a guy a work is hitting on me help?

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got a openly ay guy hitting on me --- i;m married but bi and think he is hot. should i go for it or walk away? I;m a manager in another area of the company,,,,,,,,
 

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Countryguy has the real crux. Generally married means monogomy... even if you are bi you have chosen a woman to be with. If you have an open marriage that is somethinge else and then you should know your company's policy on relationships or things could get messy.
 
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Yep countryguy - I agree, what's the situation with your marriage - rwirt, if you can clarify that first perhaps we can assist, although my first answer with work related matters is; don't shag between ranks. Leave work and anything sexual completely mutual, it can cause untold issues.
 
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complicated situation--- married for 25 years --- I didnt come to turns with my sexuality until last year. I know it would be wrong to play with a guy at work but flattered he is on to me. just scary that he can tell im interested in the flirting with him....wife and i have been through lots together and we want to stay together --- but i do enjoy the feel of a man
 

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no----im not openly bi with my wife
she is clueless about that part of my life
 

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no----im not openly bi with my wife
she is clueless about that part of my life


That is your answer then. Unless you have an open marriage in general this would be cheating on her and not a good idea.
 

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The risk you're really taking is that, if this sexual relationship with this male suitor turns out badly, you could be "outed" at work....which I guarantee you your wife will eventually find out about. You could end up losing both your job, and your marrriage at the same time. Companies today have become so ridiculously legalistic, that they don't even know what "sexual harassment" even is......they just think sex between employees=liability. Therefore, terminate the liability !

I won't comment on the boudaries of fidelity in your straight relationship....only that there's a whole lot of cheating going on out there....especially with regard to emotional intamacy between coworkers.
 

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And here's another thing...if you are "outed", you will be instantly labeled as GAY.....for most people, there is no "Bi"...there's only GAY and STRAIGHT. After you're labeled as GAY, don't expect anyone to give you a trophy and a boquet of roses. They'll do the politically correct thing, and pretend it doesn't matter..but, you will be treated differently (especially by homophobic guys in the restroom).

I say, if you have to scratch this itch....do what our ancestors have done for tens of thousands of years....anonymous gay sex on the side !