I’m interested in hearing from guys who have tried it, giving or getting, and how it went. I joined this group because lately I’ve become interested in what appears to be a subculture, perhaps even larger than that, of straight or mostly straight identifying guys seemingly being pretty active in terms of having a guy or two who’ll blow them, and some guys who even return the favor. I’m 45, and though I’ll admit that the idea has crossed my mind in the past (honestly, who hasn’t thought of it at least a little), I never considered m/m sexual interactions very seriously or for very long. Now that I’m getting older and my wife has lost a lot of interest in sex, getting blown by guys isn't seeming so bad of an option. I seem to be in the boat of countless guys who are in exactly my shoes and who still need to get off and who love a good blowjob, but who don't want to fuck up their marriage with the drama of an affair.
The more I read about the world of “brojobs” the more I want to try it out. I’d definitely be interested in having a situation where I could get BJs on the regular without any of the psychosexual overhang or general drama that I’ve always found with women, but I also find myself thinking that it might be rewarding to have one of more buddies who could hit me up for a BJ when in need. I find this bit surprising about myself because I’m not interested in men sexually (to my knowledge), and I don't even have any interest at looking at all the dicks on this site. And I don't even like having things in my mouth and think that I’d find giving head pretty boring as an activity (it seems pretty repetitive), but what does appeal to me is the idea of helping a buddy out with something that pretty much every guy could use more of, and so many guys end up doing without, which ends up making them pretty miserable people. We’re guys, we’re built to get off pretty much constantly, and not really put any thought or meaning behind it, but often end up getting shamed for being horny beasts who think with our dicks - especially in later life when women aren’t necessarily anywhere near as into it. Helping another guy out with something so basic to being a man, and which doesn't even look that hard, seem like it would be pretty nice.
The idea of getting BJs from someone who really loves it is also pretty enticing to me. I've had a few women who really seemed to love regularly sucking a load out of me because they really loved sucking cock and they loved making me happy, and those women had some pretty good technique and passion for the job because they really wanted to be there. My experience with most women, however, has been kind of pro forma. They gave BJs as a small part of sex not as a complete act in itself, and their passion for it and skill was middling to shit. Blowjobs can be AWESOME and I’d imagine that if a guy is blowing you, it’s not because he’s looking for something else, it’s because he really wants to suck cock. I’d definitely be interested in seeing what kinds of advanced skills are on offer out there.
Let me say that I in no way want this to become a flame war, especially with this being my first post (long time listener, first time caller). There seem to be a band of guys on this site, just like in the real world, who have appointed themselves arbiter of all things and cast iron judgement on absolutist divisions between what they find to be straight behavior and gay behavior. I think that’s ridiculous. Those are the kinds of guys who, recent studies show, don't recycle because they worry that it might make them look gay. People with that level of insecurity and rigidness of thought, well, I’m genuinely not interested in what they have to say. If you can look at and talk about cocks no end, but consider yourself completely straight, you can certainly get a BJ from a guy and be straight.
Part of the reason I can see no problem with a straight identifying guy getting a BJ from a guy is because guys have been using everything and anything to get off since the the dawn of time and aren’t actually sexually interested in melons, for example. Lots of teenage boys have put peanut butter on their dicks just to feel a tongue on their dick but aren’t actually lusting after Fido. But a lot of that isn’t the point for me because I’ve come to see a lot of labels, especially sexual labels as meaningless. A lot of it is all about crutches for insecure or intellectually limited people. Sexual researchers find easy labels ridiculous, and if you know anything about anthropology, you’ll know that a lot of what we rigidly define as straight/masculine behavior today has been all over the board in terms of how it’s been defined by other cultures. More to the point, in cultures where there aren’t really any prohibitions on at least oral m/m sexual relations (like ancient Greece - which I had to learn a fair bit about in school), m/m blowjobs were/are as common as dirt. Most guys got them, and a very large percentage were happy to give them. I’m of the opinion that sex can just be meaningless fun, it’s when you get involved in matters of emotional or even certain levels of physical intimacy that labels might start to come into play a bit.
But that’s all beside the point. So, who’s tried it and how did it work out? The idea of being able to get my needs met in a friendly, light hearted, no-drama situation really appeals to me. I think it would absolutely need to be a situation where I felt 100% comfortable with the other guy in terms of knowing that he had no intentions beyond oral. If I thought for a minute that he might want to go there, or make out, or kiss, or anything other than the directness and simplicity of a BJ, I’d be out. In fact, I wouldn't even want a reciprocal situation. If I want a BJ, I want it to be all about me, so returning the favor would really kill it for me. And if I’m the one doing the blowing, I wouldn't want him getting off on my dick because that would mean that there’s something more to the situation than mere mechanics.
Basically, I’m looking for a very practical situation to get my needs met, and it seems that a TON of guys on this site have nailed this down and are happy in the arrangement, so any advice on positives and pitfalls, or experiences where the reality didn't meet the theory would be appreciated.
Thanks.
The more I read about the world of “brojobs” the more I want to try it out. I’d definitely be interested in having a situation where I could get BJs on the regular without any of the psychosexual overhang or general drama that I’ve always found with women, but I also find myself thinking that it might be rewarding to have one of more buddies who could hit me up for a BJ when in need. I find this bit surprising about myself because I’m not interested in men sexually (to my knowledge), and I don't even have any interest at looking at all the dicks on this site. And I don't even like having things in my mouth and think that I’d find giving head pretty boring as an activity (it seems pretty repetitive), but what does appeal to me is the idea of helping a buddy out with something that pretty much every guy could use more of, and so many guys end up doing without, which ends up making them pretty miserable people. We’re guys, we’re built to get off pretty much constantly, and not really put any thought or meaning behind it, but often end up getting shamed for being horny beasts who think with our dicks - especially in later life when women aren’t necessarily anywhere near as into it. Helping another guy out with something so basic to being a man, and which doesn't even look that hard, seem like it would be pretty nice.
The idea of getting BJs from someone who really loves it is also pretty enticing to me. I've had a few women who really seemed to love regularly sucking a load out of me because they really loved sucking cock and they loved making me happy, and those women had some pretty good technique and passion for the job because they really wanted to be there. My experience with most women, however, has been kind of pro forma. They gave BJs as a small part of sex not as a complete act in itself, and their passion for it and skill was middling to shit. Blowjobs can be AWESOME and I’d imagine that if a guy is blowing you, it’s not because he’s looking for something else, it’s because he really wants to suck cock. I’d definitely be interested in seeing what kinds of advanced skills are on offer out there.
Let me say that I in no way want this to become a flame war, especially with this being my first post (long time listener, first time caller). There seem to be a band of guys on this site, just like in the real world, who have appointed themselves arbiter of all things and cast iron judgement on absolutist divisions between what they find to be straight behavior and gay behavior. I think that’s ridiculous. Those are the kinds of guys who, recent studies show, don't recycle because they worry that it might make them look gay. People with that level of insecurity and rigidness of thought, well, I’m genuinely not interested in what they have to say. If you can look at and talk about cocks no end, but consider yourself completely straight, you can certainly get a BJ from a guy and be straight.
Part of the reason I can see no problem with a straight identifying guy getting a BJ from a guy is because guys have been using everything and anything to get off since the the dawn of time and aren’t actually sexually interested in melons, for example. Lots of teenage boys have put peanut butter on their dicks just to feel a tongue on their dick but aren’t actually lusting after Fido. But a lot of that isn’t the point for me because I’ve come to see a lot of labels, especially sexual labels as meaningless. A lot of it is all about crutches for insecure or intellectually limited people. Sexual researchers find easy labels ridiculous, and if you know anything about anthropology, you’ll know that a lot of what we rigidly define as straight/masculine behavior today has been all over the board in terms of how it’s been defined by other cultures. More to the point, in cultures where there aren’t really any prohibitions on at least oral m/m sexual relations (like ancient Greece - which I had to learn a fair bit about in school), m/m blowjobs were/are as common as dirt. Most guys got them, and a very large percentage were happy to give them. I’m of the opinion that sex can just be meaningless fun, it’s when you get involved in matters of emotional or even certain levels of physical intimacy that labels might start to come into play a bit.
But that’s all beside the point. So, who’s tried it and how did it work out? The idea of being able to get my needs met in a friendly, light hearted, no-drama situation really appeals to me. I think it would absolutely need to be a situation where I felt 100% comfortable with the other guy in terms of knowing that he had no intentions beyond oral. If I thought for a minute that he might want to go there, or make out, or kiss, or anything other than the directness and simplicity of a BJ, I’d be out. In fact, I wouldn't even want a reciprocal situation. If I want a BJ, I want it to be all about me, so returning the favor would really kill it for me. And if I’m the one doing the blowing, I wouldn't want him getting off on my dick because that would mean that there’s something more to the situation than mere mechanics.
Basically, I’m looking for a very practical situation to get my needs met, and it seems that a TON of guys on this site have nailed this down and are happy in the arrangement, so any advice on positives and pitfalls, or experiences where the reality didn't meet the theory would be appreciated.
Thanks.