fears and take the plunge. Your body is attractive and you possess the additional admirable traits of being kind, sociable and funny. Exercising at the gym would serve as a healthy alternative to excessive porn watching and you could befriend others there too. As you are sociable it wouldn't hurt to give dating apps a try in order to find the relationship you desire. When you do find a love interest let him know about your lack of experience with sex. You can learn from his experience and make sure to communicate with each other before and during sex.

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