A couple problems

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  1. Imported

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    Big_John: Hi, I'm new to the forum, and was wondering if anyone could help me out.

    I'm a freshman in college, a virgin, and I measure about 8"x6 or 7" (I don't have a ruler in school; all I can do is use a belt and a piece of paper; it's kind of funny) when erect. Not the biggest around here, but I figure that should be more than enough to please her and maybe attract some extra attention, without really ever being a problem.

    Anyway, my problem I suppose is this: a few of my friends have come to the conclusion that I'm "sexually repressed", and need to get laid. I agree with them, and I want to, but for some reason I can't make myself "go out and get it". I keep sabotaging myself, I guess.

    I never really had a girlfriend in school; I've always been smart and withdrawn, so I sort of thought I was "above that", and wasn't really interested in girls, if that makes any sense. By the time I was interested in them, I was so far behind everyone else in that department that I was just discouraged further. To be honest, I've never even kissed a girl.

    Not to be cocky (pun intended), but I know I should be confident; I'm smart, funny, sensitive, pretty well-hung, and I'm told I'm cute. I don't really know what it is, but I guess I'm just overly shy.

    I know most guys don't care about this, but I kind of want my first time to be with someone I at least care about, and not some random drunk chick. Some of my friends are in frats, so I go to parties pretty often, and I'm sure I could get some if I really wanted to, but usually I just end up drinking as much as I can and then just going home.

    Now, I kind of have this thing for a friend of a friend (let's call her "Jennifer", if you want), so I don't know if I should just try to push things along with her. The mutual friend ("Cassandra", I suppose) told me that Jen seems to like me and talks about me whenever she's drunk, but this was a couple month ago, I've kept talking to her but nothing's really come of it so far, so I'm not sure if I should just give up on her. Both of them go to the highschool I went to, while I live in college about 30-40 minutes away. Oh, and Cassandra and another of her friends were chilling out in my dormroom, when she decided to go through my wallet, and found a magnum condom, which they made a pretty big deal about. I figure it can't be a bad thing that they know, but I'm not really relying on word getting out.

    Sorry to just unload all my problems like this, but I figure everyone seems to be pretty open around here, so maybe someone could give me some advice, or something.

    By the way, does anyone know how big you should be to wear the new Magnum XL?
     
  2. txquis

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    I'm just a week old here and i've gotten great advice so far.
    Hope you do as well.
    i waited until i was ready. and that is different for all of us. only you will know.
    Why push yourself about anything in life because of peer pressure?
    Your feelings are valid, and lots more guys feel the way you do than you might expect.   don't let anybody else tell you what you should do.

    Good luck man, and just know that when it does happen the way YOU want it to...it will be mindblowingly awesome......

    magnums work fine for me...(see stats below)
     
  3. B_DoubleMeatWhopper

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    I'm a firm believer in fate. When it's meant to happen, it will happen. Don't kick yourself about missed opportunities ... they might've passed you by for a reason. You'll live.

    About Magnum XLs: I'm 9¼" x 7". I can wear regular Magnums, but they're a bit snug. Sounds like you're about the right girth to consider the XLs. And as for measuring your girth accurately ... cloth measuring tapes are inexpensive, dude! ;)
     
  4. Imported

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    shoes: if you have a thing for her... why dont you just ask her out? the worst thing that can happen is that.. er, nothing happens.

    its not likely to be a big deal regarding the cock, anyway.
     
  5. Imported

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    jackinman: What's up Big John. Don't let the peer pressure get to you. I understand that you are a freshman in college and that might be easier said than done. But this is all about maturing. If you are not ready for sex yet then don't do it until YOU think you're ready. You even said it yourself, "I kind of want my first time to be with someone I at least care about, and not some random drunk chick". I'm pretty sure that many years from now when you're asked who did you lose your virginity to, you want to remember it as being a pleasant experience rather than saying some drunkin girl. Now about this other girl, if you have some feelings for her then try going after her. However, if she only seems to be interested in you when she is drunk, then you should keep looking. I know this is all hard you buddy, but please, please think before you do anything you might regret later. Good luck buddy.
     
  6. Imported

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    Big_John: Thanks for the replies. I guess I'll just kinda push things along with her, be a little more proavtice, etc, and see what happens. A lot of the reason was that I felt like I was "going to waste", but I've looked around here and I see I'm not alone, so that helps.

    About her only liking me when she's drunk, what Cassandra's told me is that whenever she mentions me to Jenn, she kinda gets all smiley and talks about me. So I'm kinda hoping that this is just a case of her being more straightforward and cutting through the bullshit when she's drunk, but maybe I'm wrong.

    Oh, and apparently Trojan will send you a free sample of the Magnum XL if you want. So if anyone else was considering it, you might wanna try that out.

    Thanks again.
     
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    awellhungboi: I totally understand where you're coming from, dude. Like you I've always been withdrawn (sometimes down right aloof--I have that 'icy blonde' syndrome sometimes) and a late starter. I never kissed a girl until I was eighteen and didn't get laid until I was nineteen. But then once it happened it started being easier and I learned to relax, to just let things happen, to stop trying to control things I had no control over and to just have fun and be myself. And though my love life after losing my virginity has often been complicated it's rarely been boring! Sometimes I wish it would be.

    Anyway, thinking about this reminds me of a line in Cocteau's film of Beauty and the Beast where two of the characters are getting ready to break into the Beast's treasure house and one of the guys says, "Stop being scared." and the other one answers, "I'm not scared, I'm just thinking." To which the first guy responds, "Same thing." So don't think too much, just have fun and let things happen. And it will happen! Whether or not with this girl 'Jennifer' or someone else who knows--you could meet someone tomorrow who will have you going 'Jennifer who?' a week from now. Put yourself out there, go out--doesn't have to be to a bar or a meat market--just so long as you can be with people and interact that's what matters. For me finding something I was good at and enjoyed doing (writing) and spending time with girls who also wrote and had ideas and opinions we could talk about and share was the key. So do what you enjoy and the rest will fall into place. Anyway, I hope that's not too longwinded and preachy of a post, and I wish you lots of luck!

    P.S. Be wary of these Trojan 'free samples'. I ordered one of those XL free samples and never received it, but Trojan started spamming me big time. I like Magnums okay, they're sort of tight but I kind of like the feeling. :)
     
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    Erin: Speaking from a girls experience, I was into guys and dating when I was really young. I thought it was cool. However, now (I'm 20) I find it more attractive when a guy has a little bit less experience. Just take it easy and relax. It is the key to success. Don't worry. There are not too many things you can do wrong, and there is no use jumping into anything you aren't ready for ( you wouldn't enjoy it anyways) :) Good luck!
     
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    Have sex with her and her friends
     
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    Don't worry about the social attitudes and what your friends think, they are not you and you should tell them to GTFO when they start with that crap.

    Take things at your own pace, no one can tell you what you "should" be doing, because we are all different and have various attitudes and opinions. I personally think it's noble and good that you're waiting for the right experience, because even though your friends won't admit it, their first time was a nightmare that they would rather scrub from their memory. I can guarantee you that every single one of them wishes they could replace their first experience with one they've had since.

    Wait until you're ready, don't make any big deal about dick size (it's true that most people really don't give a damn, and for those that do it's mostly about feeling greedy sometimes).

    Relax, you have years of time to experience things and find someone you think is right for you. When you do finally find the right person, it's likely going to be better for you than the first experience was for all of your mouthy friends lol
     
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