A guy lasting too long

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  1. 7x6

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    I was going to post this in the 'stud' thread where someone suggested 'last forever' as a tip and it got me thinking.

    I wish lasting forever was all there is to it because I can fuck for hours simply because I find it hard to cum. In my experience women like it at first but most of them go off it after a while.

    It can be a real problem. My current girlfriend's ideal time for regular sex is about five minutes, which is about the time it takes her to cum once. She made this very clear when we first met but luckily, five minutes in she was always up for rather more and i'd eventually cum maybe half an hour later during her fifth or sixth orgasm.

    Two years on it's got to the point where sex is down to once a week or so because she tends to actively avoid it and when we do it, we sometimes just stop, ten minutes in, when it seems clear she has had enough, other times it'll be like it was when we met, in fact I think the best sex we ever had was only a couple of months ago. It's just the quantity has gone right down. Me cumming inside her has gone from being a daily to a bi-weekly occurrence and it's starting to make my mind wander...

    A few weeks ago, after one of those sessions where she came and then made it very clear she was frustrated that I hadn't yet, my dick actually shriveled inside her and we actually spoke about it.

    I pointed out that there is a world full of women who complain about guys who only last five minutes and that sexually, maybe we were with the wrong people.

    She could easily find a guy who had to hold back for her to get to her first five minute orgasm and then cum simultaneously. Make him feel a stud and she'd be up for her ideal five minute quickie every single day. I could find another woman who needs at least half an hour or good solid fucking to cum, thinks i'm god's gift, make me feel like a stud and we'd be fucking every day.

    She agreed. We also agreed that neither of us wanted that and that we should be working on finding a middle ground. We haven't spoken about it since, we have had a couple of very nice fucks in the meantime though.

    I'm just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to ensure we find that middle ground.

    Or maybe we're wasting each other's time, obviously there is much much more to a relationship than sex but ours was kind of built around it and the state of our sex lives reflects in other aspects.
     
  2. dolfette

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    my ex thought 2 hours was a quickie.
    pissed me right off.
    hours is nice sometimes but 30mins is good for every day use, with 5min quickies here & there.

    i don't want to shag until i'm raw tyvm.

    no idea how to help though. we just split up instead.
     
  3. D_Seymour_Dix

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    I can last forever, or pop in 10 minutes - it all depends on the mood. @7x6, it can take my girlfriend a long period of time to get her juices flowing so I take my time and work her up. Perhaps the same advice can be said in your situation. Have your girlfriend play with your cock more before you fuck her. More foreplay to work you up so she doesn't have to worry about you fucking her dry.

    Also, after she's cum, slow yourself down, keep the mood going and give her time to recover. Than make her cum again ;)
    7x6
     
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    If you can delay penetration by using other forms of play to bring you nearer the precipice it might help to allign your orgasm with hers. If ongoing lubrication is the problem for her then keeping lube on hand seems a simple enough solution.

    I've heard of men visualizing things to delay their orgasm, could the same work in reverse? Imagining the feel of your balls pulling tight, the tingle in the base of your cock all leading to the explosive culmination...
     
  5. Principessa

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    I agree, so many guys on this site brag about being able to go for two and three hours w/o cumming. That just doesn't appeal to me. For one thing as you mentioned I'd be raw. For another assuming he knew what he was doing I would have cum and squirted a few times so I would be dehydrated and exhausted. Sorry, but this girl has her limits. If you can't cum in 60 minutes I am mentally and possibly physically checking out. :cool:
     
  6. 7x6

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    The thing is, we went through a long patch of almost splitting up for non sexual issues until recently. I guess it's only now that all those things are sorted and we are otherwise very happy that we feel able to tackle the sex.

    The "shag until i'm raw" thing is interesting though. I read something many years ago where a woman wrote that if she had enough sex the soreness just became normal, faded, stopped being painful, became extra sensitivity during sex and a reminder of how much sex she was getting during the day. Obviously people are all different and there is a distinct possibilty it was bullshit written by a guy as it was part of one of those little 'interviews' with the model you used to get in '70s porn mags :)
     
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    if I get "stubborn" cock, my wife gets on top, and squeezes her puss on my cock while thrusting up and down quickly at the same time. this is one of the reasons she is my wife. she knows how to fuck. she is the only woman I ever fucked who could really do this exceptionally well. she says that my thick cock makes this easy. and if I am being a real "bastard", it is fun to watch her work herself to another orgasm.
     
  8. dolfette

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    it might be true but i don't want to go through months of being raw to get there.
    nor do i want a toughened up, desensitised cunt.
    or the cystitis infections.
     
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    I take a while and it can be a problem, especially as I usually ensure a woman has cum by going down on her. There are times when I wish I could come quicker.
     
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    Simple. More foreplay.
     
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    I have had a few incidents where it was honestly easier to just stop than try and explain the situation.
    Does anyone else feel embarrassed for lasting?
     
  12. hose 85

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    I usually last 15 - 20 minutes more than enough time to get the wife off, She usually does'nt have a problem with me going longer but I can usually tell when she is getting sore and try to finish up quickly.

    Just my 2 cents, J.
     
  13. dolfette

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    i wouldn't mind a guy jacking to completion after we'd shagged.
    though i know some women get offended.
     
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    Dolfette, you're a saint
     
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    that or lazy :wink:
     
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    i thought woman loved long sessions.
     
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    I've never been an easy cummer. I think it's partly a matter of how you're wired, and partly a matter of how much you let your expectations get to you. Relax, you can cum faster.

    QUESTION FOR SLOW CUMMERS: Do you ever get wet dreams? I've never had one, and one other slow cummer I know said the same thing once. How about the rest of you?
     
  18. B_ytcorp

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    slow cummer and no, cum to... come to mention it I don't get wet dreams. not sure if thats a valid correlation as I do masturbate regularly but just maybe.
     
  19. greatdickismydrug

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    EXACTLY how it's done. Works every time. I have never been with a guy who made me raw from not cumming. Raw from cumming over and over yes. Men getting ready to go off on a deployment are very good at this, BTW.

    OP says that GF told him early on that she likes sex to last five minutes. Well, despite enjoying a bit more during good times that is exactly what you got. A woman who likes sex for about five minutes. There are women marathoners out there. Don't give up or worry about "lasting too long."
     
  20. dolfette

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    some women.
    sometimes.
    most women i know would like to save the long sessions for special occassions.

    plus the joy of cystitis after a night of too much shagging...
    the sensation of pissing broken glass is not sexy.
     
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