This year i will be married for 10 years. I got married at 18. We dated for 5 months before getting married. We laid everything of importance on the line on the first few dates and went to premarital counseling. The reason why most relationships dont work is that they arent compatible in the vital things that make or break relationships:
I completely agree with this point you made. The reason most relationships don't work is due to being incompatable in various areas. However, in the example of parenting styles, can you or anyone honestly say that they know exactly how they are going to raise a child THAT early in life? I mean, get married at 20, some are still children themselves.:smile:
figured that if we were on the same page in those areas lets just get married. Nine years and 1 kid later, we dont regret that decision and our marriage gets better and better every year.
And your thoughts on this matter are great. In fact, I offer my congrats that you were able to make the relationship work this long. My argument is just that people who start that young aren't ready to get married because they are still children themselves. It's not everyone, but I still think it's the majority.
Jeff Black, did you read my response in this thread?
No, I completely missed it.
Responding to both now though....:biggrin1:
...and i got married at 18 and i have a great marriage. Its more to do with WHO you pick, not how old you were when you picked them.
No, I disagree with that statement, if I may. I mean, yes... who you pick is an important part of a successful marriage, I can't argue with that. However, the younger you are, the less likely you are to know what you want and what works.
Yes, I am generalizing, I know that. I don't know how to express my thoughts any other way. As I said in the beginning, I am a huge romantic. I love the idea of soulmates and meeting when you are 14, staying together and growing old together. I just don't think many people can honestly say they know exactly what they want in life and love when they are 18.