Do the craiglist or some other online personals thing, anonymously. Meet at a coffee shop or somewhere similar. If he is misrepresenting himself or otherwise creepy, walk out and don't look back.
Repeat until it works.
Ditto this advice. You have to sort thru a lot of Internet BS before you find somebody that's compatible. A lot of "regular" guys like to play with cock: Finding them's hard, but once you have a steady buddy, it can go on for years. (<<< Voice of Experience)
Pointers: Go back and look at ads going back a month or so. Don't bother with guys that post more than once a week. Check adjacent cities, mostly to be sure you aren't dealing with a picture collector.
Decide if you want to answer ads, or place them. Either has its advantages. I prefer ads that are reasonably detailed. If you have requirements, go ahead and use "non negotiable" wording like "must be between 18-35", or "Must send recent pic". Believe me, you will not believe how many guys can not or will not follow directions... always a bad sign.
If you send out a pic of your self, do it in ordinary street cloths, and crop it between your mouth and stomach. Be careful of identifying furniture, backgrounds and tattoos. That's enough to tell if it's interesting.
Meet in a public place for coffee, or drive thru a McDonads and chat in the parking lot. Make sure he knows that this is an inspection and there is no guarantee for sex. Talk to him. Ask questions.
I personally prefer to mess around with bi men. If you do too, talk about females, and ask when the last time he got down with a lady. Make him talk about it. Does his eyes light up when he talks about her breasts? I've discovered way too many gay men trying to pass themselves off as bi, and I've walked out on several encounters because of it.