5" Girth Considered Small?

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  1. willstover

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    Been dating this woman for 4 months and everything has been going great for me until this past Friday.

    After our romp session, we were laying in bed talking about how much we like sex together and then I decided to ask her what she honestly thought of my cock. I'm just over 7 1/2" long and 5.1" girth. While she said she was very happy with our sex life, she also admitted that she wished I had more girth and I was on the skinny side.

    This of course devastated my ego since women have complemented me in the past and I like this woman more than anybody I have been with in the past 6 years. I know I shouldn't care since she claims to enjoy the sex but now I am scarred.

    Is 5 inches really considered to be on the small side? Might be the wrong place to ask considering the basis of this community, but I like you guys here and your honesty :wink:
     
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    No it's not. It's just above average, in fact. Small would be 4" girth. Your problem is that your cock is so very long it makes it appear thin. While if a guy with 6 inches long cock had 5 inch girth it would look really thick.
     
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    I agree. Am 6.25 with 4.75girth. Proportionately I'm pretty much the same as you. Working on girth through PE exercise, just started focusing on girth as I dont want a pencil dick when I get to 7", gained on length about 3/4".

    Hey, don't worry about it. Your length is admirable. And so is your girth.
    Did she mentioned what size would be ideal?

    It could be position your having sex that may take advantage of your girth. Enhance what you got, you know. It's like the angle of a photo will fo the same for any size cock. Some will make smaller others larger.
     
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    Try a cock ring. Also do erect squashes and jelq. You will have success.
     
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    I think you are quite ok man don't worry and think with your head not with your dick you love her she loves you
     
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    I hate penis pump and cock ring !!!
    Natural are natural .
    5" is average , 3.5" for flaccid . I never seen on web cam cock who is thicker than mine.
     
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    What a stupid question to ask, no matter she said, even if it was only slightly insulting, you would still be devastated.
     
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    Here
     

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    You are on the high side of average, or just above average. Don't worry, be happy
     
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    So, let me get this straight: YOU asked her what she honestly thought, she delivered the news HONESTLY and said she wished you were thicker, while also stressing that she "was very happy with our sex life"- and you're somehow upset over this??? Please get a grip. There will always be a bigger bat some guy is waving around. Nothing you can do about it. If your gf said she wished you were bigger AND that the sex was lousy, then you would have a legitimate thing to complain about.
     
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    Lots of guys seem to get stuck up on this subject, so I think one thing is worth mentioning...

    Average =/= Normal

    I have no idea what the stats are, but if the average dick is 5" around, normal might be anywhere from 4.2" to 5.8". There's so much variability in size that if you're anywhere within a wide range, you're normal.
     
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    Never had lady friend complain but I'm also on the longer side of things with average girth (5.5in) and it can makes for a long and skinny look...
     
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    Thanks Philipu - I think we need a button panel next to the "Smilies" to just post the published stats as they come up.
    5.5" around is not average - it's way above it. By most reliable measurements, that's about 1.5 standard deviations above the average. As a percent, that's around the top 95%. Compare with 95th percentile for an American man's height, which is about 6'4". Obviously you'll run across several men that tall in your life, and there are men taller than that out there, but a guy that tall would have to be detached from reality to think he's 6'4" and just average.

    Consider also that a micropenis is one 2.5 deviations below the mean. This is one so rarely small that it's considered a medical condition just to have one. If we flip that, a "macropenis" (my word) would be 2.5 above -- ie an abnormally large dick. 2.5sd above the mean for girth according to the only study there with the data for it (measured by staff, and the erection came from injecting drugs directly in to the dick) is 15.6cm around (6.1" girth.) Such dicks definitely exist but they are very, very rare. If they weren't, there wouldn't be a support group :)

    What it really comes down to: do you believe objective, third party studies, or unsubstantiated reports on dick size by people on the internet? If you answered the latter, your real problem is more likely between your ears than between your legs.
     
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    I have to agree with what you're saying about 5.5. I'm 5 5/8 mostly throughout my length, and I've never felt really big, but I know it's thick enough to get turned down for anal on occaision, and it can make some toothy blowjobs. It's not thick enough to cause discomfort upon vaginal penetration unless I forced it in dry though.
     
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    I don't think it is a detachment from reality, it is a skewed reality. For me, I know that I am taller than average, but I was not sure about my penis. We see so much porn and people talk about foot long penises all the time. I really had no idea that I was that much bigger than average.

    The fact remains that making a comment like that to your partner would have the same psychological effects on a man as telling a woman that he wishes she had a better body. Especially right after sex, the feeling insecurity will be compounded with embarrassment.
     
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    Is thi guys small than (girth not bigger than 5")
     

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    Hmm, maybe women think that telling a guy he's too big for anal is just the most flattering way they can think of not to do it. It might be just because I love girls with great asses, but I've been with a few girls who were anal-virgins who said that every guy they'd ever been with wanted anal from them. There was one girl I was really close to who loved anal from even before we'd met, and she said later (drunk and outside a sexual context) she was worried about anal for that reason. Possibly the most flattering thing anyone's ever said to me :)

    As for not causing vaginal discomfort, I hope that being a good lay and not leaping in unprepared is something you're happy about, not discouraged by. I'm not too much thicker than that (15cm -- ~5.9"), and it's a huge turn on to get a woman wet and ready, then take things slow at first. With my girlfriend, she kind of likes feeling sore during, but always regrets it later. It generally happens if we've been apart for a week. With past women, I've had a couple who felt really hard to get in to, and certain positions weren't really feasible, but like everything else it varies a lot from woman to woman.

    Most men with their dicks are like most women with their entire bodies. We have hangups and even the slightest perceived criticism will always bother us.
     
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    Actually looks closer to 4"
     
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    One of the women i'm referring to is my wife. She had a smaller ex who she enjoted anal with, but not so much with me. She has done it 3 times with e, but that's over 14 years. She doesn't object to a finger or two either.
     
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    Damn, tough break. My ex loved the butt stuff more than any woman I've ever met, but we did it maybe once every three months. She'd get mad at me and complain for the following week about how sore she was. It genuinely sucks when someone you care about gets personally upset with you over something you're just born with.
     
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