31 Years Old And Virgin, Lose My Virginity ?

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Hi all. Here is my situation: I am a 31 year old gay guy, I feel top and I am still a virgin. I know it's not the end of the world but it becomes difficult to live with over time. I want to be with someone and share a little tenderness, affection and intimacy. and of course, I have needs like any man, and my impulses and my frustrations are getting a little too big (I masturbate a lot).

I have often spoken with a guy on a dating app for the past two years and he is aware of my situation. He offered to meet so that I lose my virginity with him.Part of me would like to say yes. He knows I'm a virgin at my age and it doesn't scare him away, he knows I'm a compulsive masturbator and he doesn't judge me. My cock wants to meet him.

But on the other hand I don't dare. He's nice but I'm not close to him, I don't trust him, I'm not attracted to him and even though we've been talking for a long time, I'm suspicious of him. I feel like he just wants to fuck with me. I want to have sex, but I never imagined losing my virginity this way, with a guy who doesn't appeal to me.

Suddenly I don't know what to do. To lose my virginity with him or not? Or wait even if that means being frustrated for a while.

Thanks and sorry for my english, I'm french.
 

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You already are aware of the negatives of having n encounter with this man, follow you gutt, it is already telling you no. Next follow @jpk338 's advice, get out there, meet a variety of guys, surely soon enough one or more will fit the bill from both sides.
 

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I agree with the other people who have posted so far. It seems to me sex can be a way to do these things:
  1. Enjoy an orgasm
  2. Deal with, and get a tempory break from, being horny.
  3. Share and confirm an emotional connection with someone.
  4. Breed.
So 1 and 2 you can get from masturbation. Some people have complained that masturbation doesn't completely deal with their horniness but I have never found that to be the case. Your being gay, sex isn't going to be about breeding so that leaves you with sharing an emotional connection. That doesn't mean someone has to be your long term soulmate to have sex with them, especially because you may not even know that until you've already had quite a bit of sex, but I think it should be someone you like and feel attracted to.

Don't worry too much about virginity: it is neither a significant virtue or a significant burden. Concentrate instead on meeting someone you attracted to and whose company you enjoy that could be the start of a relationship.
 

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The guy that's chatting you is,m I would say, only interested in your body, your cock and ass. Your instinct to refuse to meet is right on. If you are going to lose your virginity, I presume you mean a first time you will be willing for anal penetration, then it has to be on terms you are happy with. Even if you are taking fucking an ass for the first time it does need to be someone with whom, you have a connection.
France will begin to open up and travel more possible. You don't say which region of France you come from but a visit to some large city, beaches and so forth should have you meeting and chatting to guys without feeling you have to perform, you do that in your own time. I wish you well, you have some fine equipment, and masturbation can be fun!
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If your cock wants to meet him so do it
Your first experience is for your dick
Then you can choose by your heart
 

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Thank you for your answers. I think I'll wait a bit. My libido is difficult to manage but it is better that I be patient, even if I content myself with masturbation.
 
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