I have a feeling a bunch of guys are going to answer this and give me a "just tell her to fuck off" type of an answer. If i could do that i would have done it already. I have a friend that i met through a hobby, she recently moved a few hours away and i see her less than i used to at these events. She is my age and has a boyfriend that is old enough to be our Dad, almost grandpa really...she has no kids and has never been married. Given that i don't get the whole Daddy aged boyfriend thing, she never asks about my husband or what he thinks about things when we talk about situations. I will ask "Hey what does Henry think about that?" but she has no interest in my life or relationship with my husband. Since she has no kids, she really doesn't want to talk about anything regarding that either. She wants a kid but the guy she is with understandably has older children and has been married 6 times and has no interest in marrying her or having kids with her. He has also mentioned to me (since i know both of them through our hobby interest) that he has problems even dating her and feels more like her Dad than her boyfriend and thus doesn't even want to have sex with her anymore because it feels "wrong" He was hoping when she moved away she would show interest in someone else, maybe someone more her age. Anyway, in addition to the above being odd and awkward because when i see her she invites me to stay the night at her place. We end up staying up all night talking about everything possible, except any of her goals, dreams, etc. of the future. We might go a year and not talk about whether she still wants kids or plans to date Henry forever and miss out on her opportunity to have kids with someone who wants them. She is an only child with elderly parents that don't live anywhere near her, she has an extremely childish selfish side that comes out when you aren't doing things her way. For example, I was recently down for my gallbladder surgery and I was supposed to be with her that weekend. She texts me almost everyday wanting to know when i can come and see her (since she is on call for her job and can't drive here) i keep telling her i am still recovering and not feeling up to the drive and the activities. Last weekend was 2nd weekend after my surgery and I had a setback that prevented me from even feeling like seeing her. Not to mention it was my birthday over the weekend. She would rather me spend it alone with her than to be with my husband and kid. Now we are on 3rd weekend since the surgery and she's already getting hold of me again seeing if i will come to see her. I'm really not wanting to see her at all and I'm tired of how selfish she is. She doesn't care if i can't wear a seatbelt comfortably on my surgery incisions, she doesn't care that i've been away from my husband all week and want to see him, she insists that i bring my daughter to "hang" with us when i can't find a sitter. She sounds all sad that i was down for a major surgery but really she is just upset that she had to be bored all weekend while i was in the hospital. There are so many other things i could bring up, but i probably made my point already. I am still going to see her at events and she and i are one of the few females that are involved, which is how we became friends in the first place. I can't be held hostage in this selfish world of hers when i am busy and have other obligations. It's easy for her when she is by herself for a week or two at a time to waste an entire weekend with a friend. I really don't want to. What the hell do i do? I am not good at breaking up friendships. I hate the idea of the drama i will deal with from that point when i see them. I really refrain from starting relationships because I am a home body and actually enjoy time with my immediate family. I have all these missed calls and messages from her and i am getting pissed off.