I have a question, perhaps somewhere between a curiosity and a rambling, lol. All are welcome but please, no bitchers with reference to centuries old posts if they exist and a cutting remark. Its just rude. 99% of you are beautiful people and I love LPSG for the genuine quality of its members, even if some of you are straight, lol. That was a joke for the over sensative among us. Anyways, i want to ask about masculinity, more so the difference between just being a male and being a 'man'. I use the term 'man' as in it traditional conotations, qualities and even its architype, which, perhaps rightly or wrongly, many many men are still measured against today. I read that as men, the only way (as males) we achieve recognised masculinity is by having it given to us by other mens acknowledgment of it and to a lesser degree, of women too. It's not something you simply have or achieve by yourself. So... straight, bi or gay... Do you consider yourself to be a 'man' or do you feel you somehow fall short of the definition or the perseption? If you do, what is it that gives you the sense of identification? If you dont, what is it you feel you're missing?As men, we are all males yes, but are you a man? What dose being a man mean to you, how do you define in? I find this subject fasinating because ultimatly, although i feel male and in no way effeminate, i dont really veiw myself as a 'man'. Im not talking gender confusion before someone starts, im male and know and feel it, i dont want to be a woman thank you, lol, nothing against women there, i respect women, even if they can frighteningly bleed throughout the year and not die, lol. What i mean is you can look or meet some guys, regardless of sexuality and you kinda instinctivly know they're a 'man' and i just dont feel that regarding myself. It's like, some guys where given a hand book on being a 'man' and i just missed the memo about it if that makes senses. Am i the only one out there? Feel free to ramble in reply, i love listening to the thoughts and views of other men about their sense of masculinity.