I don't understand all these posts by men saddened because their wives just can't take the size of their penis anymore. Did it grow after y'all said I do? Was she a virgin when you married her? Was she a mail-order bride? Why didn't she know how thick you were before the wedding? I don't mean to make light of what is a very serious situation, but I think pre-marital sex is imperative when you are well endowed.
When we got together in 1974, she was married but had already decided to move on, during the first two weeks when we had sex she didn't say anything about intercourse being painful. But by the end of our first month together I started to notice her grimacing when I entered her and while thrusting, I asked her what was wrong and she said that she was in pain. She thought that she had a vaginal infection and for the next 31 years she did have many vaginal infections that were treated, she also went to counseling about her past and pursued many other avenues. The medical professionals never asked her about my penis size, and it never ocurred to us either, until last year when after another unsuccessful try at intercourse, typically we tried intercourse once or twice every year, she was crying and said "Maybe you are just too big for me!" I got on the internet and Voila! too much girth is our problem. Not understanding the cause, we did not approach the problem correctly.
Perceptions:
I still remember the few times when we had successful intercourse with full penetration and wonderful orgasms on my part. What my wife remembers is that she was always in pain and she thought that sex was supposed to hurt, that was her experience.
Because she always experienced pain she became extremely hesitant to engage in anything other than oral sex and she is still working on this. She dilates her vagina daily, it's been over a year now, and the best we have done so far is to get me in half way, once, so she is still head shy.
At least we have identified the problem and she wants to be able to have intercourse with me, so things are looking up.