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All,

I'm new to this board, but could use some advice. My wife and I have a good sex life. I'm above average in length and girth, but no monster like some of you. My wife and I have discussed her ex-lover and of course dick size came up. She said i was bigger than he was, so I've had a great deal of confidence knowing I was her biggest.

A couple of nights ago, she got a little tipsy and for some reason the subject of his penis size came up. This time her description of his dick was different. When it was brought up, she laughed and said he was really thick. When she said this, she held up her tow hands together and made a large circle. Obviously, this shook me up a little bit.

I called her out on this new information and questioned her on why she never told me before. She said, she couldn't really remember until then, as something sparked her memory.

The thing is... I occasionally use a water pump before having sex, or use a cock ring. I know she prefers they way I feel when I am thicker than usual, so now I am questioning if i am naturally thick enough for her.

Should I be worried about this, or am I overreacting?

How could she all of a sudden remember his large girth? Was she hiding the truth to make me feel better?

I appreciate any feedback!!
 
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Probably overreaction. I think you need to work on your confidence. Your wife married you, not her ex, whatever his penis size.
 

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The crazy thing is, I had a ton of confidence until this revelation.




Hope you regain that Confidence soon
and try not to worry to much
its all between you and your wife now huh, surely
forget about him, and her occasional thoughts of him
perhaps only brought up because you bring it up first???


consolation prize
your much bigger than me, by the sounds of it ha
 

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Thanks for the feedback so far. I would definitely love a woman's perspective as well. The members on these forums seem to offer great feedback to issues/questions and I appreciate these.
 

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do not turn into that dude.

your confidence should come from the life you're living.
how much of yourself you put into your life, and the satisfaction derived there from.
not what some far-away long-ago dude may or may not be packing.

really.. don't turn a silly booze-lubed moment of silliness into an issue.
*ya never exaggerated a re-account while soaking in ya gin?*
 

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Why do you discuss the size of her ex especially more than once. Depending on how many times this had come up she may have been teaching you a lesson and exagerating so that you don't ask...either that or I have no idea.
 

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Women never marry men because of the size of their cock alone. There's either something you're insecure about telling us going on or you're massively over reacting.

She's your wife, encourage the stories that turn her on and be open about what turns you on too.
 

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He was bigger than you. She didn't tell you to protect your feelings. Or maybe she was exaggerating. Does it matter? Unless your wife is a total b-word she's not going to try and cheat on you with her ex. She's probably not going to divorce you and beg her ex to her back either.

Don't worry if the last guy was bigger. your wife enjoys having sex with you. That's all that matters.
 

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You're overreacting because your confidence was phony all along. Your confidence cannot come from your penis alone, and it certainly cannot come from some other dude's penis. Figure out what makes you awesome, and embrace that. Figure out what sucks about you, and decide if it needs fixing or you're cool enough as you are. And then rock it out. Live life. You are a man, not a penis, and porn is not real life. Good luck.
 

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The crazy thing is, I had a ton of confidence until this revelation.

The advice on this site is all over the map. If a smaller guy says he is worried about the size of his dick the bigger guys say "you focus too much on dick size. Dick size isn't that important."

Many posts are about big guys talking about how great it is to be notices for having a big dick and how it is never big enough.

I think some speak with forked tongue. But I don't have time to do the research right now.
:smile:
 

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This is why I make it a personal policy never to talk or care to hear about ex-lovers. Why are you bringing this person up? What purpose does it serve? You should have never gone digging and she should have never told you about it. The part when she said she didn't remember is a lie me thinks. That's just something you remember if you've been with someone for a time. So the question is why did she bring it now? Could it be you kept asking because it inflated your ego and she got sick of it? I dunno, just speculation.

The posters above me got it right, she found more in you than just your cock, move on and never bring it up again.
 

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Amen Mercury. My husband and I both know that there were lover before for each of us. Unless there was something that an ex did to or for us that we were not doing they have never entered into our relationship in any way shape or form. In my world, there is no room for an ex. I am with my husband and he satisfies me like no other. The satisfaction that I am referring to is that my life is whole with him.
Let it go. If you find that she really enjoys more thickness try a thicker toy. Variety keeps makes things interesting. Hubby and I have been married for 13 years and we are always trying new things and I have yet to be disappointed. Remember, a good marriage is about more than sex. If my husband and I could never have sex again, I would miss it, but if I could never be with him again (sharing my life with him) I don't know that I could stand it.
 

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I think some speak with forked tongue. But I don't have time to do the research right now.
:smile:





thats most unfortunate for us all
missing out on such valued assistance
how could we possibly live without it .. 8 years of important contributions?
 

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She's trying to tell you she didn't remember because it doesn't matter to her. Obviously, it matters more to you. I wonder if women worry this much about their breast size?
 

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Perhaps she never told you if he was because she knew what your reaction would be and by the sounds of it she was right. She didn't marry him, she married you so put it back where it belongs, off the table. Even if he was bigger who cares? All of us, or at least most of us have had lovers in our past who were better or not as good as our current!