A different type of fantasy?

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  1. ManlyBanisters

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    Responding to another thread got me thinking about this and I wanted to see if this is something others do too.

    When I fantasise I'm not always part of the fantasy. I do conjure up the 'fucking Johnny Depp in an elevator' type fantasies but, as often when I'm masturbating, I don't imagine people doing stuff to me, or vice versa. Instead I kinda create my own porn movies in my head - with made up characters, never based on anyone real. It's not a re-run of porn I've seen and it's often more about the circumstances of sex than the actual mechanics - something that's seldom done well in porn films - and I rarely like it when they try. It's easier to find that kind of thing in erotic literature, I guess. But I digress.

    Basically I want to know if other people fantasise this way. Are are you always in your own fantasies? Is this a woman thing? Do guys do it too?
     
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    I fantasize like that more often than not. When I'm masturbating, I sometimes picture something erotic that I've read or maybe how I would have changed (and improved in my opinion) something that I've seen.

    I don't know if most guys think like this, but I know my ex used to fantasize about me and another girl all the time. When I asked him if we included him during that fantasy, he told me it was more about imagining her and I together that got him hot.
     
  3. got_lost

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    It's me in my fantasies. Though a slimmer, hotter me! :lmao: :rolleyes:

    And yes there is usually a 'story' rather than just the sex. ie erotic rather than just a good banging.

    Johnny Depp heh??!?! :wink:
     
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    I'm not always in my fantasies.
    It would really depend on the elements at that particular moment that launch the fantasy in my head.
     
  5. Enid

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    Half the time I am in my fantasies, half not. It really varies, depending on my mood and whatnot. Sometimes, I just like to look at pictures like this site:

    Sex Positions Guide

    I look at the positions and imagine how that would feel. It's like there are no stories or anything to it at all, I just want the visual. I have a book of positions too that I use sometimes (it's from the 70s though so it's really cheesy!).

    These days though I love to read erotic stories like on literotica or lustylibrary -- and I don't interject myself into the story at all. I guess I go through phases.
     
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    Most of the time I am in my fantasies. But sometimes I will fantasize about my bf with another man, or men that I know together.
     
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  8. ManlyBanisters

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    Where do I sign? :naughty:
     
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    I'm not always in my fantasies. It depends on my mood and whatever made my fantasy going. But sometimes the fantasy starts without 'me', but I end up being part of it. :biggrin1:
     
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    once my girlfriend was watching the shadow of my cock
    going in and out of her and she said she was
    fantasizing about her not being her and watching us fuck.

    she also fantasizes about her letting her friends fuck me whilst hooded,
    and watching them orgasm from me.

    if i fantasize...i am usually in another dimension,
    i am in japan on top of mount fuji with 4 tents
    in those 4 tents are 4 tribes...we are all into BDSM
    and we all stay within our tribes and play with whom we like.

    one of my favorite fantasy scenes is by an outdoor fire
    on the mountain with 2 girls, one is my sensually sadistic assistant.
    the other is just meditating on the ropes and fresh air and crackling fire.
     
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    Nice post Psidom.
     
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    I really like that site! That's one of the sites I went to looking for positions that involved very deep penetration (which is what I always go for!). I still haven't tried them out (and I don't think I'm enough of a contortionist for some of them! :biggrin1:), but I'd like to try them out.

    My fantasies always include me in them though - only often in my fantasies my body looks very different than it really does - one of the fantasies I have the most often is imagining if I was slim but very, very busty. As far as the men in my fantasies, they vary in looks except they're all good-looking, and they are ALL well hung (NO exceptions!) Sometimes I fantasize about myself with one man, and sometimes I fantasize about myself with a group of men!

    And I don't normally have complete stories to my fantasies - it's mostly about the sex itself.
     
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    I'm with you ManlyBanisters. I am rarely in my fantasies while I am getting myself off. It's more like an imaginary porn in my head.
     
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    well fuck! y'all have fantasies and you aren't in them? great! i guess i have fantasies out there somewhere with fucking going on in them and i got left out! y'all try and include me in your fantasies. my brain is limp i think.:jester:
     
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    Lol, me too!
    I'm always centre of attention :redface:
     
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    The things i fantasize about i couldn't never imagine happening to me, so its sometimes hard to imagine myself in that role. When that happening i usually end up putting on some porn and watch it happen to someone else
     
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    I am frequently not a part of my fantasies, as others have stated - it depends a lot on my mood. Also, like Lee_M mentioned, a lot of the fantasies are situations that I can't really put myself in realistically, so it's more like watching a customized porn or maybe like being in someone else's head.
     
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