I've been talking to this girl for the past month and a half or so, pretty heavily. We hang out a lot during the week in each others rooms (nothing really happens except for a few "flirty" touches), eat lunch almost every day, and sometimes breakfast and dinner as well together. Over the past few weeks she's been calling me almost nightly to talk, if we aren't on the phone we are either together or texting it seems. Recently the talking and phone conversations have gone into flirty sexual talk. One night I couldn't sleep, she said I should jack off (more or less) and that I could use her as masturbation material if I wanted to (she wanted to know all about the session the following morning). I've seen her basically naked, she had a bra and panties on. She's seen me shirtless. We get along really well from what it seems. We've been together in public around school so much that my football teammates are beginning to ask who she is and if we are together. What stops me from making a move (trust me I want to) is the fact that she has a boyfriend. However, this boyfriend of hers lives in Germany, quite a far distance away. From what I can deduce she met him while she studied abroad, and is trying to make a long distance relationship work. I live literally 15 minutes from her. I've taken her back home several times this year on long breaks during school. She's told me that she's kept our little "relationship" a secret from her boyfriend because if he catches word, their relationship is over. Which makes me wonder even more. My issue here is what to do? The more we talk and hang out together, the more I want to ask her where we stand, if she wants to break off her current relationship and get with me, or something to that effect. However, if I ask that I'm afraid of the negative repercussions. What would some of you do in this situation? I have this thought in the back of my mind that she's just using me because I listen and I'm a nice guy. I hope that's not it though.