I was going to post this in the 'stud' thread where someone suggested 'last forever' as a tip and it got me thinking. I wish lasting forever was all there is to it because I can fuck for hours simply because I find it hard to cum. In my experience women like it at first but most of them go off it after a while. It can be a real problem. My current girlfriend's ideal time for regular sex is about five minutes, which is about the time it takes her to cum once. She made this very clear when we first met but luckily, five minutes in she was always up for rather more and i'd eventually cum maybe half an hour later during her fifth or sixth orgasm. Two years on it's got to the point where sex is down to once a week or so because she tends to actively avoid it and when we do it, we sometimes just stop, ten minutes in, when it seems clear she has had enough, other times it'll be like it was when we met, in fact I think the best sex we ever had was only a couple of months ago. It's just the quantity has gone right down. Me cumming inside her has gone from being a daily to a bi-weekly occurrence and it's starting to make my mind wander... A few weeks ago, after one of those sessions where she came and then made it very clear she was frustrated that I hadn't yet, my dick actually shriveled inside her and we actually spoke about it. I pointed out that there is a world full of women who complain about guys who only last five minutes and that sexually, maybe we were with the wrong people. She could easily find a guy who had to hold back for her to get to her first five minute orgasm and then cum simultaneously. Make him feel a stud and she'd be up for her ideal five minute quickie every single day. I could find another woman who needs at least half an hour or good solid fucking to cum, thinks i'm god's gift, make me feel like a stud and we'd be fucking every day. She agreed. We also agreed that neither of us wanted that and that we should be working on finding a middle ground. We haven't spoken about it since, we have had a couple of very nice fucks in the meantime though. I'm just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to ensure we find that middle ground. Or maybe we're wasting each other's time, obviously there is much much more to a relationship than sex but ours was kind of built around it and the state of our sex lives reflects in other aspects.