i'm in a bit of a situation with an ex girlfriend from high school and i can't really talk about it with any of my "real life" friends...so i thought i'd seek the wisdom of you wonderful lot, especially the ladykind. this girl and i dated for a few months senior year of high school and remained friends after we broke up throughout college, but there was always this lingering sexual tension. we never slept together, though. the most we did was me fingering her in high school and some light phone sex (at one point years later, i sent her some of my very first cock pics...which was the first and only time she'd seen it! she seemed impressed, and disappointed that she'd never gotten to in real life, lol). anyway, towards the end of college we had a falling out and stopped talking for years. in the interim, she got married and moved away. a few months back, she got back in touch with me and we put all of our grudges behind us and started talking again. and sure enough, the same flirtiness and sexual tension started to appear again...innocent and playful at first, but escalating into some fairly racy conversations until we eventually exchanged more recent naked pictures. around this time she was planning on moving again and her husband had already gone ahead to find them a house and all. the ultimate terminus of all of this was that we wound up having very hot, very intense phone sex for about two weeks, during which she had multiple orgasms (which apparently surprised her as she said it had never happened before). when she was about to move herself and reunite with the hubby, i told her we should stop as it wouldn't be fair to him. and so we did. we behaved ourselves... except the last few days...we've been texting. and once again it's become very sexual, to the point that she got herself off while we were texting back and forth yesterday afternoon. so i'm worried we're back sliding into it and what might happen if we don't pull ourselves out. we've got a ton of chemistry and shared history and a very tumultuous relationship, which of course makes for a very hot attraction. she says she loves her husband and that everything is great at home, but that she can't stop thinking about having sex with me. i know we've crossed a lot of lines so far, but that's like a wall you're never getting back over. so...i'm tempted, but also worried. morally and spiritually, i know it's wrong. emotionally, i'm concerned if something WERE to happen, one of us would want more and the other wouldn't be able to give it (i don't know which would be which). at the same time, it's hard NOT to do it, and i don't want to reject her out of hand and hurt our re-developing friendship. the flip side being i don't know if all of this and what else might happen ARE damaging that friendship. i've just got a whirlwind in my head right now...it feels good to share that connection with her again, and it's a hell of an ego boost to know i can flip her switch that well from so far away with just pictures and words. and i'm just a natural flirt, so it feels like she should be the one to put on the brakes for her marriage...but she's the one who tends to escalate things and want more, so is it then my role as the "other man" to stop? because that's really difficult for me as a single and usually VERY horny guy. do we need to stop everything altogether? do we just need to fuck and get it out of our system? sorry for the lengthy rambling. like i said, i haven't been able to talk about this so it all kind of spilled out. thanks for listening (or, um, reading...i suppose) and if you have any advice or guidance or questions, i'd love to hear them. thanks!