5 Things Single Women Hate To Hear

[Principessa]

5 Things Single Women Hate To Hear

1) What's Said: MAYBE YOU'RE NOT TRYING HARD ENOUGH.

What's Heard: "This can come off sounding like you're passing judgment on effort

2) What's Said: WEAR MORE MAKEUP.
What's Heard: You're ugly cover that mess up!. :cry: More than implying that the search for Mr. Right is as easy as brushing a spot of color onto the cheeks, this comment offends further by actually attacking a person's core identity.

3) What's Said: GET BACK OUT THERE!
What's Heard: This can send the signal that the single person is simply not doing enough speed or Internet or blind dating, or worse, that she isn't living a full enough life.

4) What's Said: YOU'RE TOO PICKY.
What's Heard: This implies that at some point, a point that the single friend or loved one has reached, she is no longer allowed to be discriminating,

5) What's Said: TONE IT DOWN A NOTCH.
What's Heard: "This is interpreted by single women to meanthat they have to dial down their core identity a notch in order to attract potential suitors and make them feel comfortable," says Anderson.

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

I can't believe they wasted bandwidth on that shit.
Really the only thing I do not like to hear as a single woman is, "can I stick it in your butt" outside of a relationship.

 

[Principessa]

I can't believe they wasted bandwidth on that shit.

Really the only thing I do not like to hear as a single woman is, "can I stick it in your butt" outside of a relationship.

Wow! Your family is a lot nicer than mine; because I have heard all of those statements at one time or another from well meaning relatives. The only thing the article left out was "It's okay if you're a lesbian, we'll still love you." :irked:

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

A good portion of my (living) relatives are working on their 2nd or 3rd marriages - they do not give relationship advice. My friends, as well, do not.

Potential BFs or humps only need to confirm I'm perfect and know that I always like to have my way.. . :09:

 

[ScorpioSlut]

I don't have a problem with that. My family seems to think that being single is the best way to go. I lean that way as well. So if somebody tells me I "need" a man I simply look at them like they lost their damn mind and go about my business. Besides....whose business is it if I'm in a relationship or not???? The only problem with those statements is people not minding their own damn business when their life is probably fucked up beyond all recognition.

 

[Stu Pendous]

sweet_ass: please tell me that "Can I stick it in your butt?" wasn't an attempted pick-up line

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

sweet_ass: please tell me that "Can I stick it in your butt?" wasn't an attempted pick-up line

Nope, I would have had a good laugh if they were. :biggrin1:
They all had me to some degree, we were either dating or potential FBs, and each mentioned the buttsex* without a commitment, that's an automatic no. :no: :wink:

*that doesn't include tossing my salad, tho. :08:

 

[invisibleman]

I can't believe they wasted bandwidth on that shit.
Really the only thing I do not like to hear as a single woman is, "can I stick it in your butt" outside of a relationship.

I wonder if Martha Stewart has that dilemma. :smile:

 

[invisibleman]

*that doesn't include tossing my salad, tho. :08:

I toss a great salad. I use tongs and a lot of olive oil. And finish off with the peppermill.

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

I toss a great salad. I use tongs and a lot of olive oil. And finish off with the peppermill.

When you start using tongue and a soupcon of olive oil for extra glide, lemme know. :naughty: :wink:

 

[Stu Pendous]

if that's the way you like it sweet ass, that's the way it'll be ...I believe of all of those comments, 4 is the most feasible...but then again I wouldn't really say any of those to a female.

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

if that's the way you like it sweet ass, that's the way it'll be

Quick learner!! And, you're Italian?
Mmm, warm up that tongue. :09:

 

[Wish-4-8]

These are things women hate to hear coming from a guy.
-Yes, that makes you look fat.
-You are just like your mother.
-Are you going to eat ALL that?
-Your friend is hot.
-Don't do that. It's a bad idea. Here is why...

 

[Stu Pendous]

It's always warm for a sweet ass...

 

[Pitbull]

I can't believe they wasted bandwidth on that shit.
Really the only thing I do not like to hear as a single woman is, "can I stick it in your butt" outside of a relationship.

Oops.
Sorry.
:redface:

 

[dolfette]

my family don't tell me how to get a man.
but they do quite often tell men to run like hell...

can't think why.

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

Oops.
Sorry.
:redface:

 

[Enid]

I've never really heard any of that stuff from a man, and none of those things bother me *except* the comment about needing to tone it down a notch. I hear this from my sister when we're fighting and it drives me bonkers! She knows how to push my buttons though. I never get that angry with other people. In fact I'm just about as placid and amenable as they come except where it concerns her.

 

[Wish-4-8]

I've never really heard any of that stuff from a man, and none of those things bother me *except* the comment about needing to tone it down a notch. I hear this from my sister when we're fighting and it drives me bonkers! She knows how to push my buttons though. I never get that angry with other people. In fact I'm just about as placid and amenable as they come except where it concerns her.

That is the point. The men you have been with will not say it because they know the consequences. :wink:

 

[Enid]

Haha, that's probably true enough.

If I heard a guy tell me any of those 1st 4 things I'd totally not care. Makes no difference to me. I don't care if someone tells me they think I am not trying hard enough, because I know how *I* operate and that's what matters. If a guy told me to get back out there same thing, I'll get back out there when I damn well want to and am ready. I'd just agree with the fellow who told me I'm too picky. Heck yeah I'm picky! That's the point in my book as long as you do it with intelligence, grace, compassion, balance and tolerance. And the dude who told me to wear more makeup? Well I don't wear makeup 99% of the time so I'd just look at that dude like he was nutso.