As with all my psychiatry-based threads, I tend to pull the ideas from analysis of my own problems and life. This one I think you might find interesting, and is a bit of both to do with trying to solve my own issues as well as exploring the idea with you guys. This is the situation. As I am getting older my conscious and guilt is getting much higher every time I have sex. I presume if I were in a long-term relationship or even a very casual relationship I may be ok, but when it comes to meeting someone and having sex with them once or twice, I hate myself for it. For example this past week, I literally decided to go home instead of having sex even though I wanted to, and even the little stuff we did do I felt guilty for it, and don't know why I did it. It is strange. My theory so-to-speak is that as I am getting older my sex drive must be lowering or I am simply looking more for a real relationship sub-consciously. I don't understand how people can go out and 'pull' for a night and feel fine about the emptiness it leaves in their heart. Needing sex like that feels like a weakness, and a painful thing to do to somebody if they potentially like you. Any thoughts or experience of other people here having similar scenarios?