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I was having a conversation with a friend who was feeling a bit worried because he turns 35 this year and due to the COVID lockdown, his dating game has been totally crushed. He worries that anyone who hits 35 and is still single will be seen as someone that has something inherently "wrong with him". I explained to him that he need not worry since he has so many things going for him (highly educated, great job with one of the biggest companies in the world, very high salary, in excellent physical shape, terrific personality, etc). Granted, he is the only remaining single friend I have left, but he's been in several relationships (some of them reasonably long term), so I told him it was just a matter of time. He was greatly appreciative of my wise and heartfelt words/advice and it felt great to be able to lift the spirits of one of my closest friends when he needed it. So win for us both.
But then I got to thinking...yes, my friend is still single, but he's dated dozens of girls and fucked a good number of those if not all of them. He's not a stranger to relationships or women. He is socially outgoing and meets women all the time. But what about myself?
I'm 37, and far from a relationship, I've never even been on a date before (at least not a real one). Never had sex, and from what I understand both relationships and sex are apparently things one must practice in order to be proficient at. So where would I even begin? Is the mountain ahead of me to tall to scale? Assuming it takes even a relatively small number - say 4 or 5 - of women/relationships in order to become skilled at dating/sex, I would probably be well into my 40s by that time, and thats if I start now.
The other question is, would this raise red flags if you a guy told you he was 37 and had never had sex? Would it cause you to rethink whether you wanted to invest time/energy/emotional capital in a man like that?
But then I got to thinking...yes, my friend is still single, but he's dated dozens of girls and fucked a good number of those if not all of them. He's not a stranger to relationships or women. He is socially outgoing and meets women all the time. But what about myself?
I'm 37, and far from a relationship, I've never even been on a date before (at least not a real one). Never had sex, and from what I understand both relationships and sex are apparently things one must practice in order to be proficient at. So where would I even begin? Is the mountain ahead of me to tall to scale? Assuming it takes even a relatively small number - say 4 or 5 - of women/relationships in order to become skilled at dating/sex, I would probably be well into my 40s by that time, and thats if I start now.
The other question is, would this raise red flags if you a guy told you he was 37 and had never had sex? Would it cause you to rethink whether you wanted to invest time/energy/emotional capital in a man like that?