Then perhaps, "Fuck me hard" wasn't the best way to express that.She went through the same arguments whilst sober - that she wanted intimacy and love-making, as opposed to just fucking.
Then perhaps, "Fuck me hard" wasn't the best way to express that.
I'm reading from a lot of the respondants that your request for some head killed the mood because it didn't fit perfectly with what she wanted and I'd agree with that assesment. But what I don't understand or agree with is why, when there are two people engaged in sex, only her expectations (poorly expressed at that) are important.
I can't see why his also expressing his desires is worthy of an emotional outburst, punishment or something he should apologize for.
If she wanted it to be entirely her way she needed to express that clearly AND have him agree to it. To expect it without this is a quite the sense of entitlement.
WERD! Word-for-word.Then perhaps, "Fuck me hard" wasn't the best way to express that.
I'm reading from a lot of the respondants that your request for some head killed the mood because it didn't fit perfectly with what she wanted and I'd agree with that assesment. But what I don't understand or agree with is why, when there are two people engaged in sex, only her expectations (poorly expressed at that) are important.
I can't see why his also expressing his desires is worthy of an emotional outburst, punishment or something he should apologize for.
If she wanted it to be entirely her way she needed to express that clearly AND have him agree to it. To expect it without this is a quite the sense of entitlement.
Me either!agree. i don't understand why no one is going "your girlfriend over reacted."...
It's simple as the fact that she didn't want to do it. Are you seriously saying she should have gone down just to please him??
If either part doesn't feel like doing something, it's not happening, even if in the past it did happen 10.000 times and in the future 10.000 more. She didn't want. It works both ways, if she asked to do something specific and he didn't want to, he can say no, right?
The wrong step was starting to ask why. That was like pushing to have it disregarding her desires. You should have accepted it and if you wanted to discuss why, find another moment to ask her, any moment that doesn't break what was going on.
Hey Scotsman - I see things a bit differently than the other girls on here. It sounds like you guys have a pretty open sexual relationship and you didn't do anything out of the norm to warrant an apology. She told you how she wanted it, why can't you do the same??? If anything she needs to apologize to you for being a baby about the situation. If she was upset she should have communicated it to you like an adult -NOT pouting on the sofa. She should take you wanting head from her as a compliment. You compromised and had sex when you were tired and wanting sleep. You did it how she wanted and she (and the girls on here) have the nerve to say there could possibly be a titch selfish. REALLY people?!
I'm sorry ... I don't think you did anything wrong .... at all
That's cause you're not his girlfriend so you're thinking rationally.
Hahaha, thankfully I am usually thinking rationally. However if that were the case, the other 2 dozen girls commenting on here would think the same way. Unfortunately that isn't the case. Its hard being part of a rare breed given a bad name by drama queens. Oh well ...
to request an explanation implies that she should do it,
Why?
Why doesn't it just mean that he is trying to understand her?
let's stop sex so that you can tell me why you're not doing it!
no, she stopped the already stopped sex because she didn't want a conversation about why she's not doing it.Isn't that what she did?
This is what I think:
When someone seems to act irrationally in a situation when they are usually level-headed and predictable, it sometimes means that there is something else going on behind the scenes that finally raised its ugly head. I suspect, in this situation, that your girlfriend has felt that she has been the giver...and disproportionately so. While she can usually sublimate her annoyance with this (and in fact may prefer to give rather than receive), her dissatisfaction may have finally burst out in this setting.
This is just speculation, mind you. But I've seen it many times. Consider that she may feel that the sexual exchange is not equal. Talk to her about it. Maybe you have to pay more attention. It wouldn't be the first time that a man failed to understand his woman.