I'm still a bit weirded out by this and figured I'd take a shot and ask the women here what exactly I should make of this... any advice on what it is I did wrong, would probably be quite helpful! During sex, my girlfriend and I were fooling around as normal - we'd been out for drinks quite late, smoked a couple of joints at a friends' house before grabbing a taxi back to mine roundabout 4 or 5 in the morning. In all honesty, at that point, I was ready for bed and had pretty much assumed she was too. Instead, she starts kissing me quite passionately, leading on to her undressing and whispering about how hard she wanted me to fuck her. So far, all normal. We're at it for 20 minutes or so, I guess (time-keeping usually goes out the window during sex if things are going good!) before I make what I look now in hindsight was a less-than-subtle gesture that I'd like her to go down on me. In all of a year of going out, she's never said no and has always, consitantly shown enthusiasm for sucking cock - something that she also happens to be really really fucking good at. Though, this time, she hesitates and tells me she really doesn't want to. I'm confused, a little and ask her why. At this point she moves away from me completely and starts getting upset - saying that she wanted to be close and intimate with me, not something she can do whilst sucking my cock (her words). This confused me, since 20 minutes earlier, she'd been saying "fuck me hard" over and over. Going on, she said that oral sex wasn't intimate at all and just flat-out pornographic. I complained that, how was I supposed to know she'd wanted close and intimate "love-making" when all she'd said was to fuck her hard? Apparently this too, was the wrong thing to say and she stormed out of the room and slept downstairs. Sorry this wound up being so long, but I'm incredibly confused as to what it is I've done wrong. She's gone home for the weekend and if I've done something wrong, I should probably apologise for it, but fuck if I know what it is. Women, did I commit some cardinal sin out of ignorance? Is a blowjob really that degrading and non-intimate for women? Really confused.