So I was talking to the ex today. And well before I get into it here's a bit of back story: She was my first and amazingly adventurous in bed. The sex was definitly not why it didn't work out. But anyway she was talking about sex with her current b/f and how he keeps pushing anal... and how she wasn't ready but that she would be eventually. But now here's the kicker... she turns to me and says "there is no way I'll ever do anal with you. Seriously it's like you have a curse" Two things took me back about this statement... 1. Present tence used. 2. I never pushed for it cuz she said that she wasn't into that. I mean I'm big at 6.5"-7" in girth but the fact that she always said she would never do it before threw me when she said that she would want to now. She always covetted my size before or so I thought. I guess these types of things you just learn after the fact. onder: This is the first time I've ever really thought of it as a truely negative type of thing... I've had problems before but this was the first time it was really verbalized negatively outside the situation.